We have been together close to 7 years, not married and neither of us have kids. we each live in our own home (we each own) and we spend 3-4 nights a week together , we are considering moving in together. We are concerned the changes that may take place may not all be good ones.The time we spend together now is truely quality time, we wonder if the time together will become routine rather than special as it is now. after 7 years I do feel there is something lacking in our relationship but we both fear that we may loose the special quality we have now, as my boyfriend has said "if it aint broke why fix it". we have heard from other couples that when you live together they sometimes become "ships passing in the night" are there any other (current or former) 2 houshold couples out there? and how did it work for you?
2006-09-04 15:15:54 · 6 answers · asked by foxyraley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I truly believe that absence makes the heart grow fonder and that people should live apart as long as possible, maybe until a wedding. I wish my husband lived somewhere else, maybe
I would actually get a chance to miss him then, not that I don't love him, it's just nice to have personal space. Maybe go for different bedrooms if your intent on moving in. Good luck either way.
2006-09-04 15:20:16 · answer #1 · answered by ttti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the key is not to make it 24/7. Keep your own interests and while making quality time to spend together,make sure your time apart is also quality.I have been in this relationship of mine 12 years,ten of them living together.And while we enjoy each other, we also enjoy our seperate interests.
2006-09-04 15:23:01 · answer #2 · answered by sheena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I couldn't stand this situation, so maybe I shouldn't be answering it.
For me, I have to share my life in a meaningful way - could never live alone, as this would be too lonely for me.
Maybe there is something missing in your relationship - and I'm not sure what it is, but for me it's all or nothing.
2006-09-04 15:49:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your boyfriend. Right now you don't rely on each other for the boring things like cooking, cleaning, etc. If you move in you could have trouble in those areas. Yeah. If it ain't broke, don't fix it. Stay as you are.
2006-09-04 15:22:45 · answer #4 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're both too comfy in the relationship, perhaps you should sit down and think if you're both ready to make the next step, if not, keep things how they are. If it works for you then that's all that matters!
2006-09-04 15:19:22 · answer #5 · answered by Heather J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, I think you guys can be happy living in seperate homes.
2006-09-04 15:18:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋