..k, 'upgrade' isn't the right kind of word.. but from where i see (23yr old, single, renting in a house, financially secure, wear black, guitar playing stoner), there's all these guys in light blue shirts and smart khakis driving big peugots and fords, shaven, greased, smiling with their photo-friendly girlfriends, scowling at the news headlines, all perfectly fit into a positive social stereotype.
I can't get a girlfriend. And I hate this stereotyping! And I hate Fords! They're ugly and unreliable!!
2006-09-04 13:21:00 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
"I didn't include any personal qualities"? Like I can support myself? WTF?
2006-09-04 14:07:23 · update #1
It's unfortunate what I'm about to say; and I don't even like it; but, when you consider it, you'll have to agree:
Perceptions is everything and there is only ONE first impression.
I'm not saying not to be yourself; let's get that in the open from the front. I'm getting the sense, that during your school years you were a stoner and never grew up. It was okay during your early early 20somethings, but now it might be conflicting with your growth/evolution as a man. Just a thought....
Alot of times we create personal beliefs that, at the time, are valid for "what is going on"; like our enviornment. However, as time passes and sometimes things change; sometimes we need to alter things that we used to consider "the norm" because of changes in our life.
It's like the lady who has a baby and finds it odd she's not out at the bar each and every weekend.
Perhaps you need to consider what you're already bringing to the table. Maybe take a personal inventory of the current you. See what you like, don't like and are willing to change. Map out a plan and don't tell anyone. Let your subtle changes simply be noticed over time, and people won't come right and out say things, but trust me, they'll notice. Who knows...
One trick I will share... when you feel good and positive it radiates from you and is noticed by others. We can not fake this because if we try it simply does not work.
Before you go out, spend 5 minutes alone sitting in a quiet spot. Close your eyes, relax, slow your breathing and think about a time when you felt really good. It doesn't have to be a big event - anything will do. If you don't have a small one, use a big one.. even if it's really old.. find something that made you feel good. RELIVE the event in your head. Don't rush, take your time and feel good in it.
What you think is what you feel.
When you are done, and find yourself smiling quietly toyourself, carry this "mode" with you. You'll have an air of confidence that will help in the "something's different about him but I don't know what".
One thing though... if you are indeed a stoner... please be sure to change your clothes after you blaze and use something to get the red out. Even your hair will smell, so consider showering before you go out if you choose to toke.
Hope this helps you and good luck
2006-09-04 14:18:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a human you are naturally perfectionistic, and from the sound of your details note you are also a little idealistic in an anti-materialistic (personally I say good of you). To me this means you see others racing for the gold and postponing love interests for object possession. You are probably asking your self 'how could a person postpone love'. Personally I have no answer for that (well, a rather long answer for that), but you can be certain that there is a different ego ideal at work.
Fords aren't that bad if you have real use for a truck....I can't get sex either, but I have plenty of girl friends. Love is a big risk; perhaps you know that instinctively. Wear whatever reflects your spirit at the time and bow slightly to the interests of others for tolerance sake, but only slightly and occasionally.
2006-09-04 20:36:42 · answer #2 · answered by Psyengine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only real improvement anyone can do for themselves involves improving the consciousness. You can try to improve your cash supply, your wheels or whatever, but its all temporary. In the end you die and have to start all over again at the bottom next time around. But if you make yourself deathless by realizing your eternal nature, you can make a permanent upgrade in your life that won't ever be lost. Purify your consciousness, realize who you really are underneath all the externals, and find out what life is really worth. Check out the Bhagavad-gita online: http://www.krishna.com/e-books
2006-09-04 21:34:54 · answer #3 · answered by Jagatkarta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
r u the one sterotyping .. relax enjoy your self andit will all come . Getting a gal? BE nice and she will come as for a stoner um I thought they said that 15 yrs ago
2006-09-04 21:20:53 · answer #4 · answered by iamblessed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself. When you do that, you'll find the niche of society which makes you happy. Perhaps that niche will change your outward appearance, perhaps it won't. Either way, enjoy the journey. You only have one chance at life!
Oh, and "Prepare to Be Assimilated!" LOL
2006-09-04 20:24:36 · answer #5 · answered by Dave 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you stereotype them also and yourself. You didn't include any personal qualitites about yourself, only physical. So, maybe you need to upgrade what's inside of you, if there is anything.
2006-09-04 20:35:03 · answer #6 · answered by beckmat0119 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In todays world it is done by down grading everyone else.
Jerry
2006-09-04 20:23:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋