we have been together for a while and he really wants kids but he hasn't took the proper steps to do so. he's 29 and he has never been married and i am 19, can someone help me?
2006-09-04 19:42:08 · 27 answers · asked by pisces_3_11_87 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Next time u buy the protection and put a pinhole in it. Ok that's not right. Maybe its for the better that u not have a child with someone who's not interested in having one. There's enough single parents out here struggling. )O
2006-09-07 20:37:01 · answer #1 · answered by Tru 2 Myself 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 19 I was pregant with 2nd child. As a nurse I would advise you Look carefully at your situation. Is this someone who, rather you decide to be with the rest of your life, you could allow to be in your child's life for the rest of their's? I know there is a big difference in 19 and 29. And although you do not beleive it now there are alot of things you are going to lern between now and then. You just have to decide if You have to decide will learn anything later in life that will benefit your child more than you could offer now. Think about it!!!!
2006-09-05 03:01:41 · answer #2 · answered by kennedy4me2 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you shouldn't have a baby until you are married. Second You are a little young for him. That is a mistake. Y'all are at two different times in your life. Third you shouldn't have a baby until you have a stable job and great insurance. What would you do if you had a baby four months early and your baby was in the NICU for six months how would you pay for that. Fourth if he doesn't want a baby then he will leave you once your pregnant.
But if your stupid and really want to get pregnant which is not wise yet poke holes in the condom.
2006-09-05 02:55:37 · answer #3 · answered by jess 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When you say "proper steps", I am assuming you mean financially. You don't want to hear this, but I would suggest you take a couple years to educate yourself, start a career, and save some money. Then you will have taken the proper steps to prepare for a child. Hopefully, he will do the same. You have your entire life ahead of you. Do yourself and any future children a favor...plan ahead and be prepared.
2006-09-05 02:49:59 · answer #4 · answered by Carole 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are having every right to have a baby.Mother name is a unique thing in this world.A mothers joy has no boudaries after giving birth to a child. You should create an healthy atmosphere to your boyfriend.You shoud use aromas or fragrances in your home that can make your boyfriend to have sex with you. A smell of flowers & fragrances in your bedroom is a good thing. You should have good dress sense. Try to do some shopping with your boy friend like try to buy sexy outfits & branded but short nighties . Like take him to Victoria secrets buy latest Bra's & panties. Take my word he will definately get attracted to you.The results of you having baby will be realised.
2006-09-05 12:45:23 · answer #5 · answered by Chandra Reddy C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babies come from heaven.
If you are 19 and he is 29 there is a gap. But if you can bring the gap between your genitals and have some fun during the green days, there is a good chance you can get pregnant. If your boy friend is not interested in that fun get involved with someone little more interested in sex and fun.
2006-09-05 02:54:02 · answer #6 · answered by Rammohan 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
sweetie having a baby at your age is surly not the right thing to do your only 19 and he's 29 how do you really know that he really wants to have a baby or do you even know if he's not just using you for sex so try hard go and educate your self and stop being a fool for that man.
2006-09-08 16:55:42 · answer #7 · answered by fulllipsandbighips 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That part's easy. Getting him to raise it and care for you both unconditionally is the hard part. In fact ... just to be sure there's not another bastard child like myself brought into the world, try getting him to marry you FIRST with out being pregnant.
My mother was your age when her boyfriend of one and a half years swore he loved her, wanted children, and planned to stay with her forever. All I ever met was a child support check.
Funny thing about guys.... We aren't all as great as we seem. Make him prove his love and respect for YOU. If he really wants kids (with you), this SHOULD be easy!
After the " I DO " have lots of hot, wild, unbridled,sweaty, unprotected SEX!!!
2006-09-05 21:03:47 · answer #8 · answered by prada guy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby is a big decision in any relationship. Talk to him and really listen to what he has to say, because if this is not something that you both really want then the baby is the one that is going to suffer the most.
2006-09-05 07:15:11 · answer #9 · answered by south heart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do YOU really want a baby at 19??? its a big challenge. it is not just all fun and games. its constant crying and changing nappies. it is a full time job you cant just make a baby happy then walk away and leave it they literally need constant attention to keep them happy. It's really tough. My friend is 17 and has just had a baby and although she is a good mother she is struggling a lot. its so exhausting and she looks like ****!
2006-09-05 02:45:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋