My boyfriend's ex-girlfriend still calls him on his cellphone and he tells me he doesn't pick it up. He tells me that she is now living in Hawaii. I hate the fact that she calls him still. Her cellphone by the way is still San Diego number. Which is the where he is at right now. His parents live there so he visited them for the labor day weekend. I know I should trust my boyfriend but he hasn't called me since Friday. I text him on Saturday but he didn't text back. I don't like to be calling him all the time because I want to give him some space. But normally he would text me back. Should I worry? How would I talk to him about not him calling me? Plus, before he left we had an argument about his ex-girlfriend calling him all the time. I told him he should change his number if he really cared about my feelings. He said he would.. I just need some feed back on how I should react when he comes back.
2006-09-04 20:27:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you do not trust him, you have no business having a relationship with him, because without trust you have nothing.
Jealousy only intensifies over time and eventually turns to hatred. You need to make up your mind on how secure you are with this relationship. You are not his shadow nor his babysitter, and you will not be in his space 100% of the time. If you cannot accept or trust his word, than this relationship is not for you; for you will always be wondering and worrying - never truly happy.
You need to take some time to evaluate what you really expect out of this relationship, and whether or not your expectations are realistic.
2006-09-04 20:43:50 · answer #1 · answered by ccarter313 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it is...and I really think it is...try to believe in your relationship until you have justification not to. Your boyfriend's ex should not be calling a lot, but he has to be the one to tell her to leave him alone. When he comes back, let him tell you what happened before you ask him a barrage of questions. As for not getting back to you this weekend, you never know what could have happened to make him not call you back right away.
Try to trust until you know for certainty (if ever) that you shouldn't. Your relationship will be the better for it. Good luck!!
2006-09-05 03:35:12 · answer #2 · answered by AFL lover 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be suspicious.
But I've been accused of that...
Like you, I also believe a partner that cares about your feelings - or values them - would make adjustments to their lifestyle to be more accomodating and sensitive.
How you should react...
I can't tell you to be anything that you are not...
but if it were me...I wouldn't say a thing right away.
People that are guilty usually have a way of exposing themselves.
People that are innocent remain so...
By not saying a thing...you allow him to prove himself...or screw himself...and in either case...you don't end up looking jealous or insecure.
Good luck...I will hope for the best.
2006-09-05 04:31:04 · answer #3 · answered by Warrior 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you really love him just try to be cool. Talk to him again about his number being changed and when does he think he will have it done. Give him the ball, let him feel like he's in control. And then in your own mind set a timeframe, if he doesn't have it changed within your timeframe then talk to him. If he has all kinds of excuses then my thought is to move on. Maybe he's not letting go, he may love you both. Maybe he's not sure who he wants. And the worst thing for you is to wait. It's all up to you, guys should never have control over women. We have minds of our own and never, ever let a man take that away from you. Ask me how I learned this lesson.
Good luck hon, and remember, shoulders back, chin up and smile! Never let them see you "glisten".
2006-09-05 03:37:12 · answer #4 · answered by CluelessOne 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound extremely insecure; not to mention incredibly jealous!! You need to grow up girl!! You aren't gonna control him until you are married. He's your boyfriend, not your husband.He's still playing the field! It sounds like he's enjoying himself, too! You don't own him; and you can't control him! If you can't trust him, and you don't feel like he's devoted to only you; you gotta let him go! You are in the trappings of a dysfunctional relationship!! Be care full...it'll only get worse! Fix it now!! Good luck...
2006-09-05 10:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd hit him over the head with a phone when he comes back. Something's up here with this picture. If he didn't want her to call he would tell her or even change his number due to respect to you. And he hasn't called you since what... I'd kick his a**. I think he might be still talking to her
2006-09-05 03:30:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would act cool and start looking for some new interest. one thing is for sure. to make a relationship work, both feelings should be mutual. love and respect are the ingredients. if a guy is over something, he IS over something. the fact that he still answers the call or lets that girl call him, he is not yet over her. move on.. you are wasting ir time.
2006-09-05 03:33:14 · answer #7 · answered by The Punisher 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to him nicely. If he still wouldnt care less or screamed at you, meaning he is guilty. And you wouldnt want to be with someone you could not trust all your life rite?
2006-09-05 03:31:16 · answer #8 · answered by chyi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Time to wake up and smell the coffee. He is most likely cheating on you. Dump the bum and move on with your life.
2006-09-05 03:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by not_prfikt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Worry, no! But you should be concerned. Asked him why he didn't response to your text and no matter what his @ss says don't let it matter because he should have known better. Punish him for his inconsiderate behavior. Punish him hard.
2006-09-05 03:38:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋