Why is it when a boyfriend or husband cheats, the wife or girlfriend always goes for the other woman, why don't they go for the husband.
Yes, I admit the other woman messed up but the husband or boyfriend never should have started anything.
2006-09-04 20:24:14 · 11 answers · asked by Princess 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Alot of times the wife/girlfriend does blame the guy she just doesn't show it to the reast of the world. She wants the world to look at their relationship as good and forgiving. She may think people make mistakes and that can be forgiven. I know it never looks like she blames him and that all is weel but when the are home together alone I'm sure they fight about it and I'm sure she cries about it and lets him know that a part of her does hate him even it the rest of the world never gets to see that moment. There lives will never be the same and a part of her will never trust him no matter what either of them say or do. He could change 100% and she will still wonder. But that is a decsion that she has to make.
As for the othe woman. If she didn't know that he was supposed to be commited then it shouldn't be blamed on her she is a victim as well. BUT if the other woman knows that he is in a relationship then yeah she need to take blame. I think alot of the reason why she takes alot of the heat is because she isn't the one apoligizing and trying to make it right. Alot of times the other women like what she did and doesnt regret it and herself doesnt take responsibility for what she did and that will make the wife/girlfriend mad and that is why she will blame the woman. If you or someone you know is in this situation, try talking to the wife/girlfriend show remorse and regret for what happend, tell her why it happened. Be civil and don''t critisize her for trying to make her marriage or relationship work. Alot of people say they would kick him to the curb and balme him...blah blah blah... If you are the person involved and have to make the decsions it is always different then you say it would be if you have never experienced that before
2006-09-05 07:15:18 · answer #1 · answered by ice_angel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is easier emotionally to blame someone you don't know than to blame the one you love. I feel it is the husband/boyfriend's fault first, and the "other" woman second. The other woman didn't take a vow to honor and cherish (if married), and the boyfriend, if a serious one, shouldn't be cheating. Either way, the wife/girlfriend loses.
2006-09-05 03:29:06 · answer #2 · answered by AFL lover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think the other half should take all the heat because he has the commitment. Women should realize that sometime the other women is being lied to and does not know the man is dating or married. But in the case that she does she deserves the heat too!
2006-09-05 03:28:07 · answer #3 · answered by â?¥ Pawya! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it's easier to blame someone else other than those we care about. Or accept the fact that there may be something missing in themselves.When it comes down to it, if your significant other is unfaithful and doesn't leave you first, they were selfish and had no redeeming qualities as a human being anyway.
2006-09-05 03:29:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree. The other woman is more than likely single and although she was with a married man, it is the married man's fault. I'd kick my man out in a second, no hesitation.
2006-09-05 03:26:16 · answer #5 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Or maybe they themselves drove their b/f or husband away and he found comfort in another woman's arms.... thus being to blame themselves.
2006-09-05 03:27:27 · answer #6 · answered by not_prfikt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
beause they would find it easier to forgive their love one and also to deny their weakness in mantaining the relationship in the first place. It would be easier though not correct.
2006-09-05 03:37:34 · answer #7 · answered by suriaty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easier to blame/hate someone you don't have that emotional connection to.
2006-09-05 03:26:48 · answer #8 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It beats me too!So long as someone has a choice of saying no,there is no excuse.
2006-09-05 03:28:56 · answer #9 · answered by gipsywoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats crazy i was just talking about thaT RIGHT NOW.. I TOTALLY AGREE.
2006-09-05 03:28:34 · answer #10 · answered by mary m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋