2006-09-04 16:12:28 · 17 answers · asked by tiayna34 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
THis is exactly what I would do, if I were prgnant and decided to keep the child of a drug addict....
1. Leave him immediately. If you stay with him, you are an enabler. Your child may learn to be a drug addict
2. Find proof of his drug addiction and seek legal advice on how to keep him away from the child, or at least supervised visits. If he can PROVE sobriety for, say three years, then visitation can be re-evaluated.
3. Never ever get back with this guy, even if he stays sober. For addicts, it is a very difficult road, and going back to things that were in his life while he was using drugs can make him go back to using. He needs to rebuild his life without you in it, and he needs to do it for himself, not you and not even for the child.
2006-09-04 16:36:21 · answer #1 · answered by Proud Momma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you must have taken part in getting pregnant your self it takes two you know you can not put all the blame on the other person. But if they have an issue with drugs it will have to be the drugs or the baby now you can not should not have both I give tell them to that its you and the baby or the drugs not both sorry this is the way it has to be the baby must come first
2006-09-04 23:26:03 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs Magoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do- you answered that your self..drugs are and will be the priority- not that child. When someone is on drugs their mind is gone- its a mental illness. You cannot force them to change, or make them get clean. an addict must hit their own personal rock bottom before thay are willing to make that kind of change. For one person it could be the birth of a child they arent allowed to be with, or maybe getting evicted from their home, or going to jail- but for some that rock bottom is death.......and by then its too late. If you keep the baby don't depend on him to be a father.
2006-09-04 23:20:55 · answer #3 · answered by Empress - 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one and a hard decision to make. If it's going to cause stress in the relationship and any harm to the baby then yes you should leave. A baby doesn't need to be raised in that environment. If the drugs are #1 to him and you and the baby are #2 and that's not right. You and the baby should be #1 in his eyes and you aren't. Maybe you leaving will open up his eyes and think twice about the drugs.
2006-09-04 23:18:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both got yourselves pregnant. How far along are you? Do you have options available.
Does this junkie ya with have Hep C, do you know you can get it thru sex and the baby too?
Do you want a life of grief. If he is using methamphetamines such as speed, ice etc his habit will start costing several hundred dollars a day. What will he do break and enters, armed robberies to get money for his next fix. he is probably doing them now.
His moods will change he will become aggressive and violent to you. His personality will completely change from the person you first fell in love with.
Not ready to give up the gear. Give him the flick sweetie, he is a loser and you and your child will soon be visiting him via a metal detector.
2006-09-04 23:24:02 · answer #5 · answered by kanga 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would get out of that situation right now. Just leave. yeah, it will be hard, cause you probably love him, but you know what? he isn't good for you and he sure as hell isn't going to be any good for your baby. people do stupid things when they are all drugged up, and he could hurt a baby very easily. I wouldn't risk it. Leave now. Before it's too late.
2006-09-04 23:19:06 · answer #6 · answered by tricksy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rely on other family members or friends to help you raise the baby. I would leave him. It kinda sucks that he will not be help full because people on drugs have a hard time keeping a job.
2006-09-04 23:18:12 · answer #7 · answered by Sabrina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave the person and raise the baby alone. I wouldn't be in that situation though because I would never be with someone who does drugs.
2006-09-04 23:14:06 · answer #8 · answered by mommysrock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU got you pregnant! mistake #1 Now you must grow up over nite walk away from him and go to family or clinic and get assistance This person you think you "love " knows you not ! drugs will always be first and formost ...this innocent child needs a smart sober mom and no druggy dad wize up and get away now...avoid mistake #2.
2006-09-04 23:24:07 · answer #9 · answered by red heads ha! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it isnt that they cant give them up but that they wont if drugs take priority over you and your baby, then you need to kick his sorry *** to the curb you need to love yourself and this child more than you love a druggie
2006-09-04 23:17:53 · answer #10 · answered by aarika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋