teenage pregnancy?

Question

i dont want to be critisized...just want help...

i am 17, and will be 18 on the 19th of this month.
i have been seeing a doctor since i was 6 wks pregnant and i just turned 12 wks today, and i know how much alot of people look down on teenage pregnancy, and yes i realize that i cant do this on my own. my boyfriend and i decided to keep the baby, but i just moved to South Carolina, and i have absolutly nobody to turn to. I just want a support group more or less, my mother is gone, and i have never met my father, so the parental figure would be greatly apriciated...

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Should i be having cramps? i thought it could be my uturus growing, but not sure
and i really have a pain on my left side anytime i cough or sneeze...is it normal???
will morning sickness take its leave soon??? its so bad that i have trouble keeping down water...

thanks for help


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one more question...being that i am only 12 wks (which for those who dont know, thats is 3 1/2 months) should i be showing???

i dont consider myself having a small frame

*142 lbs and 5'4"*

oh...and the showing isnt from weight gain....i have only lost weight no matter how hard i try...ive gone from the 156lbs to the 142lbs

and my boyfriend is 23 and finished school and college

btw where i live women are legel at 17

Answer 1

you may have little pains here and there but if it gets bad see your doctor because that isn't normal.The nausea for most women will go away around 16 to 18 weeks and all this stuff they tell you to take like ginger and lemon water don't even work.The only thing you can do is eat very small frequent meals and make sure they are bland not alot of spices and heavy foods or greasy.You may want to watch for bleeding if you are cramping as long as you are not bleeding you should be ok but always tell your doctor if you have any problems don't rely on this site for medical advice.You won't know what to expect since this is your first pregnancy just read alot on babycenter.com they have alot of great info you will learn alot and you can ask alot of mom's on here too for experience type stuff.As far as showing you probably won't show till you are about four to four and a half months.good luck to ya.if you need a friend my email is [e-mail] I had my first baby when i was 19 so i know what your going thru.

Answer 2

I was 16 when I had my now 13 year old daughter. Stay in school (if you haven't graduated already) and take it day by day. Plan the best you can for your future and even though "daddy" is there now, make sure that you are independent just in case you find that you have no other choice. I hope that it won't come to that for you. As for the cramps, it could be your uterus growing, but if it continues for a long period of time, intensifies or you start spotting you need to call your OB. The pain with coughing or sneezing could just be the strain on your already stretching body from those actions. Morning sickness normally subsides by the second trimester for most women, although there are those rare cases when the mother has it the whole pregnancy. If it doesn't go away talk to you OB, there are things they do for you to help. In the mean time, saltine crackers and flat 7up or ginger ale will sometimes help. Keep your head up. Check with the local health department for a support group and keep the lines of communication open with your boyfriend. It's not going to be easy, but I know you can do it if you stay positive.

Answer 3

Hi
I'm 17 too, and will be 18 soon to. I'm 33 wks preg with a baby girl.

Your docter can give you a medicine for your morning sickness if it is has bad has it sounds! I had to have it. There pills you can take. Becareful about that because I had it so bad i got dehyderated and had to go to the hospital which isnt fun. But since your 12 wks which i think is what 3 months it should go away in the next month.

your cramps are normal to, to a certain point. Its just where the baby is growing in there and everything is stretching sorry but it only gets worse. Buy some cocoa butter lotion and put on your belly and around it will help with stretch marks and itching from where your tummy is going to be getting bigger.

Do you have a bump yet where you have to leave your pants unbuttoned? Enjoy fitting in your clothes while you can! Anyway it is normal, but soon your sickness will go away and you will get other symptoms.

lol, going through all this makes me wonder why people ever have more then one!..

Answer 4

Try doing a serach for a yahoo group for pregnant teens in your area. It may not help with the parental figure, but at least it will give you someone to talk to.( http://groups.yahoo.com )
Call the local family planning or crisis pregnancy center to help, too. You might meet a counselor there that you can talk to about everything.
Cramps as long as they are not making you bend in half in pain are usually normal. However, if they get worse or last more than an hour, I would contact the Dr.to make sure everything is ok.
Morning sickness is different for everyone. USUALLY, by your 3rd month it starts to go away. However, there are some people that it lasts the entire pregnancy.( I had it every single day all day for almost 6 months.I was hospitalized a few times during 3 of my 4 pregnancies.)
Also, water is the worst thing to drink when you are vomiting. On the days you are sick, drink 1-2 oz of gatorade every 30 minutes.It will help keep you hydrated and the small amounts, should stay down.Also, try saltine crackers or peppermints. Sometimes a mint will make the feeling go away.

Good Luck and Congrats.

Answer 5

kudos for realizing you can't do it on your own and for being mature enough to look for help and support. I am a mother of two, 6 years and 6 weeks. I was 19 when I had my older son. Yes cramps and pains are fairly normal for some people and pregnancies -- I had none with my first and lots with my second. your morning sickness should be gone soon. trust your intuition at this time though. even if everyone is telling you this is normal, but you really feel that somethings off, go to your doc or to the hosp and don't take no for an answer. make them check you out and assure you everything's OK. you really do know your body best.
I am probably too young to be much of a parental figure but if you need a friend, feel Free to contact me. nobody should be alone when they're expecting OR parenting. you need a supportive network of people for advice and venting to, not to mention actual help. my email is [e-mail].

Answer 6

No one is ever really ready.If they waited till they were no one would ever have kids.Yes it is hard being so young with a baby.I was 18 when i got pregnant.19 when i had him.He just turned 5.I was single and raising him with the help of my family.You can do it.It just means that now you have to grow up and put the needs of your baby first.Cramoing is normal during the first trimester.If it gets bad or you have any bleeding with it than go to the doctor.Every ones body is different and they show at different times.Your morning sickness will probably go away soon.Some have it the whole pregnancy.You may be having a girl.I know alot of people who got sick alot w/girls.I have 2 boys and was never really sick until the end.I really am glad that you and your boyfriend decided to keep the baby.Good Luck to all of you!!!!!

Answer 7

ok... I think the negativity you see regarding teen pregnancy on here is geared toward kids who are like 12-16 and don't even understand how you get pregnant in the first place. It's not that people are trying to be mean to them, it's just shocking and frightening and kind of sad to know that these kids are out there doing this and they don't even understand the consequences... and don't bother to find out until AFTER the fact.

That aside, it's totally cool that you're looking for support here and I think there are a lot of smart ladies on here who can offer you advice in addition to your prenatal care (which I assume you are getting with a doctor)

Now, on to your question...

Cramps are ok as long as they are not severe or accompanied by bleeding.

When you have pain on your left side from coughing or sneezing that is called "round ligament pain" and it is caused by the stretching of the ligaments happening in your belly.

Supposedly morning sickness subsides in most people around week 12-13 so hopefully you'll have some relief soon. But for some people it can last full on into late pregnancy.

I had it really bad and it's now started to subside. I'm in week 15.

If you'd like to email me I'd be happy to talk to you about stuff, but I have to warn you that this is my first pregnancy so I'm not as knowledgeable as some of the others on here. :)

Answer 8

Hey hon! First I want to say DO NOT LET ANYONE GET YOU DOWN.. we all make mistakes and a lot of us, regardless of age, do wind up pregnant when we aren't "ready" to be parents. Nobody is EVER "ready" and age is a number. Having a baby is about getting ready and maturity and giving of yourself regardless of how others make you feel. TO answer your questions- some light cramping is normal- the pain in your side when you cough or sneeze is probably your muscles and uterus stretching- and morning sickness usually leaves by the end of the first trimester. Try taking an extra Vitamin B-6 with your regular prenatals and keep ginger ale on had for really queasy moments and talk to your doctor about the rest. Best of luck to you and your family!

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Some people show early, some don't. Keep in mind that you will notice your own body changes before others will and with this being your first pregnancy and every day another miracle you will be watching for your own body changes when others aren't. It's possible you see yourself getting bigger and the people around you aren't noticing. This happened to me with my first pregnancy.

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Your boyfriend DID NOT rape you.. statuatory rape charges only can stick if the "victim" is under the age of 16 or will sign to have charges pressed. 16 is the "age of consent" which means after you're 16 it's YOUR call, but THEY need to be careful because you can go back and press charges after the fact-- people need to get their facts straight before they throw around accusations.

Answer 9

There are online support groups you can google, yahoo even has some.

yeah, the cramps are normal, it is your stretching uterus. Serious pain though is not okay, it should not be sharp and stabbing or taking your breath away. Just uncomfy and sore, stretchy and kinda like period cramps.

You can take a b6 vitamin, 25ml three times a day, it helps WONDERFULY for morning sickness. Your doctor will tell you its fine, its regularly perscribed to pregnant women just for morning sickness.

And, there is no reason you shouldnt keep your baby if you want to. Society is screwed up, and being judged by it is rediculous. That baby is perfect for you, and you're perfectly suited to care for it. You'll be just fine, because you decided to make it work. And thats what it takes for anyone to raise a baby at any age... determination.

You'll be just fine.

Answer 10

I think that the fact that you and your bf decided to keep the baby is great. I wish you and your baby well! Some cramping in the first trimester is normal, but if you are concerned you should call your doctor immediatley. As for the morning sickness, sometimes it will go away after the 1st trimester, and other times it will stick around - it just depends on the pregnancy.
A great group to join would be an "Expecting club" at iVillage.com.
If you ever wanna talk, please feel free to drop me a line on yahoo messenger rawrrr07. God Bless!