How do I move on from a group of friends that was everything?

Question

I moved to a new area last year for school, and met a bunch of people right off the bat. Not knowing anyone, i embraced their friendship. But as the year passed, I found that i was always going to them trying to do stuff, I'd be calling them, not them to me. Conversation always seemed so forced, and they found more and more excuses not to hang out. A summer passed, now, and we're all back. I took that time to think about that past year, and I'm pretty pissed about it. I reasoned that if they didn't want to take the trouble to call, or anything, they probably weren't that great of friends to begin with, and i have broken off contact save for saying hi when passing. Now I don't make plans, i don't call, i don't really want to go through another year of false friendship, but I'm miserable and isolated. I still can't go drinking, thus the bar scene is cut off, and am really finding it difficult to meet people through lecture classes. Should I keep moving on this way, or go back to them?

Answer 1

Friendship is really wonderful and it is give and take, not a one way street. Let those other "friends" go. They were doing a lot of taking and hardly any giving.

There are various ways you can meet people that would develop into friendship. The best way is finding common ground that you share like the same interest in sports, movies, camping... be active in your various hobbies and you will be able to meet some people.

Very important: join a good Bible based Church. The Love of God transcends all boundaries.

Answer 2

Find yourself another group of friends.