Hi. i am 20 going to leave my house as i can't live with my mum who i can't get along.. i talk to my dad and agreed forMe to leave cause he know how I am suffering. But I am planning to move with my boyfriend which my father will sure disagree so wat can I do so that my dad won’t fine out. My father say he need to know the house I am going to stay but I don’t wish to do tat cause he may find out. Wat pranks can I do to show him I am staying alone or with a friend. Later how can I move out with my bf.. we want to stay together. Pls help me….. I need peace I don’t want my dad to find out tat I would be staying with my bf. We are to move on October 1. how can i trick them and show i staying with a friend. like show them the apartment and maybe a week later they need to see again and how to arrange?
2006-09-04 19:17:49 · 15 answers · asked by Sanjana G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you think you are old enough to move in with a boyfriend, then I think you are old enough to tell your father the truth. While his opinion of your character will certainly hurt you, isn't it a real understanding of the person you are? Don't sneak, don't lie ... be an adult and make a very hard decision and communicate this decision to your father. It will be best in the long run.
2006-09-04 19:29:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if your 20, then your an adult. Your Father might not approve of your living arrangements but honestly... there isn't much he can do to stop you.
You said you need peace. I don't see how living with such a huge LIE could ever give you peace! Then to try and trick them into believing that lie...your just asking for more heartache and trouble than its worth.
Your Father has only your best interest at heart and is trying to protect you from possibly the biggest mistake you can make at this point in your life.
So... my advice to you is this: if you really MUST move in with your bf, at least give your dad the respect he deserves and be honest with him. If nothing else you owe him that after he has raised you & supposrted you for the past 20 years! But if you could figure out a way to postpone moving in with the bf, and still be a couple... that would be the best for everyone involved.
It is amazing how even the simplest little white lie has a way of snowballing and becoming bigger and bigger until finally, at the worst time possible, it backfires! Trust & Believe... they ALWAYS catch up with ya! Good Luck
2006-09-05 03:01:15 · answer #2 · answered by AlmostSpoiled 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tickery and pranks to pull over a lie? I can see why your father would be upset. Honey, you are 20 years old. It's time to grow up and stop acting like you are 15. Why not just try being honest with dad? Unless dad is paying for your move? And if that's the case, start supporting yourself for a change, then you wouldn't have to worry about mom and dad issues.
2006-09-05 02:41:41 · answer #3 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing i can tell you is dont lie to them... that will only make matters worse.... Just tell them the truth, things may be a little rough for a little while, but in the end everything will work out... I went throught the same kind of thing... but i know from experience that it will hurt them more and they will be more upset if you lie to them rather than just telling them the truth and working things out from there.... If your dad doesnt approve of your boyfriend, than you need to let your dad know how you feel about him and that he is not a bad guy... Just let your dad know you want him to get to know your boyfriend... when your dad knows more about him, he may have less of a problem with you moving in with him.....
2006-09-05 02:52:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Dad is your Best Friend right now.
You lie to him because thats what it will be is lying to him.
He probably won't ever help again.
You need to be honest.
Why can't you and your BF just go get married by the Justice of the peace or whatever they call it there.( I take it your not from the states since you said "my MUM".
Whatever you do, just be honest with your Dad.
2006-09-05 02:29:40 · answer #5 · answered by iwish40 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better take ur own decesion. As u are 20, u dont have any problem to go out and u and ur Bf can do job for ur surviving. U can do one thing that u please go far away from ur city and tell ur dad that u dont want to meet anyone for at least 2 years. Maybe ur dad will agree for that. I think u can do this.
Wish u all the best
2006-09-05 02:25:58 · answer #6 · answered by sweet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no tricks . talk to dad frankly and move out the way you want.telling a lie now will lead to strained relationship and you may lose the support of your dad also
2006-09-05 02:23:42 · answer #7 · answered by trishul60 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first , to angie- thats your religion not necessarily this persons. You believe in sin, i do to, but who are we to say it exists. I suggest shuttin it.
Ya know, it bothers me when people live under this umbrella of who people think they are. If you think its fine for u to live with ur bf, do it, and tell ur dad that- ur an adult and you have the right to be who you want. If you have different standards and know in your heart that you shouldnt - then dont.
just be you and be proud and happy
2006-09-05 02:53:18 · answer #8 · answered by manty1311 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join the military!
Free room, 3 meals a day, pay with 30 day vacation every year.
Continue schooling at Uncle Sugars expense!
Travel and see the world!
2006-09-05 02:25:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
get on the pill.....
regardless of what you do... they will find out.... you may get away with it for a few hours, days, weeks... months.. probably not months... any way..
You want to be on your own and be an adult, plan on handling the responsiblities like an adult and that includes NO CHILDISH GAMES.... other wise stay home..
2006-09-05 02:23:30 · answer #10 · answered by Maken trax 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋