i have an friendship plus love relationship to this guy. i did fall in love at the start. i think he did too. only was he not honest and had reason to keep a distance. i found out much later why, but that's not the point here... 2 months ago, i felt unappreciated, i was sad and lovesick because he kept on going out and seeing his friend. i felt not respected anymore. i must say that i knew from the start!! didn't stop me from falling in love :( stupid i know. in all the time (half a year) we texted EVERY day almost! i cared for him. he was like a good friend and lover. he enjoyed too. loved to tease me+sent small little messages all the time. but one day i could no longer handle it +texted him i no longer wanted to wait for him and that he has got no respect 4me. he keeps seeing other girls.. i said that this has been the greatest time since long& i did not regret anything. but that he is losing me and should no longer text me.. (i was really sad to send this, but i felt like his toy)
2006-09-04 21:54:34 · 4 answers · asked by india18 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
unexpectadly, he replied to my loong message, said he was "speechless" and needed an explanation. we texted. we called. we talked. and suddenly everything was forgotten. we kept writing little sweet messages - friendly - and we wanted to meet. then one day, he called and during the call he suddenly said yes, we should meet..soon. then we FIXED a meeing in 2 week's time. after that call we texted and talked on the phone (he almost always called). HE WENT ON LITTLE HOLIDAY with a friend. but suddenly i got no more reply. i asked if this day was ok. but received NO reply. i was sooooo sad. and disappointed. what is going on in this guy's mind? please help???
p.s. even all my friends who know the full story, don't get it and recommend to forget him. but i'm heart-broken. try to forget him. but i want to act like an adult person. obviously he does not know how this works.. i think he is coward and is afraid because since i wanted to quit (because he does not respect me..other girls and
2006-09-04 22:01:33 · update #1
maybe he is afraid of having to talk. and explain himself. it is ok.. i no longer want long talks about the problems..but i want him back and be his friend and more. i'm so sad. want him back, but he seems to avoid me now..i don't know WHY?
2006-09-04 22:04:27 · update #2
As long as you put up with his behavior why should he stop?Only you can stop how you respond to him.It sounds like he has several girls and if one is busy go to the next one.I know at this time you think you love him but he obviously doesn't love you because he keeps cheating.Distance yourself from this guy and eventually you will thank yourself.Remember it is okay to love someone but you must first love yourself.Meaning you don't deserve being treated this way and you owe it to yourself to get out.
2006-09-04 22:29:23 · answer #1 · answered by Katherine B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to be honest I think you have got it completely wrong cause from your story I think the guy did like you just as a friend not more.Or even if he was really interested in being with you and did care for you,you changed all this by putting lots of pressure on him, beside you said that you did fall in love with him and you THINK that he did too and sorry dear but that doesn't mean that he fell for you.Am sorry for being so direct but I want you to wake up from your dream and leave this relationship behind cause it's either you want him as a friend or as a lover and I think you're mixing between these 2 terms.what I would suggest is to look back on what happened between you to and try to judge if he was treating you as a very dear friend or as a gf but pls don't use your heart for this use your brain so you can be fair to yourself and to him.Good luck and don't worry there's lots of cute guys out there.
2006-09-05 05:25:39 · answer #2 · answered by celine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question in the story, you said. " I want to be like an adult" when obviously you are still in the puppy love stage, and are'nt grown up enough to know what lave and relationships are about. My advice is stick to the basics, and find someone you can see, feel, and touch physically, and go from there
2006-09-05 05:20:12 · answer #3 · answered by captcruzer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not worth your time. He's playing with you and it isn't funny! Don't contact him again and if he contacts you, block him. A guy who doesn't respect you isn't one you want to spend another second worrying about. Do whatever it takes but get over him and move on to better things.
2006-09-05 05:06:37 · answer #4 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋