If you knew about two people having illegal sex, would you report it? Serious Answers?

Question

My sister is 15 and her boyfriend is 19... would it be right of me to report this? I never agreed with this relationship, and they're having sex which is considered statutory... At the same time I don't want to start problems... but her last boyfriend was 17 when she was 14, and I know they had sex and I want her to understand what she is doing is wrong. Her mother (we're half siblings) doesn't care, our father doesn't do anything...

I know that I have no right to interfere but what would you do in this situation when she's not going to listen to anyone. She acts like she's an adult and talks about sex like it's nothing.

I'm honestly not doing this for revenge or anything I just want to know what you would do in this situation...

SERIOUS answers please. Thank you!

Answer 1

Look at it from another perspective. If she was being physically abused, what would you do? Even if no one else cared. Abuse is abuse even if consensual. It's not a matter of having the "right" to interfere but the obligation to protect and defend those who do not yet understand the consequences of their actions. If NO ONE stands up for what is right, then what good are ethics or morals?

Answer 2

I am going to answer this because I am the Mother of a son who at 19 was dating a 15 year old girl. They dated for 2 months before her Mother got mad about something and decided to turn in my son for the same thing. She was also not a virgin so it wasn't like he was forcing her into anything, as a matter of fact, she started the whole thing(not just saying that, he had the emails she was sending to prove it plus a couple of older women who were in his karate class that observed what she would say to him), not just a Mother saying so). Anyway, he ended having to go to jail, then the pen and now has to file as a sex offender and it ruined his life and she was a willing participate. Girls of 15 now days aren't such innocents anymore. The girl wouldn't testify but since it was the age thing it didn't matter. What I'm saying is that unless this guy is mean or hurting her in some way why would you ruin his life just because your sister isn't doing what you say. The day she turns 16 nothing can be done anyway. I'm not saying it is right but I do know what the boy will have to go through and at 19 he still isn't mature either.

Answer 3

I can't see that any good would come out of "reporting" sexual activity of another, unless it involves espionage (the Profumo affair in Britain). It could break up your family. Furthermore, the authorities may well not do anything. The legal age of consent in most jurisdictions is 16. Sexual activity by younger adolescents is normally not prosecuted when the parties are "close in age". The closeness is sometimes specified in law, sometimes not; when it is, two years difference is typical. But if the girl is within a few months of age 16 most prosecutors would refuse the case, knowing that juries would not convict ("jury nullification") I recall a southern case -- Georgia, I think, although I've never been able to retrieve a report of it -- where despite seeing a home video of their sex act, a jury acquitted two 13-year-olds of illicit sex (compromising the morals of each other).

Have a look at the two cases linked below, which had quite different results. In both, the very young girls became pregnant and married their older boyfriends; in the Nebraska case the husband was prosecuted anyway.

(In many, perhaps most, states nonage (age below statutory minimum for marriage) can be waived by a family court judge in cases of pregnancy -- normally on application of the parents.)

If you Google <"age of consent"> you will find quite a lot of material on the Web regarding prosecution.

Answer 4

15 is a little young to be having sex, but if it is consensual, what can you say. Kids are growing up faster these days. Saying that, there is a big difference between 15 and 19, and that is my issue.

So, I would tell this guy to back off or you will report him.

As for your sister, send her a wake up call about the consequences of sex and what casual sex can do to her self image at 15.

Good luck. My daughter is 14.

Answer 5

If her parents don't care it sounds like they aren't providing a lot of things she needs. However, it is not your job to be her parent. I think that it is great that you are trying to talk to her but reporting it would be too far. There isn't a whole lot you can do legally anyway, even if it is illegal. Just hope she is being safe and that she will realize that a guy who is 19 only wants her for one thing.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

You cannot file a case against her boyfriend because the case can only be filed by your sister or your parents under the law. Thus, what you can do is to talk to your sister to change. If not, tell your parents about the problem.

Answer 8

Talk to your guidance counselor at school or something if you are worried, but just remember, just because most places the age is 18, there are places in the US and the rest of the world where the legal age is 13 and even 12, doesn't make it right, but, like I said, I would talk to your guidance counselor at school or something.

Answer 9

I would report it, she's 15, and your sister. You should do what's best for her if her mother and your father aren't going to. Someone needs to take care of her, she isn't doing it. Her mother and your father can be prosecuted for child neglect.

Answer 10

I am inclined to wonder if you are annoyed that she is not following your orders, rather than concerned about her welfare. If you weren't going to help her when she really needed it at the age of 14, why bother now?