My mom and dad were divorced when I was 5, after they divorced my dad didn't come around to see me until I was 12 because he and my mom didn't get along. I guess you could say I was a daddy's girl. I'm now 20 and I've realized that I have an empty space in my life, where he belongs. I want that bond with him, again that I had when I was a little girl. But for some reason I can't find the spark again, no matter what I try it's just not there. I know that life is limited and if I don't do something to bond with him I will regret it for the rest of my life. Any suggestions???
2006-09-04 18:36:03 · 6 answers · asked by Willing and forgiving 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Relax. Just invite your dad over for dinner sometimes or invite him to events that interest you both. You need to begin a dialoge around common events like you would with any adult friend. Over time you will get to the deep stuff. Wait until you feel comfortable to bring up past issues or let them go altogether and just enjoy your dad now if he is willing.
Good luck.
2006-09-04 18:44:50 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish that i could help you out the only thing that i can do is warn you my room mate and her dad had the same kind of relationship and now that she is of age he wants to use her just like he did when he came back to see her they talk a little more now than they used to but as far as being close they really arent i mean there is nothing that will replace the time that you and your dad lost no matter what the new relationship brings i know that dads are an important part of life i have one that i wouldnt take the world for but i kbnow that dads with habits like yours are hard to get back into the swing of things with but all you can do is love him unconditionally and hope that he does the same try finding something that you both enjoy and try doing that together maybe that will start the bond if not just sit down and explain to him that you would really like to have a proseperous relationship with him but that it is going to take some help on his part and no matter how hard you try IF this works out it will take time there are alot of years there that he has to try to account for and it is possible that it wont work at all.GOOD LUCK HUN I WISH YOU THE BEST!!!!!!
2006-09-04 19:21:11 · answer #2 · answered by askingandanswering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a dad i'm 39 and now have problem with my daughter i want that bond back as well , patients and be yourself truly speak your mind I hated my daughers mom but never missed a day my daughter , take the time to be with him go to a ball game or a park or just have coffee don't just hit with deep emotion let the coversation evolve into something more , make your point and let him know how you feel now and then howmuch he means to you . Remember Love conquers all good luck to you
2006-09-04 18:58:57 · answer #3 · answered by freeby1011 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel it was that way with me and mom growing up. The thought that they weren't there for you is always inthe back of your mind and that creates alot of tention. You need to pray that God will help you with this and that you find that comfort and peace to be with him. Because you are right life is short and he might not be around for ever. Does it seem like he wants you around right now? It may be painful for him because it makes him think of the past and what has happened. The two of you need to spend the day togehter start out going some wher or doing something and then sit down and talk about how you feel and get it out of the way it's like a barrier that needs to be knocked down.
2006-09-04 18:43:38 · answer #4 · answered by Just wondering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you know that its your dad, then just be yourself and be his child. No barriers should be between you two. Communicate. That is the best way. Give enough time to him to understand you and viceversa. Try not to touch the touchy parts and you will make it. Shoot ahead.
2006-09-04 18:49:16 · answer #5 · answered by No Saint 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself with him. You need to create a great bond with him,so strong that not even Hurricane Katrina or the damn Iraqi bombers could screw it up
2006-09-04 18:41:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋