It was my birthday recently and I invited my mother and her friend Anne out for dinner at a restaurant. Also, a married couple I know asked me if it would be ok if they joined us in the celebrations, to which I happily agreed (as more the merrier). When I told Anne about my married couple friends coming along as well she said, "Never mind me, I won't come". I was surprised and I said to her that she must. During the whole evening, Anne hardly said a word. She never spoke to me, my mother nor my married couple friends at the restaurant even though we all tried our best to talk and include Anne. I asked Anne, "Are you ok?" She said, "Fine", but I know she wasn't. A couple of days later, Anne was herself again. Why do you think Anne acted like this? She was keen on coming along for the meal in the first place, but as soon as I mentioned others coming, she changed.
2006-09-04 20:48:59 · 10 answers · asked by Say It Like You Mean It 4 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
At the beginning she was the only non family member to be with you in this very small select group. This made her feel special, really important and then you dropped a bomb on her.
Not your fault and I think everyone would agree with that, but still she was crushed. Was her behavior childish? Absolutely!
But that is the way she is. You will need to remember that for next year because she just may turn your birthday invitation down because of what happened this year.
Jerry
2006-09-04 23:57:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is Anne a shy person? Maybe as she thought that with just the three of you she would be able to join in the conversation and have a good chat. But when she found out that there would be others there and she didn’t know them, perhaps she felt that she would be left out and there would be lots of things said that she wouldn’t be able to participate in.
Maybe you should try talking to her, or what about suggesting that the three of you go out to lunch together
2006-09-04 21:13:37 · answer #2 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anne was having an affair with the married man.
2006-09-04 21:15:34 · answer #3 · answered by Colorado 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... The first explanation that comes to my mind is that she knows something about that married couple that makes her uncomfortable around them.
But it may just be that she wanted you to herself, and wanted to discuss with you (or make you a present that you and your mom would accept, but people who do not know her as well will find inappropriate).
There could be many reasons. Just ask her why she didn't want to come in the first place, but don't pressure her.
Good luck!
2006-09-04 20:59:54 · answer #4 · answered by AlphaOne_ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anne tried to do the right thing and you insisted she came. she may not be comfortable with people she doesn't know for a variety of reasons. next time someone says they don't want to do something respect their choice with grace.
2006-09-04 21:01:00 · answer #5 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She seems to be jealous of your time. Maybe you are her only friend or could be she has romantic ideas about you. You should talk it out with her if she is someone that you mean to have in your life, regardless of the kind of relationship. It's nice to have things in the open.
2006-09-04 21:01:05 · answer #6 · answered by saucylatina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is anne you need to be talkin to hun, not us. There are so many possible explinations. We can only speculate as to why she behaved this way and may come up with completly the wrong answer.
good luck.
2006-09-04 21:27:51 · answer #7 · answered by beanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is not a social person and prefers hang around with one or two people she feels comfortable.....maybe because she didnt know that couple she felt uncomfortable...there are such people who are very shy and dont like opening up when they meet new people....they feel safe only with the people they know...maybe you should just accept her the way she is.
2006-09-05 00:13:15 · answer #8 · answered by asimenia_psycho 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may of been jelouse!
she might of looked forward to having u all to herselve and oly have ur mum there! but when she knew that u had other friends coming she may of felt a lil like she would have to share u on ur special day!
2006-09-05 00:00:19 · answer #9 · answered by princessnicola23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she just wanted u ur mom and her to just be together
2006-09-04 20:59:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋