Can a married man have close platonic relationships with a woman ?

Question

I am seeking close relationships with woman. Not casual but not intimate ... But have frank open conversations. Any women out there that have a a relationship like the one I described ?

Thanks for the answers ... and thanks in advance for any future answers ... I am very very close to my wife we are best friends and always will be. I do have close female friends now and my wife knows every one. I have never crossed the line or come close ...I just wanted some opinions on this ...thanks

Answer 1

My husband has a platonic friendship with a womon he used to work with. She comes to our house and spends time with us. They don't see each other outside this perimeter(sp). She is also married and I trust and know my huband well enough to know that they are not having an affair.

Answer 2

I'm "court ordered" separated from my wife and I have a platonic relationship with a woman who provides me with transportation. In return, I help her with chores inside and outside her house.

Without this platonic relationship, I would be dead in the water.

The relationship was intimate on a few occasions last year and earlier this year, but I stopped the intimacy cold turkey and explained that there was no other option but platonic.

So with the right woman, a man can have close platonic relationships with the opposite sex as long as both sides clearly communicate expectations. My parents want me to divorce my wife and marry the platonic friend - which will happen over my dead body. Divorces take too long and are too messy.

Sorry for the vent.... Thank you MiracleBaby for understanding.

Answer 3

I'd have to say no.

This is dangerous territory.

I once had a friend who brought her friends (me and one other girl) too close into their marriage. We became great platonic friends with her husband in the process and ya know what happened?

He hit on me.

My friend is now divorced.

Her ex husband married the other "platonic" friend.

NO WAY.

If you need to talk to someone, talk to your wife.

Now I will make an addendum here and say that this guy was a true scumbag and that not all guys are like that. But, the potential is always there. Anytime you put two people together and an intimate bond forms there is the chance of a transfer of feelings occurring. Or the chance that the friend can develop feelings for your spouse (regardless of if it's a wife's friend or hubby's friend)

My philosophy on it is if you honestly would feel comfortable with your wife doing it, by all means, go for it. But if you wouldn't... then don't.

Answer 4

It feels very nice to get that kind of attention. The truth of the mattris that, the man is married homegirl. Leave it alone, you will avoid a whole lot of guilt later. Being friends is okay, especially if he is away, he might feel like he needs to talk to other than his wife, but put the cards on the table, FRIENDS ONLY! and for your own peace of mind don't take that money, his wife and or children might need it more. Don't quit your job for anything, because you' would never now how things would turn out anyway. You don't want to end up without a job.

Answer 5

Can a woman have a close, platonic relationship with another woman? Or will she become a lesbian? Makes as much sense.

Of course he can. I have several. One of my closest friends is a woman. She's attractive, witty, bright - and I have no romantic interest in her whatsoever. One of my oldest friends is my old high school sweetheart. We're still friends 30 years later.

A wife (or husband) who doesn't trust their spouse to have friendships with the opposite gender is too immature to be married. Or, if they have proof that their mate can't be trusted then they're married to someone too immature.

Answer 6

An intimate platonic relationship? Do u know how contradictory that sounds? The ONLY woman u should be intimate with is your own wife...period! If u have a need to share "intimate" details with another woman other than your wife, then u don't deserve to be married to her.

Bottom line: It's very inappropriate for a married man or woman to have this type of relationship. Casual mutual aquaintances? yes. Intimate "secret" friend? No!

Answer 7

No ....the man or the woman will have an attraction for the other. If the woman does not nurture an attraction to the man, the man will not hover around her too long. His ego wont allow it, he will definitely not want to be relegated to some brother status.

Similarly if the man does not nurture an attraction to the woman, he wont invest in this friendship. To him this friend will be invisible and someone he would have no time for.

If the woman is attracted to the man, she will try her hand to get him. She defnitely will no doubt.

If they are both attracted to each other, they will have an affair or would want to have one. The worst scenario is when the man has an attraction for the woman but the woman does not, but still keeps the guy interested and in the friendzone to eke out other benefits from him. In this case, the man ends up frustruated, his marriage gets to be frustruated and the only one who benefits is the lady friend.

Answer 8

A man shouldn't have close platonic relationships with women - his wife should be closest to him and have his attention. Having female friends is one thing, but why go out looking for them? Pay attention to your wife.

Answer 9

Have you ever seen the movie "When Harry met Sally"? There is a scene where billy crystal says that a man can never be just friends with another woman because he will always want to have sex with her. I believe that 100%. There will always be some little flirtation going on which may or may not lead to something else. Anyway, you should be asking your wife this question, talking it over with her.

Answer 10

I used to have many platonic relationships (no sex, no g/b relationships just normal friendship) but my female friends said "I am ....". Very upsetting and frustrating. So to maintain a good equilibrium I no longer have any close male friends that I contact constantly. It is very lonely road.