or does responsibilities make someone mature? If at a certain age in someone's life they have not attained certain material things in life is that a sign of imaturity? (ex ones own car, apartment, or purchased home) Can that person be compatible with someone that maybe have these things in life??
2006-09-04 14:35:18 · 29 answers · asked by zakaramommy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No age does not define maturity! I think it comes with the ability to handle responsibility!
2006-09-04 14:37:57 · answer #1 · answered by SVW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is a positive aid in gaining maturity but is not the defining answer. To me, to constantly use opportunities to learn (from others or any source) and to continually strive to become a better person is the defining mark. To reach for understanding as opposed to sitting and judging others is also a good sign. The world is a very complex changing environment and too many individuals think they know it all...especially many youths. Then again the saying "There is no fool like an old fool" applies to older individuals who think their age qualifies them as a know it all as well.
You are mature when you "know that you don't know", you are not afraid of being laughed at and you are able to stand up even when you are down.
My personal quote is "When things are not going your way, use it as a chance to show how much class you have.
2006-09-04 14:55:46 · answer #2 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not really , but usually by the time people are in their 40's they should be wise and mature. not always the case though. IE: my husband. Owning things is not a sign of maturity either. But it does create responsibility if you are able to make the payments and keep the job.I know a guy that has nothing, is in his 60's and still lives with mommy. he talks like he's mature, but he can't make mature decisions . so age is not always an indication of maturity, neither is possessions.only you know if you are compatible with someone that is imature. It is frustrating sometimes,trust me. been married 18 years
2006-09-04 14:45:33 · answer #3 · answered by joy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age does not define maturity. Material possesions don't either. For example what if someone just had a rough time since moving into adulthood. Actions show maturity! If 2 people love eachother and are willing to work hard and both provide an equal amount of commitment then there is no reason that it should not work.
2006-09-04 14:39:16 · answer #4 · answered by stall_out 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you've met a guy and you are wondering whether or not it would be wise to accept him as a life partner.
Based on the items you listed in your question, I would advise you not to do it. Send him on his way. He's probably already taken advantage of many women, and is very good at it, so he can easily move on to another easier target. What I'm saying is that you are a smart women who has a brain and is wondering what the odds are that a relationship with this guy would be a good one. Those odds are very poor. He will most likely milk you for everything you have. Once he's done that, and you have nothing left, he'll ask you to go in debt. So, not only will you lose what you've got, but you'll also lose what you haven't got.
Instead of spending your money on this guy, spend a little to check him out. Items of interest should be employment history, credit history, criminal record, child support, wife abuse, alchohol abuse, address history, etc. You have access to the internet, so go to www.google.com and type in some of the key words I've listed, and make an effort to find out how to get that information about this guy. Some of it will have a fee attached to it, but the price is worth it and much less expensive than making the mistake of bringing this guy into your life blindly.
Personally, the details in your question were enough. I'm convinced this guy is bad news. I wouldn't even check him out. I'd just walk away.
2006-09-04 15:10:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Difficult answer. I am 39, my bf is 27. I've never been married, he is divorced with full custody of his child. I have an apartment, he was living with his parents (we live together now) We both drive crap cars. I think that we "work" because neither one of our lives, were how we had planned. 10 years ago, I had a great job, new car, no debt, I had a "plan" on buying a house, continuing with job, etc. He never thought he'd be a single father raising a child, cost of daycare, insurance, he HAD to move home.
I suppose I feel a little immature, I didn't attain my goal of owning a home (health issues forced me to leave the job) my new car, is now 10 yrs old and falling apart. And I know he is more mature, having to step up to fatherhood and step down to live at home.
We kind of meet each other in the middle. Guys my age, thought I should have more, nicer "things", girls his age, treated him like a loser for living at home and did not like his responsibility to the child.
Life happens, sometimes what you dream about having, gets blown to sh*t.
2006-09-04 14:51:05 · answer #6 · answered by msuzyq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life experiences and lessons are what make people mature - age is irrelevant. Take an older adolescent who has always gotten whatever they want from their parents (My Super Sweet 16 comes to mind) and compare them to a twelve year old who babysits and helps around the neighborhood to help support their family. In this case, and many others, it is stepping up to the plate, and taking on responsibilities that make a person mature.
As far as relationships go - it is all about what each individual expects from the other.
2006-09-04 14:39:16 · answer #7 · answered by Kaitelia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No age does not make you mature I think having responsibilities can bring out the maturity in a person but a person can have tons of responsibilities and still be immature I guess its all about how you handle situations in your life and whether you take care of your responsibilities or not because there's people out there that have responsibilities and don't take care of them
2006-09-04 14:41:04 · answer #8 · answered by tpchick22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life experiences can make someone mature, even a 16 yr old can act as ur dad lol.
i dont think it's respnsiblty coz those ppl are more deprived to grow the real prson insde them...
properties occured are not the defining factor either, just a reward for being mature.
comtatible?maybe with someone mature but not bec of material things.i hope somehow this helped... good luck
2006-09-04 14:43:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ability to DEAL with responsibilities defines maturity. Having things most definately does not prove maturity, usually the opposite.
2006-09-04 14:37:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋