My bf of 2 yrs broke up with me because we were not together for some time ... 5 mnths ...he cud not carry out a long distance relation and broke up... he even started feeling for someone else.. i was totally into him and was very difficult to get out of this. i am still not completely over him. hurts a lot :( i wrote earlier here and got some good advices from u guys and felt a lot better. now a week before, he calls up and says he realizes his mistake and wants to see if we can work it out .. i am very disturbed by his behaviour. why do people play games like this with somebody's heart. i want to feel better..please help me
2006-09-04 16:50:20 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are better off without him. Go back two squares and start over.
2006-09-04 16:52:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, man. I feel for you. I know what you're thinking...why not give it another try, right? Well, you never know. And if you think you really love this guy then it's OK to take him back, and you should, as long as this is the last time. It could be that he truly made a mistake, and in that case maybe things will work...? But I say if you do take him back and you start to see a pattern, you need to move on. That's my 2 cents, for what it's worth. I'm sorry. You must feel sh**ty. Whatever you decide, I hope you feel better.
2006-09-04 16:57:21 · answer #2 · answered by Margarita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it's too late. If he had feelings for someone else, and they were strong enough for him to let you go, what happened to them? I'll tell you....she didn't want him. And now he's made a mistake, and is trying to get you back. Well SOO-RRY buddy!
He broke your heart, and there is no way to get over that so quickly. If you take him back now, it'll only be to make yourself feel better. And you'll still have the long distance thing, and how long before he finds yet another girl to feel for? He's obviously looking to meet people. Stand up straight, and say goodbye. You'll feel better sooner than you think.
2006-09-04 16:56:09 · answer #3 · answered by Nikki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you putting yourself through this all of the time? What is done ....leave it done and move on with your life. People play games and that's one thing that isn't healthy. This guy has screwed you over big time and your still questioning what you should do? The answer is very quite simple. Get rid of this dude and go on with your life. I might sound a little harsh but this is for your own benefit. You are just wasting your time. Move on with somebody else that will appreciate you.....NOT USE YOU! There's a lot of them out there.....good luck.
2006-09-04 23:11:35 · answer #4 · answered by bad boy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi , I think he played his cards on home plate to see if he could have his cake and eat it too but it didn't work out , So back too ole faithfull stand by , Walk away it's better to hurt now and start the healing and lessons learned than to get back and get hurt again but worse than before , 2yrs of being together , 5 months is nothing ask yourself what happens next time maybe sally or Lisa or who ever steps in till he sees you again in the end these are just words choice is yours good luck
2006-09-04 16:59:49 · answer #5 · answered by freeby1011 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two years is along time it would be very hard to be with someone that long without loving them. Maybe it isn't that he is playing or trying to play with your heart. I'm sure its just as hard for him to not be where you are ,quite possibly he is hurting and is subconsciously pushing you away to try to make it easier.If that isn't the case maybe he is cheating and had a serious case of his morals kicking his ***.last scenario tried to move on and could only think of you,in this case he probably didn't want to hurt you and did what he thought was best for him.
Its hard for me to think he dosent love you you two have spent allot of time together and are a big part of each other.try to talk to him.Listen to his responses don't here what u want u truly listen u,ask him questions about his feelings ask him where he wants to be in his feature.Don't limit yourself to any one subject,find out how you fit in his life maybe you Will figure out if you want to let go or if u may just belong in his life after all.Is there room for you in his dreams of tomorrow,or is this love just one many you will probably have.if its worth it than i say no pain no gain,if its not walk away sometimes relationships are way to dramatic and recurring.
2006-09-04 17:23:59 · answer #6 · answered by what it do 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl i understand exactly what you are going through because I went through the same exact thing only mines lasted a year and 8 months.......... Trust me hes no good. If you take him back things will only get worst. You will be more caught up then you are now and you will not be able to let him go. Don't procrastinate do it now get it over and spear your heart the extra pain and drama. Good Luck
2006-09-04 17:00:26 · answer #7 · answered by Diva2ThaBone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to start doing your daily activities without him, without thinking of him and put your attention more to your family. You won't need a guy who dumped you and then later on tells you that he needs you. Who is important, yourself or he? Ofcourse, yourself!
Advice is important, but puttin it into actual practice from the advice is definitely a must! Move on and I'll tell you you'll get over him soon. I can guarantee.
2006-09-04 17:15:37 · answer #8 · answered by mars 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you need some time to sort things out. then keep busy, and do things that you enjoy, or at least get out of the house. go see a movie (not a romantic one), eat dinner at a nice restaurant, go shopping, and spend quality time with your family. are there any relatives you haven't seen in a while? get in touch with them. try to put playa out of your mind. do you belong to a gym? exercise helps produce endorphins, which raise your level of happiness. if you don't belong to a gym, find an alternate form of exercise. good luck. you will be just fine, believe me.
2006-09-04 16:55:55 · answer #9 · answered by bad guppy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paula, long distant relationships are difficult. You can't allow this guy to toy with your emotions like he is. You need to be strong and have some resolve.
2006-09-04 16:57:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋