I am a black gay guy and want to commit suicide?

Question

I am a black guy that is gay. Do you think this could have an effect on why I am not good in sports anything athletive. I also dont do things an average teenager does such as play video games football. DO you think of me being gay this could have an affect on why I am not good at athletive things

Answer 1

You poor thing...don't kill your self...not everyone is good at sports...have your tried dancing or cheer leading...you have some talents, you just haven't found them...suicide is not the answer to your problem, thank about the people you care about and that care about you,"YOU" will hurt them and not only for a few weeks...they will hurt for a life-time...so be a man and man up and wait it out, you will find your passion for your niche in life!!!

~A Friend

Answer 2

Crap, you're not good at sports because you're not good at sports. We can't all be athletes. Try something else and stop being concerned about one aspect of recreation. No one in my family could catch a ball if our lives depended on it. Stop downing yourself because you're not Michael Jordan. How about playing music? Painting? Drawing? Woodworking? Fixing cars? Acting? Playing chess? Gymnastics? There's so much more out there that doesn't revolvearound sports. Being a black gay man might be a little harder but find out what you're really good at and go for it. Be the best YOU you can be. Being gaY IS difficult while you're in school. Check out GSAs, the gay center, the hotline, PFLAG-- they will all have info on groups that might have some interest to you. You might not be the next famous all player- ut what if you had a knack for high scoring in scrabble, which has national competitions. You just never know. Be good to yourself. Be happy. Find other people who share similar interests and your lack of sports will no longer be an issue. HUGS!!
PS forget the video games- get out there and get a life. : )

Answer 3

Have you thought about finding an LGBT center in your area? If you're in a city, there may be one for teens, too. High school is tough on everybody, tougher on gays in many places. It gets better when you get older, so don't think that what you're going thru now is the way you will always feel.

If you're really bothered about sports, find one that you can do well. Try weight lifting or track or something else. If you're not strong, then work out at home until you get built up a bit. All sports require dedication and hard work. They don't come automatically to anyone, but some have been doing them since they were very young, so they have an edge. But, ya know, sports aren't the only thing out there. Find what you really enjoy and do it. As you get older, you'll find others who share your interests. Hang in there. It does get better.

Answer 4

Firstly, I want to tell you that NOTHING is worth taking your life over. Seek help... talk to a friend, trusted adult, parent/guardian, older sibling, school teacher or counselor, anoyne you think you can trust. You will find that working through these feelings of depression will result in your untimately feeling much stronger and better about yourself.

But to the other part of your question... I am 33 now, but when I was in high school, I had the same kinds of problems as you... not athletic, not interested in video games, none of the traditional "boyish" things of the time. And it certainly didn't help that my older brother was captain of the basketball team, and generally regarded as a stud at school. I also attributed it to the fact that I was gay. Until I met a schoolmate who was "Mr. Studly", football player, star athelete, extremely popular with the girls, etc etc... and it turned out HE was a closet case just like me. We became boyfriends on the down-low, as we both were way too scared to be "out" at the time. (In 1990 things were a lot different for gay kids). But it completely shattered my image of what a gay guy is.

I hope this helps! Good luck, follow your heart, and be careful.

Answer 5

Dear guy

Lots of gay people have a bad self image and low self-esteem. Being gay is tough on people, especially in your teens when everybody is developing their social contacts and so on. Sports? Well a lot of people go on about sports and stuff and I think well that's just for the little boys really, kids who are into pissing contests and stuff.

What I think from reading your message is that you might not be interested in the typical aggressive competition that males engage in. That may have something to do with gayness but it might also be an indication that you are not interested in the male role model. That's nothing to be ashamed of honey. It's just the way you are. It would be nice to hear what you like doing and how you spend your days. Because that would give me a better idea of what kind of person you are.

People facing gender identity/role challenges frequently contemplate suicide because society seems to have no place for them, particularly when the immediate social circle identifies the person as being different and turns upon them.

The important thing is work at things that enrich your life, reach out to people who can help you, and try to develop the talents that you do have. As for sports, keeping fit is fine but having to be best in the class is a problem that's best left to the jocks.

Answer 6

I felt like you when I was 12. I was scared to death of coming out as gay because I was afraid I'd be disowned by friends and family. Well, I officially came out to people just this year; I'm 15 now. Guess what? Now I feel happier, more delighted, and I feel a huge weight's been lifted off my shoulders. Of course I've lost a couple friends, but that's a good thing. Why? I live by this quote, "You don't lose friends, you just find out who the real ones are." The few who stuck with me I know are true under their skin. The ones who left? Well, goodbye. Revealing your true self unmasks the true feelings of others towards you. About the interracial thing. That should not be a problem. There are many white/black straight/gay/lesbian couples, and no one cares. It's 2013, not 1960 when everyone was a racist. Today, racism is outdated. Homophobia will definitely be outdated someday, and you WILL live to see that day. I'm Asian and currently with a White person who I wouldn't trade for anything. You won't believe how many black guys fall for white guys in this wide world. I personally find it adorable :D Trust me when I say this: when you find that special someone, you will stop giving a crap what the world thinks. You might not vividly feel this right now, but TRUST me, others' opinions will not matter a single bit. Even if you don't see it, you will find the love of your life. It's the fact that we can't see into the future that scares us into death; literally in some cases. Don't give up. Please, for the sake of your life. Don't give up. Everyone deserves the right to live, and that shouldn't be taken away just because of some worthless bigoted people. If anyone has to kill themselves in this case, it'd be THEM instead. Please don't take your life away because of some foul-mouthed people. Killing yourself will only make them win.

Answer 7

Through out history there have been plenty of gay athletes. If you go to any gym some of the most buff guys are gay.

Not all black people are good athletes.

Please don't kill your self. Call a suicide hotline. God loves you and has a plan for you. You are loved, you are a child of God.

Learn to play with the cards that you have. You were dealt a hand in life and you were given all you need to succeed. You can't switch hands. Through persistance and diligence you will be able to become a winner.

Good luck and God bless you.

Answer 8

Just because you dont like sports or video games dosent mean its an effect of being gay. There are some straight guys who dont like that stuff either. Dont think that u have to be like everybody else. You are who you are- wether gay or straight- and you are a great person. Good for you that you are open about your sexuality and dont let anyone let you down because you are gay and happen (by chance) to not be interested in those things. Suicide is not the answer. Be who you want to be, live your own life, and anyways- video games arent so good for ur mind anyway
take care

Answer 9

No. That's foolish to think. My boyfriend is black and of course gay and is very atheletic- but I have a straight black friend named Matt with absolutely no homosexual tendancies that could only catch a baseball if you threw it to him from 1 foot away. And take me, I'm white, and I can do a little bit of atheletic stuff. Not much though.

You're first fault is that you're factoring in race. Yeah sure, statistics show that black people are more atheletic. So what? Not ALL of them are. And I mean, really, the fact of the matter is that not all abilities just fall into your lap. Maybe, instead of crying to the heavens because you weren't born with a basketball in your hand, you should try picking up that basketball and practicing until you BECOME good. Abilities are easier to brag about when you earn them. I could care less about the bloke that ran faster than his dad at age three. But the guy that went out and built muscle and cimmited himself to rigourous training to become faster- that's the guy i root for. He's earned it. So quit moping and expecting your abilities to come naturally. Some of them won't but if you really want them you CAN create them. The don't say 'practice makes perfect' for no reason.

Plus, what's with your obsession with atheletic abilities and video gaming abilities?? If you're not going to be a professional baller or gamer- which would be a long shot even if you WERE good at those things because either sport it a hrd one to get noticed in- then there's really nothing to be sad about. Try honing other potential skills. Art- Writing- Design- Hell, why not try making music? There are a few software tools to get you started on that @ freedownloads.com. I even have a few programs if you're interested (have a few friends who are indie musicians). The point is, everybody has something they are good at. Even my cat is good at making me laugh.

Last of all- Suicide? Because you're not good at sports or video games?? If there is a God, and you killed yourself over that- you'd be pretty much on his ****-list. If there isn't, then there's no afterlife, you're wasting the only life you ever get over a really illogical and pointless reason. If you want something to live for, sports and video games are NOT it. You have plenty of time to find things to keep you happy and enjoying life. Start looking in the right places- which obviously for you are not basketball courts and television screens- and you'll be fine.

Oh and if I find out that you killed yourself and I spent all of this time answering your question for nothing, i am going to me majorly pissed, find you in the afterlife, and kick your bootay.

Answer 10

No sweetie, my brother is a big strapping heterosexual guy who is useless at sport, Im a straight girl who HATES shopping but loves to tinker with my car engine.
You are just you, how you are at diferent things has nothing to do with your sexual orientation.
Please please dont try to take your life, I tried it once when I was confused and im so thankfull i failed
Its not the answer
There are some really good answers on here for you, find help now, phone a helpline, look towards the older guys in the gay community for help in accepting yourself
Im sure a lot have gone through the same thing
Carson from Queer Eye for the straight guy was on Oprah the other day talking about how he felt when he realised he was gay, he had a really hard time coming to terms with it, but look at him now.
Please reach out for help sweetie, death is forever.

Answer 11

You don't have to be like anyone except yourself. I realize this is hard during teen years. I wasn't good at the sports and dance like other girls, but later I found out why. I have a muscle disorder. I'm not saying you have anything wrong with you. I am just saying, after a long time, I gained knowledge about myself. If you commit sucide over this...you will miss out on the opportunity to get to know yourself better...as I did. I always say Work With What You've Got. Maximize the talents you do have. As a teen, I wrote peotry and loved words. Now, I write songs and want to be a rapper and comedian. Everything is not clear to you now. The plan for your life has many details. Don't focus on the "don'ts". Figure out what you like to do...what you are good at. I hope I have touched your heart and gave you something to hold on to. I don't want you to commit sucide now or ever. God wants you to discover your talents and use them to do good in this world. If you don't have religion yet, I hope you will seek spiritual guidance. If there's no one else, there's God. Go talk to your oldest relative. They have experience enough to help. They probably are in that group of people who don't deny God. Do something for somebody else. That always makes me feel good. Making a difference to someone else will actually make a difference in your life too! Seek help and determine what you are doing right. Focus on those details. Share that part of yourself with those who need you. I mentioned the oldest person in your family...that person probably needs you too! See how the two of you can brighten each others lives.