Lonley, Suicide, Friends.....What to do???

Question

I'm 14 years old and I go to HighSchool.....My problem is that I don't know if I have any real friends or not....See I don't know how to play football, it's just the rules and stuff I don't get and plus I feel lonley at school and I feel like no one cares about me which I know my family do, but it's hard because I try to act different in order to fit in, but I always end up telling myself i just don't fit in. Should I just end my life or something??? There are days at school which is fun and then there are other days where I feel like people don't care and they just ignore me....Life sucks and I hate it.....

Thank you guys, that really really really helped.....I guess the reason why I started this topic is because this one day at school at P.E. I was playing FLAG FOOTBALL, i didn't know how to play flag football but atleast i tried to play and acted as if I knew what I was doing, my cuzzin was just standing around watching me and the others play and he said "Don't fake it" meaning he thought that I didn't know how to play and that mabey he was calling me stupid or gay or something. That's when I got hella pissed because throught out all my life ive been called a Fag and being Gay which i'm not Gay or anything, but people like calling me that which makes me suicidal.......

Answer 1

I hope these help. Hang in there!

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Teen Help Line 1-800-400-0900 Help Line For Troubled Teens

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Youth Development International 1-800-HIT-HOME (448-4663) Youth Crisis Hotline

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Answer 2

Please don't end your life; it has barely started!! Everyone, and I mean everyone--even the coolest, most together, finest, hipest people have felt the way that you do. Part of it is hormones--honest to God! Those wonderful hormones that change you from a boy to a man, can also mess with your head, your emotions. Wow! I know what you mean about trying to fit in--sometimes it feels like you are the square peg trying to fit into the round hole, doesn't it? Try to stay true to yourself, the good things that you were taught by the family that raised you. You will feel more comfortable than by trying to be someone you're not.

Of course, this is the time to experiment and try on some different personalities, but you don't want to go too far from your basic "self".

Think of the fun days at school. What made them fun? There will be more of them, and you don't want to miss them. And hurting yourself would only bring pain--so very much pain--to those who love you. (If you really feel suicidal, please call a "hot line" or someone to help you through this, please. I care about you!)

I'm an old lady--at least you would think so. I'm 59, and I have two grandchildren that are older than you. But I still remember some of the pain of junior high and high school. Man, it was rough some days! But I know now that if I had worried more about what other people felt, listened to them more, hadn't gone off on so many "I know better than you" tangents, I probably would have had a lot more friends.

Hey! About football...is there an adult male you're close to? Dad? Uncle? Older cousin? Ask them to explain some of the rules. My 19 year old grandson played a couple years in high school, and he still had to have rules clarified for him. In fact, if you watch professional ball you will see that in almost every game there is a call or two that has to be explained to the teams and coaches--they don't know all the rules either.

Good luck, sweetheart. Don't hurt yourself, and KNOW in your heart that things WILL, WILL, WILL get better.

Answer 3

I'm hoping you're not serious, but if you are, just know that high school is not a great way to judge life as a whole. In the grand scheme of things, it's actually pretty insignificant. I finished high school about 5 years ago and there are only a few friends that I still stay in touch with. I know high school can be tough and for a lot of people, it feels like the be all and end all, but once high school is over, you usually don't dwell on it very long. The "cool people" usually just become the regular "joes" that you see everywhere and it's the quiet, shy types that tend to surprise everyone and do something worth while.

Just know, you're not alone. I bet about 50% of the people at your school feel the same way. Just be yourself and you'll find where you fit in. Not everyone needs to play football or run for school council, etc.

Good luck and hang in there.

Answer 4

Dude,,,trust me,,life gets better.Especially after high school when you are an adult,,but it is fun getting there too.In a year or two,,everything will be different,,your teenage years will be a blast.Throughout life,,you will have friends & you will have aquaintances.It takes time to have real friends.Real friends go thru stuff together,,good & bad & you will know who the real friends are when they are there for you thru thick n thin.Learn to be alone.That doesnt mean that you have to always be alone but you will be a stronger person when you know how to "go it" alone.Develope your own interests,,do your own thing.What do you like to do for hobbies?or work?If you really like football,,then there are people that can tell you about it when your not in school.If you dont really like it,,move on to other things.Never give up,,keep trying.A professional starts from step1,,they just don't give up.It'll all pay off,,it always does.You can also learn something everyday from anyone or any situation.Life is a journy & we all basicly travel our own path alone.But then,,we arent really alone,,there are people in the world all around us.You never know who you will meet,,what experiences lie ahead.Just always try to do the right thing & you'll never go wrong.Maybe the other kids feel that they dont fit in either.Yall will out grow that.Try to be friends with the other kids.The cool ones will accept & the heck with the others,,they probably busy doing their own thing,,not nessessarily ignoring you.Life will get better,,thats a guarentee.Count your blessings.I know that sounds corny but its true.Think possitive.negativity creates negative outcome.Be a leader,,not a follower.Good luck.

Answer 5

First, dear child, in this open forum, you never know if a posting is a legitimate one or someone simply trying to start an uproar and to get attention for themselves. I hope that this is not your case. Often times the person claiming to be a young youth in trouble is truly a middle age man, living at home with his mother and has nothing better to do with his time than to pretend to be someone else. If this is the case, grow up and get a life!

Now, if you are truly what you claim to be, high school is such a short period in your life. While it seems to be just everything right now, its not. One day you will be married, have children and a job. There will be bills to pay, pets to take to the vet and a lawn that needs mowed. The last thing on your mind will be if you fit in during your high school days.

~waiting~

Answer 6

I wish that I could tell you life got better and that it was all peaches in cream when you got older, but it's not. But, once you have children of your own, and you will, believe me, you kind of learn to see the point of it all. Then you have someone to love always, and you can try to make their life better than what yours was. The important thing to remember is that you're not the only one who feels like this, a lot of people do. So the next time you see someone who's down and out, (weather they're popular or not), do something to make them feel better, say what you would want to hear if you were feeling the way they were, you'll be suprised how many friends you'll make that way. Don't try to fit in with the best. Try to fit in with people who aren't snobs and don't get off on making other people feel bad. Also, once high schools over it gets sooo much better. Just wait, you will see, I'm not saying you won't have bad times because you probally will, but just try to stay foccused on the positive

Answer 7

That's part of the high school experience. Some days will be great and some will just suck. Just be yourself and you will find other teens who will accept you for who you are. Don't try to change yourself to fit in.

Suicide is NEVER the answer, things always find a way to work themselves out. Just don't sweat the small things and be yourself.

However, if you find that suicide is a common thought going through your mind maybe you should look into going to a therapist to try to correct whatever might be wrong chemically in your body.

Answer 8

Oh, I so feel your pain. I see kids just like you everyday. Honey, suicide is never the answer. It's a permanent solution to a temporary problem. I have a suggestion though, stop trying to fit in. You are banging your head against a wall. You don't need to fit in, you just have to be you. Because you are a great kid and all you need to do is find the path that's right for you. You will find it! I promise you will. Stop trying so hard, just be you and you'll find that friends will be drawn to you! If you continue to feel like you might hurt yourself, please tell someone. You can get the help you need and you have a long happy life ahead of you. You know, there's nothing you can't do if you set your mind to it! Be happy, friendly and caring and believe in yourself and it will all happen for you. Good luck!

Answer 9

Do not do anything to hurt yourself. I know you don't want to and you will probaly jsut ignore me but talk to your parents abot how you feel. I know they seem old and stupid and dont understand but even if they dont they care about you and are your care-providers. Its there job to make sure you are okay, so talk to them about your feelings.

As for you "not fitting in", join another club or activity. Join a school choir, band, chess club, drama club, book club, or something that intrests you. It is the begining of school, and I am sure they are all ofering activities. If you dont like football then joing another sport if you want. If you dont like anything offered at school, check out the local YMCA or other place where there are things to sign up for. There, you can meet people who share what you like to do.

Life sucks....sometimes. It will get beter eventually. You need to hang on and try to make the best out of the bad.

If you do want to join the football team, but dont know how, ask the coach if he can find a way to teach you. If you do learn how, then join the team. You can also ask a parent, relitive, brother, or freind for help.

I hope I have helped you somehow. If you need a friend who understands how suicide might seem like a good option (it isnt though), email me. I will be happy to talk to you.

:)

Answer 10

Life will get better so hang in. You are at an awkward time in your life right now. When you are 20, you will look back at these days and you will be amazed how much you have changed. You don't have to play football to feel good about yourself. Find something you like and stick with it. Don't worry about these other teens ignoring you. It will change and one day none of this will matter.