Would you divorce your husband if he just stood there watching you wanting to commit suicide?

Question

My relationship lasted 6yrs. He is really nice when sober but does not know what he says or do when intoxicated. Out of the 6yrs I waited for him for 2yrs in a folly event he landed to be a convict. Since then I fear his moves and the company he mixes with, he understands that only when sober but when high he brings up issues of freedom. He deems all friends to be brothers but none of his brothers were there in the events of problems. Why I did the suicide was really not to seek his attention but to see how much of compassion he has for me? Recently he claimed he has changed jus 3 days ago, and just because I called him 4 times and smsed him 5 times in a period of 4 hours he claims that I will never trust him. Those calls made were just cause I was bored and wanted to have conversations. Can anyone trust a person in 3 days after bad vibes of 5 years? His adverse reaction was to have a divorce. Now I will just wait for him to give me the papers but I still wonder shld I sign?

Also is there life after divorce and if I know I have invested alot in this relationship financially, emotionally and physically. Will I be able to forget all good and bad memories? And how long will it take for me to recover?

Answer 1

Watching you "wanting" to or trying to? It sounds to me like you are a very selfish person. First you put him in that position to get his attention and try to get him to prove something to you, and now you are on here trying to get our attention and to take your side. I feel sorry for your husband- you sound very selfish and manipulative.

Answer 2

Think of some other games.
Playing committing suicide is the worst choice.
Try some other games.
I guess your husband stood there watching, because he was completely shocked. He didn't know how to respond. He was helpless.
You're a mental-abuser, in a sense.

Answer 3

Are you suicidal? Really? Did he hand you the gun?
If you are truly thinking of this, Run ,don't walk to the suicide prevention group in your area. Get therapy quickly.
This is not something that this post can help. Please call suicide prevention. They are equipped to deal with this issue.

That being said, most suicide threats are just that. Some form of convoluted plea for attention. Short of calling an ambulance what was he supposed to do? Most of us are ill equipped to deal with real suicidal tendencies. That is why suicide hot lines exist. They are equipped to handle this. The people nearest are the least equipped. They are often pulled into the causation for those feelings. Your asking this question here tends to make me believe that this was the plea variety. Get some therapy and do it soon.

Answer 4

Hey idiot why would you give a da*n, your dead. You pose suicide as an alternative to lifes tribulations and you think someone cares what your husband thinks. He should be packed up and out the door by now. Well yeah maybe you should divorce him after all with your mentality your probably going to screw him up anyway.

Answer 5

I did. I had a really good marriage until my mother died. I went into a deep, deep depression and became very very suicidal. When I tried to talk to my husband at the time, he just stared off in to space and made no attempt to talk to me or comfort me, just stared. My love for him died that day and was irretrievable. I tried to make it work after that, but it was a lost cause. I am now engaged to the man who was there for me during that time ( we had been friends for many, many years). My sister just passed away and he has been my rock. I don't know how I could have got tn through it without him. Good luck in whatever you decide to do.

Answer 6

Treasure your life as there are so many beautiful and wonderful things in this world. Just go for a divorce because your husband knew you dared not do it but not divorce. Thus, shown him your true colour of divorce.

Answer 7

it seems to me that you are addressing the wrong issue. why do you want to commit suicide? are you trying to emotionally blackmail a solution to an untenable marriage? you need to get some serious counseling to determine why you feel you are driven to suicidal displays. there is something wrong in the way that you view your life and your own value. we have to generate value from within, no one will ever value you more tan you value yourself. get some professional help.

Answer 8

Maybe you should divorce him for not helping you. If you didnt want to be here you wouldnt. He didnt stop u right? Get rid of him for not being there for u. Im sure u deserve alot more attention then what he gives you. U can make urself happy.

Answer 9

i will!!!

if he can bear to see u going to commit suicide n yet no reaction at all,then he is no longer worth being together with

in fact,if a man is to so disappoint a woman till she wants to commit suicide,he is already not worth still being together with

Answer 10

Empty gestures get little or no response.

You're an attention seeker - grow up !

If I were him - I'd divorce you.