im too shy...'nuff said
2006-09-04 18:22:05 · 18 answers · asked by rick m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I found it best to simply say hi to random people you walk by, or meet. It's easy. "Hi!"... smile. There is no pressure to hold a conversation, or get embarrassed, and nobody will judge you (like trying to approach a random girl to talk to her). Even asking the grocery clerk how their day is going is a start...
It may sound dumb, but you will see how receptive people are to something so simple and it will help you build confidence. After that, try chatting it up with your waiter or waitress. They have to be nice to you if they want a tip. :) You will soon realize it's no big thing.
Good luck!
Oh, and you won't grow out of it... You just need to work on it.
2006-09-04 18:33:04 · answer #1 · answered by onin90 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are too shy? Ok great, a shy person won't dare to admit that they are shy eventhough it's Internet. So, you are not shy! OK?
How to be better ? You can learn to visualize or fantasize the image of a non-shy you speaking in front of thousands of people. Keep that image vividly by adding sound (imaginable) or play music. Everyday, visualize it before you go to sleep 5 mins. Do it for a week, the next time you meet someone, just visualize it again. It likes a tape which had been installed in your minds and it will automaticly play. You will feel comfortable.
More important, the belief you have : "You are shy "will keep you away from crowd all the times. Change your belief by posting more question, uploading your picture here. ok
More talks can be found at http://loveevol.org
2006-09-05 01:28:02 · answer #2 · answered by keoorg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As one who struggles with this very challenge, I'd say the best way to overcome is to just strike up a conversation with the person next to you. It doesn't have to be brilliant. Start by making a comment about the weather, sports games or local events. It doesn't have to be a long conversation. If the other person doesn't respond, it's their problem, not yours. The next person in line, in the elevator or behind the counter are great people to start with. If you're really in bad shape, consider a Dale Carnegie course or your local Toastmasters.
Balance that with some time alone for private reflection and you'll be alright.
2006-09-05 01:30:48 · answer #3 · answered by John K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same prob i had start off slow... like when ur out in public keep ur head up (if u happen to look down more when u walk - like i did lol), and try atually looking at people as you walk by them... and give them a small, quick smile if your glance lasts a little longer then a second.... then if you happen to go to a party or at some event or even in the checkout line if a person near you looks kind or at least not in a bad mood jus smile, nod ur head or say hi... it could lead to a little bit of a conversation before you even realize it! - my fav place to start a conversation is in an elevator when there's jus two of u or so ... small group not alot of pressure... just a little talk while you wait kind of thing :) and sometimes a simple chatroom can help you practice makeing small conversation ..... i wish you the best - hope i helped some! :)
2006-09-05 01:31:47 · answer #4 · answered by xSublimeSorrowx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have the same problem. And you know what it has led me, not having someone ask me out for prom,lol yea i know. and i don't consider myself ugly. So when i asked close friends they said that i seemed like the too shy type so maybe this scared others since they didn't really know me or my reactions. I just try to avoid the "freak who doesnt want to talk to anyone, kind,lol". I guess what we should do is probably not worry so much about how others are going to react if we speak our mind, since we can be found interesting no matter what kind of character we have.
2006-09-05 01:34:18 · answer #5 · answered by pharoh of Nature 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try being in crowded places n try talkin more 2 the kind of people ur shy of.at night b4 goin 2 bed keep thinkin tht ur not shy ,can face any 1 with confideence ths will get in ur subconcious n in the mornin ull feel the diffrnce
might take time 2 b perfectly out of it...n stop thinking ur shy,frgt bout it
might wrk
2006-09-05 01:33:29 · answer #6 · answered by d.ultimate angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a debating class, talk about something your comfortable with talking about. Join a gym or a club were you could meet people and socialize.
Remember that eye contact, smile and positive attitude is keys on making friends. Go to networking meetings at school or work.
2006-09-05 01:26:03 · answer #7 · answered by de_dark_angel71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out into the social world, spend more time with people and stick to the ones you trust that really care about you.
2006-09-05 01:23:52 · answer #8 · answered by DeadxStar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.............BOO!!!.......Hey! How are Ya?!
Social Activity until you love so much to play ball and dance and tell jokes that someday soon you'll be approaching shy people and helping them by being their friend...You know, making sure they get a chance to express themselves. Hope you can find someone with confidence to hang around. Works wonders.
2006-09-05 01:33:22 · answer #9 · answered by frndchps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best way is to pretend you are not shy.
It's not easy but remember that the only one embarrassed is you.
luck
2006-09-05 01:24:01 · answer #10 · answered by wrathofkublakhan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋