my parents hate my boyfriend to the point that they will only allow me to see him once or twice per week, and he is not allowed in our house.i know that most of you are thinking he must have done something bad, but he didnt. they think he is rude because he "didnt tell them hello" when he walked into the door, and just went straight to another room.he said hello he is just shy so did not hold conversations with them.i love him with everything i have and want to marry him, i know that if i do my parents will never accept, but i love him and i will be happy. what would you do?
2006-09-04 13:04:17 · 18 answers · asked by shabookie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are living under your parents rules then you should respect there decision. However, if you don't have that long left in the house then put up with what they tell you and when you become 18 move out and make your own decisions. But until that day comes, you should really do as they tell you, besides you owe them that much-they do take care of you @ this point in your life.
2006-09-04 13:15:22 · answer #1 · answered by nattabomb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your parents were over reacting. I am sure he is shy. They should have expected this and made him feel at home/comfortable around all of you together. I have no idea what the future will hold for you, however be insistent that your parents give him another chance. Talk to your b/f and tell him what your parents expect from him. They also want to get to know him obviously. Maybe both parties working together can make a difference in the outcome. Good luck.
2006-09-04 13:13:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are but, I would hold off on the marriage part. If your boyfriend is shy he can still say hi when he enters your parents house, no one is that shy that they can't do that. He could even impress your dad by shaking his hand. Sometimes parents know best, I know you don't want to hear that but, take it from someone who should of listened to her parents about a boy once. good luck
2006-09-04 13:08:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anna Z 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents love you..trust that one. They may see something very different than you do, and if I were you, I would sit down and talk to them quietly, without the histeria, and find out exactly what they see that is wrong. And I would listen to them. They may be right, they may be wrong..but this is not going to be good unless everyone is on the same page. Your boyfriend may need to have a good heart to heart with them also. Good luck
2006-09-04 13:18:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all he should have told them Hi, but you need to tell your parents that he is shy, that would seam rude, what if you went to his house and his parents acted like you were not there it might make you feel funny. have all of them to get together and set down and talk about it, maybe you can get it all worked out. GOOD LUCK, let us know what happens.
2006-09-04 13:11:09 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok..how long have u been seeing this guy? Have ur parents tried to get to know him over dinner or something? Ur parents really aren't being fair. Sometimes people screw up first impressions and that my take some coaxing to get over. try to get them together and be civil to eachother. If he is as great as u think he is, ur folks should come around
2006-09-04 13:09:49 · answer #6 · answered by Firefly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents that he is shy and ask them to make an attempt to have a nice conversation with him. That should straighten things out.
2006-09-04 13:07:33 · answer #7 · answered by wizo1fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, your boyfriend was wrong. If he entered your parents house then he should have showed them some sign of respect, that is just how it goes. Now he needs to make up for it if he wants to be with you. I agree that was rude.
2006-09-04 13:50:46 · answer #8 · answered by Angel D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never be able to be happy if your parents don't like him. There has to be another reason besides "he didn't say hello". I think you are in denial about the real reasons they don't like him.
2006-09-04 13:06:55 · answer #9 · answered by Hot Pants 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents didnt like my husband b/c i taked on the phone and saw him but he never talked to them. ( he was also shy) we have been happily married for 3 years. my parents still (i dont think) have talked to him but i dont care i love him and i wont pressure him intotaking to them if he doesnt want to.
2006-09-04 13:09:15 · answer #10 · answered by katherine h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋