You know how the bible says that heteros(str8 ppl) shouldn't have sex with heteros of the same sex? I am as you might say "gay" but I'm a girl stuck in a boy's body(wierd right?) but I can't help myself, it's inborn and not a choice. Many homophobes think it's a choice and it's so retarded.
Anyway if I have sex with a female, wouldn't it be against the bible? because I'm actually a female in a male's body.
Then if I do male sex(which I'm not planning to do for the rest of my life) is it against the bible too or what?
Please give serious answers as this is a serious question. Nothing like gays deserve to die or something.
Appreciate your answers! Thx!
2006-09-04 20:07:55 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I am a born again christian and have been since 11 (I'm 13) and that's why I am so troubled! If I weren't a christian I would be doing anything I wanted right now.
2006-09-04 20:30:48 · update #1
So I am infact a HETEROSEXUAL female stuck in a male's body. So does that make me gay? (i think i repeated this like twice already, sorry!)
2006-09-04 20:36:46 · update #2
Some people suggested professional counselling or something like that. As much as want to, I think it would be really hard as it would definitely cost money which I have to ask from my parents and I haven't told my parents about my "secret" and so I won't be able to ask my parents for money for counselling.
Oh and getting a sex change is definitely not an option for me.
And I am very sure that I am a girl in boy's body not a gay boy. VERY VERY SURE.
2006-09-05 21:29:50 · update #3
God created you as he intended..He doesn't make mistakes.
You are a beautiful soul!God would not want you to do something you would be repulsed by , that would go against your nature and His also.
Trust in that beautiful spirit that he's given you, it will lead you to your heart's desire.
God does not discriminate. .
PS you may want to try to find a website where you could chat with people in your situation....All the best.
2006-09-05 00:50:46 · answer #1 · answered by Ceri 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not weird at all.
I wouldn't worry so much what goes against the Bible. There are hundreds of things which according to the Bible are "wrong" that people do every day. It just seems that the "wrong" things involving homosexuality are much, much, much worse than all those other sins. Apparently. As far as I'm aware, every sin has equal weighting, but it depends who you are asking. Some people overlook some sins but not others. Seems to be a matter of personal opinion to me, but as a wicked person, what would I know?
If you do feel trapped maybe you should look into gender reassignment. Again, the preachy sorts will have a field day giving their opinion on that, so I'll say it now:
I get it! I'm a heathen!
You didn't say how old you are but if you are living a lie and are not comfortable with who you physically are then you should know options are available to you.
Best of luck!
p.s - every single thing people like us do is against the Bible, I'm led to believe, so maybe it's best to seek an alternative for your spiritual guidance.
GAH!!! Now that I know your age, forget everything I said.
And as far as I'm aware Christianity and gender ambiguity DO NOT MIX.
Only the Lord can help you now!!!!
2006-09-04 20:33:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Confused.
You are 13, which makes me think that your Christian faith really springs from your background and not your inner conviction. In any case the Christian stuff seems to be to getting in the way of your personal development, so perhaps you could perhaps put those preconceptions on hold for a while.
As for the conviction of being a woman in a man's body, this is a condition now known as gender identity disorder.
You can find lots of information on the internet.
The "transsexual road map" is useful and you can see where you are on the scale by doing the COGIATI test. The SAGE test is also useful. You can also look up Dr Anne Laurence, who is a leading expert on transsexuality. Try also searching for the Harry Benjamin standards of care. Try googling for these.
I have not transitioned and at my age I don't think I ever will. I do however wish you all the courage and resolve you will need to bring this to a happy end. You seem pretty convinced of your female identity and counselling now by a sympathetic counsellor will save you much misery as you get older.
Unfortunately your body is about to receive a major shot of testostorrone as you move into your teenage years. You will find yourself saddled with all kinds of conflicting feelings and I really hope that you have at least one good friend you can confide in.
All the very best
Augusta
2006-09-05 04:13:17 · answer #3 · answered by Augusta B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with what you've got.
I've got this feeling like some things should have happened differently and I should have been president by now. But they didn't and I'm not, not even remotely close.
If you go through all the steps and get your obvious plumbing and parts changed, then go with what you've got. At that point, a female going after a male is not a problem.
If it happened to me, THEN I would have the problem, because even if I looked female, I would want females, and that would make me lesbian, right?
If you are serious, make the change. They've gotten much better at that these days. Meanwhile, your plumbing says male, so male parts go for female parts. Make that clear in your head and give it a rest.
2006-09-05 08:20:50 · answer #4 · answered by Rabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Odds are you're a transsexual woman. I can see how the orientation part complicates things. My best advice is to seek professional help. To get anything about your gender issues resolved, the pros are the best. PLFAG's website has lists of doctors that specialize in helping transpeople live complete, happy lives. They'll also have resources on how to deal with the spiritual aspects of sexual orientation and gender transition/gender expression. I'm not sure how you'll turn out in the end, but I know that a therapist that specializes in treating GLBT people will be able to help you find the path that's right for you.
http://www.pflag.org/
2006-09-05 01:54:16 · answer #5 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're definitely dealing with a lot of conflicting feelings and thoughts. Personally. I believe that the bible is an outdated, outmoded, mistranslated relic of the past, only defended by stupid, unlearned, untaught people.
What I think you should do is try to go with what you are feeling in your heart and soul, regardless of what your religion says and what you have been taught is right and wrong. You need to figure out how YOU feel about what is right and wrong. Personally, I do not believe in "God" as defined by the bible, but I believe that there is a greater power to the universe, and that greater power has made each of us different and unique for a reason... but it's not our job to understand why we are all different, nor is it our job to say who is right and who is wrong.
If you need someone to talk to about these issues, I'd be happy to, or maybe you can talk to a trusted adult, family doctor, or school counselor. (Though, if you go to a catholic school, I wouldn't talk to a counselor there.)
Good luck. Be safe.
2006-09-05 08:19:50 · answer #6 · answered by pceej 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please talk to a trained psychologist or psychiatrist. Getting answers from people who barely know you or who aren't qualified to give an unbiased answer is going to do you more harm than good. From what you've written, there are two basic issues you are having:
1. Gender identity
2. Religious conflicts
As for the gender identity issue you will have to talk with a psychologist or psychiatrist. There are services out there you can use that are free and completely anonymous.
Religion is a whole different issue that each individual must discover on their own, remember there are many different ways to reach the same destination.
2006-09-05 04:33:46 · answer #7 · answered by Michael 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first person to ask is the Good Lord, if he says don't do something he means it... No you are not the first to sin. A lie and Murder is the same to God, a sin is a sin. God created you and your a Woman, the devil is trying to devour you and thriving off of your weakness, which is your sexuality. You do not deserve to die, but you do deserve to accept Jesus Christ as your Savior, and live a life for God. Read the bible and recieve the knowledge that we are seeking, turn your life to Christ, you will feel 100% more free. Good luck, and may God bless you, and keep you!
2006-09-04 20:27:48 · answer #8 · answered by emmylousmygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby listen to me hard and long, most people who feel the way you do need help (psychology or otherwise) to deal with your feelings. If you indeed do feel this way then start saving up your money cuz you will nedd to get a sex change one day. If not you will go crazy. As long as you love God he will read your heart, the rest is up to him. DOnt worry about what others say, find who you are and be happy with it. God makes no mistakes and we were all made in his image. Remember that if nothing else in my post!
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2016-11-24 22:21:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋