2006-09-04 13:58:09 · 44 answers · asked by Sammy6650 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
listen to your heart.. and my good advice.. ;D
yes.. if you know you want to spend your life with him.. tomorrows just another day.. marry him!
2006-09-04 14:00:30 · answer #1 · answered by Min 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont marry someone you have only known for a month! My ex purposed to me the first month we started dating and I am glad I told him that I needed time. All that good stuff he was doing to get me to say Yes was an act! Men are very nice to you in the begining, they are nice to your children because they know this will impress you. I would advise you to atleast wait 6 months. Even thats soon, but it is better than a month. If he has a problem with that, then you will know that he is full of it. If he loves you and wants to be a part of you and your childrens lives, then he wont go anywhere! Hope it works out for you!
2006-09-04 14:08:17 · answer #2 · answered by Lou Lou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi that's a hard one, but sometimes they say love can last forever even though you've only known each other for a short time. But just a suggestion, have you thought of living together , then it you will be able to really get a good idea as to how he is with you & your kids on a constant daily basis. I have been divorced for a long time now, & I only re married 8 yrs ago, after dating alot, seeing what it is first that I needed for myself.That helped me figure out a lot of issues, about my self, my needs, what it was that i was really looking for.Was it as a partner for my kids? a partner for me? or to be able to share a a life with another like minded man, who totally was in sync with me & my kids.Well it worked as I am happily married, as I chose to weigh the pro's & cons out. So the decision pretty much sometimes although hard , comes down to , finding out what is right for you first, then address the other issues. I can imagine this must be very hard for you, but LOVE needs to be there daily through everthing to enable it to last. I wish you well in what ever decision you make.:)Good luck
2006-09-04 14:17:25 · answer #3 · answered by cheytelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't. You will enjoy his company equally as much as an unmarried couple. The only reason I can think of for marrying someone is if you want to have children with them at that time or if it is understood by the both of you that it is an arrangement of convenience (like need for a green card or health insurance). Although it would have to be a pretty dire situation to make even that worth while.
2006-09-04 14:03:32 · answer #4 · answered by micha_j1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if you really like him give it time. America is at a 50% divorce rate. Which is just enough reason why should give it a while. After time people change. Hopefully this will be for the better for you. Getting married before your sure can be costly and emotionally damaging to you and your children.
2006-09-04 14:01:36 · answer #5 · answered by mrstaken_haynes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Anybody can be nice for a month. Get to know him really well. Why do you want to be married? You need to have a very good answer to that question before you consider marrying anyone.
2006-09-04 14:01:10 · answer #6 · answered by MOM KNOWS EVERYTHING 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhmm, ABSOLUTELY NOT. One month is still the honeymoon stage of a relationship. It takes TIME to get to know someone;especially enough to commit to them for a lifetime. My feelings are it takes(providing you are in the same town and spend a fair amount of time together) six months to a year or more to decide if you are compatible.
You would be doing yourself and your children an in just favor by marrying someone in such a short time.
2006-09-04 14:15:56 · answer #7 · answered by Ms.PS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to wait a little longer before you decide to marry a man, especially if you have kids. Remember some men prey on single women with children.
2006-09-04 14:02:12 · answer #8 · answered by Angel D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa...slow down speedy. get 2 kno this guy...especially if there are kids involved because not only do u have to consider the best move to make for yourself but your children will be affected to. 4 all u kno he can be abusive or a child molester. GET TO KNO HIM MORE!!! It is really easy to put on a nice front for a short amount of time.
2006-09-04 14:02:06 · answer #9 · answered by Firefly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOPE
Maybe date him awhile, do family outings. Live together for at least a few years first. It takes that long to really get to know a person. Find out why he's still available and if you are ok with that. Whatever the true reason is. Ask his exes maybe.
2006-09-04 14:01:05 · answer #10 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of guy wants to get married after just a month? I would question his motives. Do you have money that he wants, or something like that? Be careful. If he is worth it, he will wait for a reasonable amount of time if you ask him to. What do your friends think?
2006-09-04 14:01:43 · answer #11 · answered by mollyneville 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋