well 10minutes ago i took a pregnacy test twice and i'm pregnat.i'm 1month.i know i'm 21 and i can raise a baby but still.the guy who got me pregnat left me and he says if i go near him he will kill me.how can i tell him without making him murder me?
2006-09-04 13:51:44 · 31 answers · asked by ElEgAnTFiShIe 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
She isn't twenty one she isn't pregnant and she isn't a good liar: Here's a few of her earlier questions she forgot about fabricating for us....
well a year ago i had a misscarrige and now i find out i'm not pregnat.i'm thinking of going to collage with my boyfriend.i mean haveing a misscarrige at 17 and figiring your not pregnat at age 18really herts.please cheer me up.
1 month ago - 15 answers
how do i get pregnat?i turned 19 a few days ago.but how do i get pregnat?
1 month ago - 13 answers
well me and my bf are in collage.we decided to have sex.now i'm throwing up.i took a pregnacy test and i was pregnat.but i can't trust pregnacy tests so i went to the docters today.they said i'm not pregnat.who and what should i belive?
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4 weeks ago
okay.tomorow i'll make an appointment for ultra sound or should i have a blood test
4 weeks ago - 13 answers
my bf wants to have sex with me.well for me i don't want to!but he dose!i don't want kids until i graudate from college!is it worth saying yes a having sex with my hott nice bf?
2 weeks ago - 40 answers
well tell me how to get pregnat please!i had a misscarrige last year and i just want to get pregnat right.please tell me!
1 week ago - 16 answers
well i'm not pregnat but i'm a woman.i just wanted to know when we are pregnat why do we always cry,and get mood swings?
4 weeks ago - 19 answers
So if she really wants help with child rearing then she start with learning about herself She just fibbing kid looking for a few kicks...
2006-09-05 16:25:10 · answer #1 · answered by Rick R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing that I would do is file a police report and report that he threatened to kill. Now, I do not know how you feel about this guy, if you still love him or not, but I assume that you do, especially now being pregnant and all... But, I would wait until I give birth, because depending on how "serious" his threat was, well, you do not want an "accident" to happen to you during your pregnancy and end up losing the baby... So, I would make sure of your safety first and your unborn child. Once, you have your child, I would take him to child support so he could financially support the baby, of course, once you serve a petition on him, he will know that you are claiming that he is the biological father of the child and as it sounds like you are not married to him, the child will be considered out of wedlock and the courts will order a paternity test. Also, if you tell him now, he will probably believe that you are just making it up because you are looking for an excuse to go back with him or for him to be there with you in some way or another. You do not need that., I know that emotionally may want to be there, but now that you are going to be a mother you need to learn how to act like a WOMAN and be strong and learn that a real woman does what she needs to do for herself and as a GOOD MOTHER she provides for her child and makes sure that she always puts her child first as oppose to her... good luck and simply wait until you give birth and do not look for him, show him that you do not need him and that you are able to live your life and bring his child into the world without him... You do not need to depend on him, especially after the way that he disrespected you and treated you. Give yourself some respect, value yourself as a woman and do allow any MAN to put you down.. If you does not want you around, then do not be around... He is not the first man, nor will he be your only love., there are many more men out there, it is just a matter of finding the right one!!!! -- - - Additionally, he sounds like a really violent man, why would you want to have your child around a man like that, that does not respect a woman.... When a man talks this way to a woman, it is usually because he has already lost respect for her and talks to her in any way and manner and if you are asking this question is because you must know that he is a violent man and that he is capable of actually hurting you and maybe you are glad to be pregnant because you want him back, but this is routine in an abusive relationship, whether it be emotionally, verbally and/or physically. You are 21 - you are not a little girl and you need to value yourself and learn that there are times in life you will get a broken heart, but a broken heart will heal with time, as oppose to being abused by a man, you will have those memories for the rest of your life... Do not put yourself or your child through that... good luck.
2006-09-04 16:06:34 · answer #2 · answered by Snowwhite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's telling you he'll kill you if you come near him and he doesn't even know you're pregnant yet, I would probably stay away from him.
For one thing, he might interpret the whole thing as a ploy by you to try to get back together and it might cause him to fly off the handle.
Try and look at him from an outside point of view. Is he the type of person to make good on those threats? If so, you're probably better off to let it go without telling him.
That's a tough one because I believe he has the right to know, but if he's going to be a danger to you and/or the baby, I don't think he should be a part of your lives.
2006-09-04 14:00:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a shame. You brought a child into the world with a loser father. I hope you know this guys Social Security number and his address and employer if he has one. Leave his loser butt alone and don't go near him. You can't force him into being a father or a part of this child's life. You picked the loser to have sex with now you have to deal with the consequences. Get him for child support when the baby is born and make sure he relinquish all rights to this child. It is your duty as a mother to make sure this baby is not in harms way.
Make sure you go to your local police department to file a report about the threat "I will kill you."
I am sorry but you really should have picked a better man. You have now put yourself in danger and your unborn child. The best you can do is put this innocent baby up for adoption with the benefit of a stabe two parent home that are committed through marriage. How could u do this?
2006-09-04 13:59:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can let the courts let him know that he is a father. Once your baby is born, you have the right to file for child support for your child. No matter what the father has said to you. If he threatens you file for a peace order and let the judge know your reasons. No matter what DO NOT try to protect this man. He has threatened your life and the life of your unborn child. You do not have to say anything to him. Once he is served with papers for child support, he can ask for a paternity test if he believes that he has been served in error. Once the test shows that he is the father, he will be obligated to provide support.
2006-09-04 14:00:13 · answer #5 · answered by Meesh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to go and tell him adult to adult.
If he is not interested and you make the choice to go ahead then it will be your responsability.
It is not easy for children growing up in a world where there is no family bond between mum and dad.
This is the part of childhood which nurtures a child and gives them a sense of protection and security.
One only has to look around and see the results that the majority of children from broken homes and one parent familys are experiencing.
Do you in all honesty want this for your little child.
Take care!
2006-09-04 14:20:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
why tell him??
you were not in a commited long term relationship with him so why tell him?? you got pregnant - presumably you were not on the pill or using other protection.. since we all know the pill isnt 100% safe - even if you were on it, it doesnt matter because you still shoudnt take the chance of getting pregnant with a guy you were not in a permanent long term relationship with..
so basically what I am saying is YOU got pregnant YOU deal with it.. I am a woman, a mother - her father died when she was 5yrs old.. we were married... BUT if I had got pregant by a guy I was "just sleeping around with" then its basically too bad for me.. he would owe me NOTHING.. he would owe the kid NOTHING...
Soooo.... why tell hiim???
give the kid for adoption if you are not financially/emotionally able to care for a kid.. and unless you own your own home and have the patience of a saint beleive me you are not ready
2006-09-04 14:01:58 · answer #7 · answered by CF_ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl i got pregnate at 16 call his *** from a pay phone tell him see what he says if he sounds angry get off the phone and hide some where for a couple of days and never speek to him agian and try to find someone better!!!
2006-09-04 13:56:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can go down to a local attorney's and file a child support act against him. Thats a great way for him to find out. And then it will be legal and out in the open and he will be able to do nothing about it, except be responcible. They even do the paternal testing if required.
2006-09-04 13:55:56 · answer #9 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Screw him. Don't tell him anything. It takes two to tango. If he didn't want kids he needs to stop screwing or get fixed.
Have your baby and raise him yourself. When he / she gets old enough to ask about his dad. At least wait until he is an adult and can handle the information better. That his sperm donor dad is an asshole. Too many people tell their children about adult situations.
And take him to court for child support.
File a police report for the threat.
2006-09-04 14:13:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋