we`ve been together for 6 years,but we seldom see each other.I work here in UK and he`s back home.We talk on phone,text,email everyday.I do try so much to work out this relationship.He had been unfaithful to me during the 3rd year of relationship.It took time before he admitted it.Lately,I`ve heard rumours between him and same girl.I asked him about it,but said it was over...the most painful thing is he admitted that he had showered this woman gifts that he havent done to me.I feel so hurt.I feel he doesnt care about me.This woman had sent a text to me that if she would only take my boyfriend from me,she can have him by all means!It seems she`s very confident to say that.My point is why she had said those things...does she has some basis for saying that?In my situation now,do you think my boyfriend still loves me or even just care for me?What would I do,I really dont want to loose him!
2006-09-04 22:30:00 · 9 answers · asked by LESLIE F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i think u should get rid of him and find someone u know u can trust.don't worry..there's plenty of them! good luck!
2006-09-04 22:43:26 · answer #1 · answered by dee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,it`s easy to say "forget him and find another one"! 6 years of relationship is not that easy to forget.Im wondering how far are you from each other...a town away?...city away..or a country away?A good relationship can not be strongly built if you are too far from each other.How often do you see him...once a week...a month...or twice a year? If you see him,once or twice a year,Im telling you dear,it wont work!Let`s see,you are faithful to him...are you really?For 6 years away from him,have been involved or tried communicating other men?If you did....how much more to a man like him.You said he had been unfaithful to you...and again,it`s the same girl that he had showered lots of gifts! Cant you see it?
Or you are just blinded! I think it`s ok if it`s different women because this can just some fling....for the reason that you`re away....nothing serious...but for godsake,it`s the same woman 3 years ago!Don`t you ever think that he really cares for this woman.The woman was very confident of sending u a msge that she can have your boyfriend....dont you think she has all the alas!
I mean,maybe your boyfriend showed her or had told her that he loves her more than he does to you.IA man doesnt usually verbalizing of breaking up...man usually does things that can make the woman initiate first the break up.
I will suggest you something that can really prove if he loves you...try telling him to cool off for couple of weeks or months or a year.If he wont do anything about this....that means he really doesnt care about you.Tell you what, if a man loves a woman,he would really fight for this no matter what...he wont let you go...if he thinks you are the right one for him,he would do everything to please you!
If he would just say ok...or ok,this is what you want....that means he doesnt love you! Time for you to wake up!There is no such thing in this world as"I can not live with out him".
Look at yourself in a mirror...ask yourself if you deserve to be treated like that.
Move on...walk with head up high...tell yourself that this is not your lost....it`s his!
2006-09-05 00:16:34 · answer #2 · answered by Alan A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe ur bf still loves you but not as much as before when your together.Like others say long distance relationship will not work just easy as that thats why most of it doesn't work.I think the girl has basis on saying that in the first place how can she know ur no. if ur bf did not give to her,not unless one of your relative give to her which i think is impossible.Your very far away from him and he had done to cheat you once he can do it again for as long as he know that you can easily forgive him and you can't do anything about it even you will know cause ur so far away and you have so much trust on him.
You love him so much everybody can understand that but don't you think you should love your self first before loving him.Its hard to forget someone who had been part of your life but you have to think and love yourself,If he really love you he will be faithful to you eventhough your far.Relationship can't work if only one wants it to work.And no matter how you try if your really not meant for each other you wer not meant for each other.
Try to give urself some love.
2006-09-04 22:40:41 · answer #3 · answered by kimy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Dear, Tell Ur boyfriend about the msg tat girl sent to u, see how he reacts to it. If he gets annoyed at it, and says tat the girl might b stupid to say tat, then he loves and is yours.
I feel tat he doesn't care for u. He knows tat u can die for him. and has taken you for granted. This is the greatest mistake girls in love make.
Are u guys married?? If so, be careful and handle the situation tactfully, if not, u r a free bird ! there might b a handsome prince waiting for u to love u more than anyone.
All the best !
2006-09-04 22:38:32 · answer #4 · answered by wachie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him to the curb and get on with your life!. It's very convenient for him that you work and live in another city. He only has to make up an exscuse to the other women at the times you go home to see him or he goes to see you. It's like he has his cake and eats it too!
2006-09-04 22:35:21 · answer #5 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
Im sure u have heard that u deserve better. I want to say that i think u teach people how to treat u and he is not the best thing in your life. He should be. Dont u think? Arnt u his?
2006-09-04 22:41:55 · answer #6 · answered by getsomeglenna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him b/c he doesn't care about U otherwise he won't cheat on U.Just give Ur life to Christ and he will provide a suitable person who will marry,care and love U forever.
2006-09-04 22:55:41 · answer #7 · answered by emma b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Que sera, sera. Deal with it and find someone who can be with you.
2006-09-04 22:55:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, there will be plenty of others.
2006-09-04 22:33:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋