i have a 2 month old child with him and he say rude things raped me and beats me. he evan beat me while i was pregnent with owr baby! i love him and on good days which are more often then not he's perfect. he cant get couseling cause he cant aford it what do i do!!! he trys to blame it all on me and brings me down. he acts like he's the victom. and we are breaking up. should we fight to stay together or raise my baby on my own?
2006-09-04 16:40:08 · 42 answers · asked by boo_1313 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
GET OUT, quick! They always play the victim to keep you there.....don't fall for it!
2006-09-04 17:23:52 · answer #1 · answered by Gothic Martha™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant even begin to tell you how trifling you are. What is it going to take for you to realize, that one day he is going to kill you and or your baby. He doesn't care for you are the baby, cause if he did, then he would never put his hands on you while you were pregnant. You are being selfish. You are only thinking about yourself. Cause if you held your baby before this abusive bastard, you would have been long gone. I am so sick of women like you. You expect to receive pity, but you have put yourself in that situation. I don't feel sorry for you at all. And now you, the have brought a child in the world with a jerk. Stop making excuses for him. He can get counseling for free. If he really wanted to. But that still wont matter, cause you are so damn stupid, that you will put up with anything! You don't deserve to be a mother. It is mothers like you, that put children in danger! I will hear about you on the news, "Woman murdered by the hands of her baby's father!" Get your priorities in order. Let me break it down for you, cause I know you are a bit slow. Put your child first and get the Hell out. Or stay and watch all Hell break loose!
2006-09-04 17:03:17 · answer #2 · answered by Ren 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out while you can still walk. This guy has no respect for you or your child. Any man that beats a woman, is nothing more than a "boy". Dont be scared to get help, turn him in to the authorities, let them handle it. they will get him some counsiling, for free. But he may do some jail time for battery and putting the child in danger by doing this. Talk to someone that can help you, a state official, the police, but dont just stay there and take a beating, Thats just plain crazy to do that. Also, by you staying there, you are putting you child at risk. Think about that. There are agencies out there, go get some help, please! AND DONT BE AFRAID Good luck.
2006-09-04 16:49:31 · answer #3 · answered by tennman012000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk about a flashback.. My ex-husband... Leave NOW... call a safe home. You can find the 800 numbers in the phone book. Also on-line WTCS is one. Some will even arrange to pick you and the child up to hide you. don't listen to anyone who blames you. Nothing justifies what a lot of men are doing. I hope you make reports on this guy. You need a paper trail. Write a diary, hide it. go to the hospital after things happen. Good luck.
2006-09-04 16:47:04 · answer #4 · answered by Country 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,
If you are being mentally or physically abused you should end the relationship. There are plenty of nonprofit organization that help battered women with children. You can use the Internet to find local shelters if you don't have a place to go. Domestic Violence can lead to death and destroy your kid's childhood. If you really love your child you must think about him first. It is your responsibility to raise your child with the best. That means giving him more love than he or she can handle. Do what's best for your child he or she deserves it. Don't make the child a victim or the fathers abuse.
My advice GET THE HELL OUT!
2006-09-04 16:50:51 · answer #5 · answered by Chitea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first for hiim to beat you while you are pregnant he is sick, SCREW THAT SH^T aboout staying together for the baby he dont care about that child or he would not have been beating you pregnant, get rid of him he is an a$$ hole and I cant beat he must be on drugs cause there is no way he can be sober and fighting you with his child. UP GRADE that JERK, send him packing. It is one thing if you two get into a litlle scuffle but for him to have the nerve to put his hand on yuor child like that, he dont get a s^it abot you or your kid, go the beatings only get worse he will probally star beating the kid too
2006-09-04 17:03:09 · answer #6 · answered by Robyn D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of us stay because of the kids or kid and a lot of us stay because we think that maybe we can help them change,but you can't i have been there done that and it dont work it makes things worse and it will turn you aginst most if not all men i put up with it for 5 years and it isn't worth it in the long run.
staying with my husband made me scared and lonely and the only time i got attention is when he was hitting me and if you stay with him he could or might start on the kid most of us say no way he wont do that but beleave it does happen but no one can tell u what to do it has to be up to you
good luck
2006-09-05 06:22:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The simplest advice is to leave.
Do you want to spend the rest of your life as a punching bag?
Men who beat up on women are small minded and don't deserve the presence of someone to love them.
Some women feel they can't leave because of kids or something else , which is sad.
Don't make yourself the victim by staying there , leave while you can still walk and are able to.
Remember , being beat upon isn't your fault , no matter how angry he gets , YOU never asked him to hit you , HE IS NOT THE VICTIM.
2006-09-04 16:51:37 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself something. why are you really in this relationship? are you scared of him or are you scared of being alone? it seems like to me that you have self esteem and insecurity issues. im not trying to judge you because no one has ever walked a mile in your shoes, but if he beats you on a regular basis, he's probably not going to stop until you take action. no man should put his hands on a woman. and you two have a child together. do you want your child to see mommy getting beat by daddy. do you think thats healthy. you need to get away. he is not worthy. and he raped you and beat you up while you were pregnant, he does not have respect for you. thats the wrong kind of love and some woman get that twisted. you need to think about the safety for your child and yourself. it sounds like to me that he has major issues and he might end up hurting you really really bad. dont you want to see your child grow up? not only does he need counseling, he's needs to be in jail. your life is precious. too bad he does not see that. he will only do what you allow him to do. there are shelters for battered women. they can help you. god bless you
2006-09-04 16:53:22 · answer #9 · answered by DESIREE W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Gosh Love, he is slowly taking away your pride and self-respect. You should leave him immediatly, don't hang around and try to work things out. He might be just starting out beating on you, but you never know he can also try to kill you as well. This is not a healthy relationship for tou or your baby. I am pretty sure you don't want to be the next "Man murders wife" Its best for you and your baby trust me, because suppose he tries to beat your baby in the near future. Girl leave when you can PLEASE i am BEGGING YOU!
2006-09-04 16:51:15 · answer #10 · answered by Diva2ThaBone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not good enough, you should be able to live without being beaten all the time. Love comes and goes, it is time to move on. Find someone who loves you as much as you love them.
You only get one life why waste it on a loser, it doesnt take much NOT to hit someone. The baby's life will be ebtter with out his mother being beaten or the baby thinking this is normal. If he hits you he doesnt love you, no matter what he sayes, if he hits you he isnt a husband, if he hits you he isnt a father , if he hits you he isnt a man
move on and have a better life
2006-09-04 16:41:39 · answer #11 · answered by brinlarrr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋