It puts the child in a bad position. If he/she tells than he/she is even more of a wimp. When someone is pushed to the point where they have no other focus in life than why are we suprised when revenge takes place?
2006-09-04 15:40:47 · 16 answers · asked by Paul S 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
"Justified" maybe. But Retaliation only adds to the problem. You cannot overcome violence with violence. Neither in the playground nor as US President.
2006-09-04 15:43:51 · answer #1 · answered by MBK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bullying is decades old. Used to be an easy fix- stand up for yourself and get on with your life. Now bullying and retaliation are a game that has definitely gotten alot more dangerous.
Nowadays, bullying is taken seriously in schools. I think the "suprise" comes in when the results are extreme- like they did not know how bad it had gotten, or didn't know about it at all. It affects people differently, some just get hurt- others have hurt, anger and revenge- remember Columbine High School?
2006-09-04 23:01:54 · answer #2 · answered by rottymom02 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Matilda was in fourth grade and absolutely loved school. One day, a new kid (Billy) joined her class and Billy was large for his age and used his size to bully everyone, especially Matilda. She began to hate school.
One day, Matilda's father was at the school to pick her up. He saw her class leaving together, and spied who he knew to be Billy. Called him over and asked if he was Billy, who Matilda had spoken about. Billy sheepishly answered in the affirmative. The father then proceded to inform Billy that Matilda had related the story that Billy was her "protector" and that the dad really appreciated Billy protecting Matilda against bullies. (totally made up by the dad). It worked, it allowed Billy to see himself as something good, to use his size in a positive way. Made Matilda's life, Billy's life and everyone in the class's life easier.
Not every situation has this elegant a solution, but dealing with bullies is difficult. Schools have a tough time getting parents effectively involved, as most bullies learn it at home, and when consulted about their child's behavior, parents of bullies tend to get aggressive and threatening, saying they will bring their lawyer to even the first meeting with the counsellor or principal.
Efforts should be made through existing channels, as schools are now addressing this issue.
Effective parenting of the victim of bullying lies in allowing them to see their own strengths and to direct the focus toward those. Life after school can be arranged to some degree to avoid bullies, even if it means quitting a job.
Enormous wealth and living an emotionally and spiritually rewarding life is the best "revenge".
2006-09-05 05:15:43 · answer #3 · answered by finaldx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult situation! And it seems as if whatever route a kid takes, they end up in a bad place. If they tell, you're right they'll be considered a wimp. But if they retaliate they risk getting into trouble and getting beat up! I think it is best just to avoid the bully. Don't aggravate him and just try and stay out of his line of vision. Only tell if he/she is seriously hurting you. But I do have to add that I don't look down upon retaliation, but it does have its repercussions for sure.
2006-09-04 22:44:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It all depends on just HOW the child was bullied & just HOW the retalliation was dealt out in return. Some things CAN & SHOULD be dealt with in an anonymous manner. The bully doesn't need to know who turned them in. The bully just needs to have a lesson learned & the child that was bullied doesn't always need to know that they can have "bragging rights" in the retalliation process. Sometimes, the less said, the better.
2006-09-04 22:46:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think retaliating to the bully is justified in equal doses, but not necessarily the best solution.
2006-09-04 23:22:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we are not surprised
you question is justification
that depends on what form the retaliation takes and what your belief system defines as wrong and right
most people would agree that if somebody was pushed around some on the playground, killing that bully would not be a justfiable retaliation
so, again, it depends on the form the retaliation takes and your philosophy and belief system to determing "justification"
2006-09-04 22:44:20 · answer #7 · answered by enginerd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea. People just don't see the signs of a bullied kid until revenge has already happened.
2006-09-04 22:44:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It is transfering responsibility from self to the bully, who pushed me and made me do it!! This is where we fail as adults to teach children, and we fail as adults to practice this....WE are totally in charge of our decisions. WE do not allow the bully to have the power to control US. When we retaliate, WE GIVE AWAY our power to choose and our power over ourself. When we choose another method of dealing, then we are making choices.
Look at it like this...if you kill someone can you really use the defense of "they made me do it?" No, because the law has no loopholes for retaliation, they deal with personal control over self and HOLD YOU to it.
2006-09-04 23:20:47 · answer #9 · answered by DA R 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Takes a far more developed mind to walk away my friend although to beat a bully....... its pretty satisfying but not always justified
2006-09-04 22:50:45 · answer #10 · answered by Simon B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋