im in a relationship that ive been in for like a yea and eight months, im like twenty or thirty pounds overweight and i tried on a corsette that my bf wants me to have but it didnt fit and he told me that it used to. now his favourite celeb girls are natalie portman and keira knightly and the memoirs ofa geisha girl.. now earlier today we made a pact to be team mates and be there for each other and make each other feel good bout ourselves. and i was sitting there at our bed saying how could you be attracted to me i have a wide flat *** a fat stomach and a birthmark on my body with thunder thighs instead of consoling me he said he was too tired to deal with more of my issues, my other issues today were that my family abanodoned me., do you think i have the right to be upset about him not keeping up his end of the pact. i know im being sensitive but all i wanted was a hugan dfor him to tellme i was pretty, is that so friggin much to ask? please no joke answers i will chose a best answer
2006-09-04 19:44:24 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no, he cant run behind u everyminute and tell u how he find u attractive, no man wants that! Maybe those actress do look better than u but they are not a reality and every one can have crushes that doesnt means he doesnt want u!
2006-09-04 19:47:59 · answer #1 · answered by lisathebestone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
May be you just caught him at the wrong time. he can admire the celebs all he wants but he knows he can never have them! the fact that he is with you means he loves you and has accepted you the way you are.Losing weight is not easy but work on oyurself, go to the gym e.tc but most importantly, feel good about yourself! love begins with oneself before it can be spread.If u keep thinking the worst for yourself, what about the other ppl? Every morning when u wake up, look in the mirror n tell yourself you are fearfully and wonderfully made! tell yourself you are beautiful, the others will have no choice but to think you are or get used to the idea. dont be at anyone's mercy! No matter how many times yo dude will tell u u are pretty, u wont feel it coz u dont think so! it has to start with u!
One more thing, stop hosting those pity parties coz galfriend u only live once, enjoy life! am overweight too and i stopped crying about it.Am so full of life alot of ppl admire that.forget the celebs, they aint real, but you are!
2006-09-04 20:07:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably being overloaded. It's one thing to be there for each other, it's another to talk about nothing but problems. It does get tiresome to the other person.
It doesn't mean that he loves you less or that he doesnt want to keep up his end of the deal. It's just that you have to put yourself in his shoes. Would you be all excited to hang out with someone who was complaining all the time?
Fishing for compliments by putting yourself down is not the best approach to getting someone to tell you you're pretty. It just makes you look like you have no confidence in yourself. He obviously is attracted to you or he wouldnt be with you.
You ought to just buy the corset one size up and strut your stuff. Trust me, you may not be feeling your best but wear that corset in front of him and he won't be sitting there thinking about your flat ***, fat stomach, your birthmark or your thunder thighs. He'll be thinking about how sexy you look and how great it is that you're fulfilling a fantasy of his.
2006-09-04 20:02:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you do not feel good about yourself, do you think it is really realistic to make a pact to have someone else try to make you feel better about yourself? I have learned that the only person I feel I can really trust 100% of the time is me, and even let myself down. Don't be to hard on him. I appreciate your honesty about yourself and your life but even if you hadn't been abandoned you would still have this issue. Just keep believing in yourself.
2006-09-04 19:51:55 · answer #4 · answered by Dude 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
intresting i understand where u are comming from but even tho u guys made a path dont u think that u should start a diet i mean if u really love your man and want to keep him try to please him now dont get me wrong u are not the only one who should be doing the pleasing he whould be there with u every step of the way and if he cant kepp his promises i think u should reconsider him it will be hard but a relation ship is based on trust and well it u cant even trust him to keep a path like that what ealse can u trust him with.i wish u luck
2006-09-04 19:53:25 · answer #5 · answered by kain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read it all. I'm not being smart. I counciled for years and am licensed now inmy stae and I am telling you I have talked to people who talked just like you are writting and I refered these people for help with a shrink. I am not sure what your exact diagnosis is but it is definately a good idea for you to go to a mental health clinic and check it out. What does it matter whose side of your situation anyone out here in cyberspace is on, it is only your side we are hearing.
2006-09-04 19:52:53 · answer #6 · answered by icheeknows 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nicely, I even have in no way honestly made a "p.c.." w/ God... he's not that way! we are sinners via nature... yet I, as you look to , believe that God grew to become into with you- saved or not- and he did keep your mom from injury! you nonetheless have time to maintain your "good deal"... actually, it is the reason you're possibly asking others enter- so which you will acquire some proclamation to attain the reality which you're able to offer your all and attempt your maximum suitable to stay for God- for he's there for you! i'm hoping you income encouragement and faith to proceed on your direction along with his observe as your armor! sturdy success... could God bless!
2016-10-01 08:07:17 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not trying to be mean but from what you said it sounds like you whine and complain alot about your less than perfect body.If he is still there what's the problem?You are the only one who can do anything about your body.One thing you need to do is quit complaining to your boyfriend about your body just to get affection.It could run him off.
2006-09-04 20:37:15 · answer #8 · answered by Katherine B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but that is to much to ask. It has been my experience that men do not like needy women, and you. I'm sorry to say, are to dependant on a man to make you feel better about yourself.
If you think your fat, do something about it, stop your whining about it. That makes you sound like a whine a s s.
2006-09-04 20:06:46 · answer #9 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your in a relationship or marriage a pact should never have to be made. All these things should already be in place! Otherwise whats the purpose of a relationship or marriage, SEX? You both should be there for one another for all things!
2006-09-04 19:49:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋