Penis question?

Question

Sometimes my husband's penis will soften during sex. I know why, that's not my question. I worry that it doesn't "feel the same" when this occurs, even though I can't really do anything about it and it's not my problem as far as why it's going soft. He swears it does feel the same and that he doesn't notice that it's gotten softer unless it goes totally limp. How can the tightness not feel different to him when the friction feels different to me? Is this possible?

No, he doesn't watch any porn. If he does, he doesn't watch it here. :0)
Like I said, I know why it goes down. He just says that it doesn't feel any different to him. Sometimes I squeeze it to make sure he can still feel it and I end up squeezing it out. I do try to ignore it because if I ask, it just makes it worse. I guess I am just worrying for nothing; I'm sure he can still feel it (obviously, now that I think of it; if it was not tight it wouldn't squeeze it out). I just wondered how he could say he didn't notice a difference in feeling. I'm sure he notices it going soft. I just meant does the friction feel different to him like it does to me? He says no but I don't see how that's possible.

That's a good point. Diabetes does run in his family. His mother has it. And as far as my reaction during sex... the reason it goes limp sometimes (more in the beginning of our relationship than now) was partly due to the fact that he was intimidated by someone who was enjoying it just as much as he was. I figured, from what I know of him, that it was a mixture of psychological and physiological problems. I will check that diabetes thing out.

Answer 1

You state you know "WHY" his penis loses it's erection. We don't know why

. The cause of his lost erection can also be the cause for his inability to "Feel" the difference. If it is due to Diabetes, this can be why. Diabetes attacks the blood vessels that supply the blood for the erection, and it also attacks the blood supply to the nerves that send the messages to the brain from the head of the penis.

Which will explain the reason he does not "feel" the difference until he has completely lost his erection. . .as he may have difficulty keeping it inside of you at that point.

If he does not mind losing his erection (partially) and your worry is simply that he may not be enjoying it, please take him at his word. The concern you are showing can be construed by him as you not being sexually satisfied and can actually make it more difficult for him to perform.

Tell him that if he ever finds displeasure when making love to you, to let you know so you can both work it out. I doubt this is the case. . .one more thing. . .a recent study has shown that signs of impotence can be an early warning of heart disease. . .so please have him get checked out.

Answer 2

Goodness!

The tightness does feel different to him, he just wont confess it.

Are you sure that he is only making love to you?

Sometimes, at an advanced age, a man's penis will not always 'rise' to the occasion. However, this doesn't sound like your situation.

I do not mean to be ugly, but does he watch a lot of porn?

It is impossible for a man NOT to notice the hardness of himself. It is quite possible for a man to spend himself and then - well - I fear that I have said too much.

Answer 3

ok a million. don't experience bizarre approximately asking those questions that's organic to be curious. 2. while you're squirming on your seat while the subject count of intercourse comes up it must be one it excites you or 2. it must be making you uncomfortable. Its in all probability exhilaration because you're youthful and that i'm guessing a virgin. that's not a bad element merely something to comprehend is there. 3. Pubic hair protects against airborne dirt and dirt and infections 4. i won't be able to rather answer the intercourse question or the orgasim question its no longer undemanding to describe you will comprehend while that's time. good success and you'd be wanting to no longer do something you're no longer waiting for desire this helped.

Answer 4

It happens to me too some time but I always know that its going soft. but understand its against the male's pride to accept that there is some problem and same thing must be happening to your husband. Even I never accept to my wife that its happens to me like your husband. Dont grill him too much on the issue, rather help him to get errection faster again. More you question, more he will be hurt and lose interest. In long run he can avoid having sex with you as you hurt his male ego. On the issue of sex male get hurt too fast. So ignore it and help him to regain his pride.

Answer 5

I'm not sure, but I don't think he's being very truthful. It happens to all guys at one time or another, so me and my husband have that sometimes too. He knows when it's getting softer. Maybe your husband just wants to enjoy himself (and for you to enjoy yourself) for as long as you can before that happens. Anyway, I'd think he'd know his own body, so maybe he just doesn't want to ruin the moment any sooner than it has to be over.

Answer 6

If the penis goes "limp" a man can definitely feel it. It is a part of our body and its tautness/ erectness can be felt.

Answer 7

Its probably your fault, what do you during sex jus sit there like a lump? Get into it, yell and scream, tell him to f you hard, its all psychological.

Answer 8

aged persons and those who has prolonged diabetes will have normal erection but there will not be stiffness.try to control his blood sugar.don't criticize him and make the things worse.

Answer 9

continue while softening , after few minutes it will back in action.

Answer 10

Men don't have what it takes to please women with their penisis anyway. It's useless. Only if you want kids. It's uncomfortable and hurts like hell