he never touches at night nor does he try to make love to me, this is really upsetting to me, I try so hard to deal with it by filling my life and time with other hobbies but i am so unhappy inside, he goes to dialysis treatments and i really love him and would not leave him over this but how long can i keep hiding my unhappiness. He does not want me to masturbate or buy "toys" but he won't do other things to me either or even try. Sometimes when we do try, he can't maintain an erection and that leaves me even more worked up what can I do, do I still marry him next week?
2006-09-04 15:30:13 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Im guessing that in this instance, instead of your heart doing the thinking for you, use your common sense. Think this thing through. Sounds like a little controlling issue, Im sorry for him and the dialysis treatment, that is pretty hard to deal with, but you need to be content, he wont let you masterbate and he wont touch you, what does that leave you, put it off for a while until you know he truly wants you like a man should. Even on dialysis he should want to make love to you. So id wait a bit and see what happens. Put it off until you two can talk about it thoroughly and let him know, in no uncertain terms, what the deal is, you need to take a stand, "draw a line in the sand" somewhere. If you dont the marraige will be rough and you will be miserable the whole time. Good luck darlin.
2006-09-04 16:18:29 · answer #1 · answered by tennman012000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you do make love, does he find it pleasurable?? Try talking to him about it...maybe he feels like he shouldn't even try because he has a hard time keeping an erection...Get him to open up to you about this, it may not be an easy subject for him to discuss, but you have to know how he feels...maybe suggest other things to try...like an adult movie if the two of you are up for it..other than that you just need to talk with him!!!
2006-09-04 15:42:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to come to an understanding. If he is physically unable to do what you need, than there has to be some leeway with 'rubbing one out' or having some toys. If he wants to marry you, then he has to make some compromises. I'm sure that you give up a lot to take care of a kidney failure patient, homeboy is going to have to come to grips with the fact that you have needs of a different sort than his.
2006-09-04 15:35:09 · answer #3 · answered by n2bateyou2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-06 10:20:21 · answer #4 · answered by loewenstein 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frist he sick and must address this problem with his doctor, second he has talk speak with you about it and work at this problem with you and for you , it sounds like he's just accepted it for what it is and if so it will never work . Its take tow to have a relationship ok and understand also this might be every embarassing and hard for him as well but its something he has to face sorry.
2006-09-04 17:34:37 · answer #5 · answered by Israel G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like you were sexually active in the past which is ok in my books because it plays a big part in a relationship really when its your soul mate you want to make love to. I would think really hard before you make a promise to god and yourself if you are haveing this problem now, also this is no time to be shy or worry about hurting feelings, talk to him and get down to the meat of the problem, if he loves you both of you can work it out, besides now and days they have all kinds of medications and gadgets for all our needs. good luck to both of you..
2006-09-04 15:40:03 · answer #6 · answered by hennesseywalton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shana,
if you really honestly love this man, that won't matter if he can make love to you .or he might just be waiting for that special evening, but if i were a female and in your situation, which I'm a guy, talk to him and tell him your feelings
2006-09-04 15:35:22 · answer #7 · answered by Mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry him next wk. I'm not saying never marry him but, you need to work out some serious problems first. If he's sick that explains his not wanting sex. And you are obviously not happy. To marry now would be disastrous. Wait awhile.
2006-09-04 15:34:07 · answer #8 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes diabetics can't get or maintain an erection, and this is probably why he doesn't touch you, for fear of having to reject you or deal with your disappointment. there are penile implants that have been available to diabetics for years, and work quite well. discuss this with him. if he isn't interested in getting help, you have some thinking to do.
2006-09-04 16:08:26 · answer #9 · answered by bad guppy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait. Don't give up on him. Also if you really love him, its not going to stop you from being together, you just need to work things out with him.
2006-09-04 15:45:00 · answer #10 · answered by PeachyFixation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋