2006-09-04 19:45:26 · 26 answers · asked by Tholie 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Is he still coming around. Asking about you...or has he completely dropped out of your life? Maybe time will help. Your age will factor in here a little bit. There are Single Mothers...everywhere. You have to do a lot of soul searching...if you don't have companionship nor anyone supportive (besides immediate family)...do you really want to have a baby alone? My husband and I would love to have a baby, yet I can't. I had to have a hysterectomy some time ago. So see, there are people like my husband and I who would love to adopt a baby. You have to really think about the support you will have in the next 20 years...it takes that long to raise a child. Contact me in email if you would like. djvanduyne@mchsi.com .....I can be of support.
2006-09-04 19:52:30 · answer #1 · answered by chatterella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's tough to go through this alone. Is there a family member or close friend that you can lean on for support during this pregnancy? It's very tough to go through the emotions alone, and your boyfriend isn't being very considerate of that by putting you through more stress at a time when you should be almost stress-free. You definitely need to find someone steady, like a sister, mother, even father, who could just be there for you to talk to, cry to, etc through this pregnancy.
As for your boyfriend, if he decides that he doesn't want to support the baby by being there, remind him that legally he has to support the baby financially. You can go to any family and children services center nearby, and they can help you file to get child support from him. If they order him t opay it and he doesn't, the state will take it straight out of his paycheck and give it to you. You didn't climb on top of yourself and get pregnant, so he should at least help support the baby financially. If he really doesn't want to be around and doesn't want the baby, be careful about getting him to come back. I mean, it may be okay, but if he doesn't want the baby, then I would be careful about leaving him alone with it. I know that sounds awful, but if he sees it as something that's messing up his life, he won't take care of it and love it the way a father should. I'm not saying he'll physically hurt it, but he may not treat it with the love that a baby deserves.
Also, in response to someone else's remark on this board: husbands can leave just as easily as boyfriends can, so if this man was going to be like this, then it wouldn't have mattered whether you were married or not. It just would have been a whole lot more expensive when you split up. Whether you're marrie dor not, if it's his child, then you are legally entitled to child support. I am happily married, but I don't think that for someone to get pregnant you have to necessarily be married. Sometimes, you think someone is the one for you, and when you get pregnant, thinking they will be with you forever, the show their true colors and split. So don't let anyone tell you you should have been married before you got pregnant. It's not 1950 anymore.
Good Luck with your baby and your (possibly ex-) boyfriend.
2006-09-05 03:29:56 · answer #2 · answered by Angela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm no longer the appropriate at dating yet first think of on the subject of the child your carrying and attempt to stay healthful for the child. I understand you have alot on your plate right understand yet first infant or no longer he must be extra expertise to her thoughts and desires. He has walked out on you at an early degree on your being pregnant who's to assert u enable him lower back in he leaves whilst your 8 months or whilst the child is born i'm hoping you artwork your have your own money reason he does not so appear like a keeper. And if its basically jitters and coping with your temper swings till now any reconcile u adult men ought to truly talk approximately what the two one in each of u choose from one yet another basically remember adult men are in no way a assure
2016-12-18 05:06:11 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oooh lord i have sooo been through this! some men just arent cut out to be alive! really now!
you need to start realizing your own strengths right now and teach yourself that you dont need him and neither does the baby! my daughter has NEVER met her "sperm donor" and hopefully never will.... which is fine with me bc I know that as long as i give her everything she needs thats all that matters. Not to mention i found a fabulous man that has taken her as his own and adopted her ... yes they do exsist however they are few and far between. Good luck and best wishes to you -- and dont forget you are not alone in that endeavour!
2006-09-12 13:58:54 · answer #4 · answered by johnnys_angel_82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry ur not the only single mom out there if he don't want anything to do with u or ur baby then he is not worth it. Don't stress out over it cause it may cause a misscarriage and u will be better off if he was not around at all. IT IS HIS LOSS.
GOOD LUCK
2006-09-10 01:43:54 · answer #5 · answered by doreen h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should move on and don't look back because he the one missing out on a wonderful thing. It will be hard but God doesn't throw anything at you that you can't handle.Good luck and God bless you and if all Else fails make him pay child support.
2006-09-11 16:17:12 · answer #6 · answered by randrnorman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sad to hear this. However, this sort of thing does occur when you chose to have sex outside of marriage.
Do what you need to do. Keep the child and don't consider murder. You may want to consider adoption. However, this isn't the end of the world be strong and allow this situation to make you stronger...
2006-09-11 14:02:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just worry about you and the child you are carrying, either he will come back around once he grows up and takes responsiblity or your strong and you can take care you your baby yourself! Many women do it, though it may be hard it will just make you a stronger person!
2006-09-11 04:05:55 · answer #8 · answered by NIKKI 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you get proper prenatal care and take care of yourself and your baby. Contact a child support help line and find out what you need to do to start child support once your baby is born.
2006-09-04 20:08:45 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would worry about you and that beautiful baby inside of you. Allowing yourself to be stressed and upset over that idiot is not good for you and baby. I went through my first two pregnancies alone, it is scary and lonley but worth it, as opposed to being in a bad relationship. He mey just be freaked out and come around, but you shouldn't bank pon it. Good luck sweetie.
2006-09-11 05:44:15 · answer #10 · answered by priss879 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋