me and my wife seperated in April due to certain things and I got my own place but since then she mentions she loves me and cares for me and mentions us getting back together at first I thought it would be a good move but it feels like she only mentions things like this when the money is low and when she has her own money she does not seem to mention anything apart from her ex that she has a child with too, she mentions regular us moving away together to make a fresh start then I get application forms for housing sent to me ... is it just me or am I being taken for a ride,
2006-09-04 19:08:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It may be that she does want this to work out between the both of you, when she gets low and vulnerable she may just express it more to you. I would give it a while longer if I were you and it will also test the strength of love she has for you. I hope all works out well for you
2006-09-04 19:14:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is still very early in your separation and it takes a while for the emotions to be clear. I'm sure sometimes you both wish things could be the way they were, but you need to focus on the reasons why you aren't together. Is getting back together going to solve the problems you had? Probably not. If you and her are both interested truly in working things out you need to realize and address the issue that made you separate.
It does sound like she wants the perfect solution...to start a new life. Sadly, that cannot happen. You can't forget all the things that have happened and the situations that caused you to separate in the first place. Those things will always be in your mind and unresolved until you both deal with them. Moving away is not the solution, it's just running away and not facing issues that are really important to deal with.
I think she is looking for an easy fix to a complicated problem...and there really is no easy fix to any relationship problem. I would just use the time apart to realize what you want in life, whether that includes her or not. Focus on YOU. What do you want?
2006-09-04 19:35:28 · answer #2 · answered by september c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're being taken for a ride ... stop the bus and get off quick!
She's only after one thing ... and that isn't your skills in the boudoir! Do her eyes change to dollar signs when she wants you to move back in?
Steer well clear and find another woman.
2006-09-04 22:18:44 · answer #3 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents were the same my mum is a gold digging ***** and sorry to say but she sounds the same....did ur ex wife always depend on u when u were together? when she clicked her fingers did u come running? and i would suggest not to go back to her she dosent seem like a very nice person
2006-09-04 19:13:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her that you have broken up and she should be ready to move on and take on her own life just like you have. You could even help her find a new relationship if you'd like.
2006-09-04 19:11:08 · answer #5 · answered by jjc92787 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your having some doubts with your exes intentions and sincerity, i would say trust your feelings and your common sense-she is obviously a user and as you understand this fact--dont let her pull you into her dramas-----sorry but she sounds like bad news to me (my little brother had the same problem with an ex of his)-in his case she used their kids to manipulate him-----release her in your heart/ and find somebody else to love--youll feel better right away:)
2006-09-04 19:12:47 · answer #6 · answered by darkangel1111 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what it sounds like to me. Sorry. Good luck in the future.
2006-09-04 19:11:03 · answer #7 · answered by sweet.pjs1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no don't do it you are moving on stay that way all you could spend the rest off your life in circles..
2006-09-04 19:32:24 · answer #8 · answered by skye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This all sounds very over-whelming and confusing.
2006-09-04 19:10:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
help her find a new relationship, jjc92787, is that your final answer.. ..that's a good answer except.,,,
who wants someone like that?
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2006-09-04 19:14:56 · answer #10 · answered by DM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋