you know how people say being gay is a choice you made in life, and also a sin and your going to hell if you dont get your life together. I am gay and I want to change from being gay because I knoe the word and the lord and do not want to go to hell. But I am confused because I dont think I choosed my sexual orreitation. Please help me how could I change from being gay because deep in my heart I am sexually attracted to guys most of the time. Sometimes I feel like comitting suicide because it is so hard for me
2006-09-04 18:10:10 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You can't change from being a homosexual. You can suppress your desires but it'll f uck you up pretty bad and doesn't change who you are. You'd be much better off changing from being a Christian.
2006-09-04 18:15:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
How about not giving up on life and go for broke. Be an advocate for gay rights. Join the Human Rights Campaign and get political. One more gay suicide is just one less person that could have been a leader.
I tell you what, find a person who has died and came back to tell you exactly what happened. Guess what, there aren't, so how can anyone tell you whats going to happen to you when you die. If you're going to hell anyway, then you may as well live out your life the way you want.
2006-09-05 03:31:09 · answer #2 · answered by closetcoon_fan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey I was not to the point of suicide, but i was upset for being gay most of my life. I thought i was born gay until I remembered I was 4 when I formed a crush on the same gender. I also had undiagnosed gender nonconformity. Often teenagers feel the way you do, but if you do not understand why, then you do not remember every thing that happened when you was a child. I just kissed a girl while role playing as a child and became attracted because I enjoyed the kiss, it made me feel loved, and I never second guessed it until later in life, after I forgot what even happened that made me be attracted to the same gender. My brother he was about 4 when an older boy molested him for a while, he did not know being with a boy was not taboo so he formed an attraction on the act and male genitals from his forgotten memory. Yea it messed with his emotions, and after someone told him what he forgot, well it is a start for his healing, He was attracted to opposite sex and he could not understand why he had gay tendacies and drove him angry. Now he is getting counseling to deal with forgotten memories. Now he understands when he was 4 and the other boy befriended him, and he was happy to have a friend and he did not know that he was not suppose to let or like those things until it was stopped. So things happen, sometimes innocently, sometimes not. We do things as children that influence us later. If you feel attracted to same sex, something happened in your child hood and you can not remember. Get some help to remember what happened, You was not born gay. You may have not been able to form attractions on opposite gender because you have allowed yourself top become assumed gay and only think of that. Best luck man. I am still gay, but i love God Almighty and know I do His will, and if the urge of homosexuality comes up, I say help me now Jesus Christ when the urge is not so strong, otherwise i may slip and ask why is it for me to do this as the will of God Almighty, because everything is the will of God Almighty, just not always in the plan of God Almighty.
2006-09-05 20:14:23 · answer #3 · answered by ishelp4 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sexuality should always be about choice. Life is about happiness, and feeling secure in ones self. If someone is not happy by practising a certain lifestyle then obvously, they should seek counselling to work through the reasons why they feel unhappy, and work towards finding ways to make them feel happier. I would recommend to seek counselling if it is making you so unhappy.
Sexuality isnt necessarily on a linear scale with homosexuality down one end and heterosexuality down the other and bisexuality in between, because human beings are very complicated beings.There is often a saying that proclaims to "love the sinner and hate the sin". Which applies to outside people, to the world at large. But if in your personal relationship to God, you believe that He/She loves you for WHO you are, and not for what sexuality you happen to choose, then you will realise that the only hell there is, is where a person isnt happy. Hell was created by human beings and by an institutional religion (which is basically a group of human beings) who declared that they were the "spokespersons of God". Hell was created out of the minds of people who did not believe in the love of God, because the only thing that God is, is Love. God is Love and Understanding and Compassion and Care. God is not Hate, and Hellfire. In the pagan times before Christianity, the God of the Harvest, was teh God Pan, who was a goat God, with hooved feet and horns. When Christianity was being formulated, the older Gods, the Pre-Christian Gods were taken over and turned into beings that were supposed to be "The Devil", meaning that the old Gods of the old people, were bad and wrong, and therefore the people would be frightened enough by the stories to turn away from the old religion and embrace the new one. The concepts of the devil and hell were born out of this time in history when one religion came to dominate and stamp out another. It is in the history books. If a person truely believes in the stories, and is frightened enough by the stories of hell, then of course they are less likely to go against those stories.
http://altreligion.about.com/library/texts/bl_forgerychristianity54.htm
2006-09-05 10:11:59 · answer #4 · answered by Orditz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please don't kill yourelf! If you want to stop being gay pray. Pray to God to give you strength. The act of homesexuality is a sin. You may have thoughts but you don't have to act on them. If you have anyone who is going to stop you from going to heaven then you should separate yourself from them. I too am a gay female I think about God all the time. I think about if I don't change my life I will go to hell. I have tried many times to "stop" being gay. I know that if I want to do it I can. Right now I don't. That may sound ignorant but it is the truth. The only thing I can say to you is pray. God loves the sinner but hates the sin. If you put your faith and trust in Him He can and will see you through. He will never put more on you than you can bear. Just pray to Him and ask for guidance. The fact that you realize that you need to make a change is good. The first step in getting rid of a problem is admitting you have one. Jesus loves you. He is ready and willing to help you all you have to do is accept Him into your heart. I wish you the best. My heart goes out to you. I will pray for you.
2006-09-08 16:17:38 · answer #5 · answered by ImOuThEreUdigg!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My knowledge on the bible probably isn't what it should be but if I recall correctly committing suicide is a sin.
So I'm not sure why you would consider suicide as an option when you stated that you don't want to go to hell for being gay.
Personaly, I do not believe that because one is gay, that they will go to hell. Yes, yes, I know many will disagree.
As far as suicide, well that is never an option. Life is too short and precious and our passing will happen soon enough without us doing something to take it away faster.
My suggestion is that you seek some professional help.
2006-09-05 08:19:50 · answer #6 · answered by dont_you_hate_it_when 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You cannot change yourself.
Why do you want to be a part of a religion that doesn't like you or other gay people.
Cheer up! God created you, God does not make mistakes!
We are born straight or gay. A friend of mine is obsessed with large breasted women. He can't wake up tomorrow and say he no longer is turned on by them, he would be lying to himself.
Homosexuality is the right choice! It is the right choice for homosexuals!
If somebody does not like it, the hell with them.
If your church doesn't like you, find another church!
Be happy, gay is normal as well. Go out and party, feel good about yourself.
Also, I am not gay, but I am giving you the truth here. Why should God care what your sexuality is? Move on and be happy, its your right.
2006-09-05 01:19:12 · answer #7 · answered by TG Special 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
g---1st of all don't consider suicide..it's not an answer to anything. If you are gay...and it sounds like you are..then you have to make some choices...you have to learn how to like yourself..you didn't choose this.. You have every right to be here on this planet at this time sexually attracted to any guy you want. You can believe all the religious zealots..I don't think that a kind and benevolent God would reject you for being gay. God doesn't make mistakes...You cant change from being gay...what you have to change is your attitude toward yourself....If it gets really bad...please call someone..call a help line or a crisis line...those people can really help you. a doctor can really help you..you do not have to feel this way----and you shouldn't.
2006-09-05 01:18:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Religion screws up many people. Find a gay friendly church and just be yourself. There are so many other teachings in the Bible that run contrary to the current US Christian right bigotry against homosexuality. The actual writings have been translated many times, and each time they are influenced by the men doing the translating. Further, the meaning of words change over time. The underlying concepts of peace and love are the important stuff. Don't let one view of spirituality deaden your own spirit. There is no right religion where all others are wrong. Seriously, look for another church.
2006-09-05 01:12:18 · answer #9 · answered by Alex62 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
How many times must we tell you that you are who you are. If you try to change to be acceptable for others, what kind of life would you have. call the gay center, PFLAG, the hotline, any organization that can help you meet gay people your age who are already totally out. I was in a parade today with PFLAG for some high school kids who are out to everybody. It was grand. They formed a GSA in their school (gay straight alliance) and they are strong inside. I didn't know till I was almost 26 and married. What a waste!!
Don't do that to yourwself. Associate with people who are positive and it will make youfeel stronger about yourself.
If you need a religion, let them know and they'll find a gay friendly church for you. Please don't believe everything you're told. None of the people who preach to you can prove nothing- all they do is scare you into feeling badly about yourself.
Remember: Tell them: NO More. Talk to the hand - 'cause I ain't listening. I'm strong. And you can't hurt me anymore.
HUGS for you. I promise it will get easier.
P.S. I'm a lesbian in my 50s and I wouldn't change for all the money in the world.
2006-09-05 02:49:00 · answer #10 · answered by reme_1 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am a lesbian and I am certainly not going to hell. You have been brain washed which is sad. When I first saw your question, my thought was Why would I want to change from being homosexual? I am happy and at peace with myself and my God. I am not destined to hell. I am following my bliss, that which makes me happiest. If you are unhappy only you can change this, and probably not without overcoming the brainwashing you have so obviously been subjected to. And that same brain washing should keep you from doing yourself in since that is also a sin worthy of hell (if you choose to believe such nonsense you might as well believe it all)
2006-09-05 01:54:37 · answer #11 · answered by Silvatungfox 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋