my girlfriend of 2 years just recently lost alot of weight and she is looking real good...but the only problem is...i can't even get a phone call from her now, and it so hard for me to get in contact with her everytime i call she never pick up...i even went by her house still no answer..so i'm starting to think she dumped me...and i believe its all due to her weight loss...she was not like this at first so what's the problem now...i'm so angry and hurt cause i feel she owe's me an explanation...so my question is should i just walk away from all of this...or should i keep trying to reach her??
2006-09-04 18:49:51 · 15 answers · asked by david f 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Move on....
2006-09-04 19:14:35 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would take a look at the past 2 years. Is it normal for her to start ignoring you for random reasons? Do you often wonder if she's doing this on purpose? If you feel that, thus far, this relationship has been a true partnership and she hasn't treated you badly in the past, I would try to contact her for at least awhile--maybe some emergency has happened with her family or something.
However, don't try too hard anymore. It may or may not be because of her weight loss that she is becoming distant, but the ball is in her court if there isn't an emergency reason. You may even want to write her a letter and stick it in her mailbox or on her front door, talking about how you are worried about her and your relationship. Be honest in it. If you still don't get a response from her, I think it is safe to assume that things are over and you can move on knowing that you tried.
Good luck!
2006-09-05 01:56:02 · answer #2 · answered by Esma 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can't say why she is acting the way she is, because I don't know all of the details involved, but I would tell you to leave her a message on her answering machine or voicemail telling her to call you that you want to talk to her. Honestly it sounds like she did dump you, which in my opinion is pretty shallow, so you are better off without her. But I would still leave a message telling her you want to know why she hasn't returned your calls. Even go so far as to mention that you believe she has dumped you due to her behavior, and that you just wanted to know why, and make sure it was really the case and not some family emergency or something that had been keeping her away.
2006-09-05 01:55:28 · answer #3 · answered by naravyn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should walk away if you try to talk to her and no answer that much really nuthing you can do but walk away as hard as it can be leave her alone and maybe she will come to you sooner or later! what I'm saying don't make your self suffer for some one else that leaves that causes stress and stress is a killer! just stay single get your mind together and then date other people when you feel your over her because bringing your past in a new relationship is very bad i know from experience point is don't drive your self crazy some things just wasn't meant to be!
2006-09-05 02:08:06 · answer #4 · answered by getagrip_25301 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long has she been ...not answering? She could just be in a rough stressful patch and wants to get away from everything. If it's been more than a month, though, it's probably a lost cause. If that's the case, sorry she dumped you so harshly.
2006-09-05 01:52:37 · answer #5 · answered by Julie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for you.It's apparent that this new found body is gaining a lot of attention and her self-esteem has skyrocketed.Unfortunately,she thinks that she can do a better than you.In the long run she will find out what a dummy she is and realize that she had the perfect man,someone who loved her through thick and thin.I say let her be.
2006-09-05 01:57:53 · answer #6 · answered by ej 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
coming from a girl most likely she wants to move on and see other people . now that she lost the weight and looks really good she had other guys after her and she likes the attention that she is getting. talk to her friends maybe they can tell you whats up with her. if not then move on you dont need someone like her u can do better
2006-09-05 01:55:05 · answer #7 · answered by ice_princess 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think u knou the answer to that already, u should dump her and never take her back!!!! she deosn't deserve u cause u loved her for who she was and know she has changed, i think cause she has lost weight she has more confidance about herself i think when she was fat no one was intrested in her, and know she has lost the weight she wants something more out of life, unfortunately chicks get big heads when they look the way they want to, dnt waste ur time running after her u worth more than that!!! dnt feel ****, what comes around goes around.
2006-09-05 02:02:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
some people think just because they look good or something they are better than everybody else, they need to realize that they once were fat and ugly, yes she owes you an explanation, but dont belittle yourself by trying to contact her, its her lose and when she gets fat again, ignore her
2006-09-05 01:53:13 · answer #9 · answered by cindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look men, to be honest with you, she thinks she is all that and some. for sure she got somebody else. this happen to me!. just for get about her ignore her when you see her dont call her i know it will be hard but dont call. when she notice that you dont look for her no more she will look for you. then you ignore her. trust me it will happen like that. there are lot of pretty girls out there lot she is not the only one. but first leave her a voice mail regarding what going on and to call you back, then just wait for her to call you. dont rush i mean dont rush or look for her it will make her feel special. so dont rush!!!!!rush!!!!act like you dont care. later when she get fatter again cause she will! trust me she will know and realize that she has lost a men like you. she will look for you later. then it up to you but i wouldnt take her back. later:jvnightrider
2006-09-05 02:03:07 · answer #10 · answered by jvnightrider 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Walk away... by the sounds of things she has found something better.... sucky i know... and yeah you do deserve an explanation... but doesnt seem like youll get one!
2006-09-05 01:52:57 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋