Does anyone not like stereotypical gay people?

Question

Why do people believe they have to follow a stereotype? Are you the kind of person who doesn't like it? I personally can't stand it but I'm sure you could tell that already. I just think you should act like yourself, and not have to be a stereotype to be something!

Lol, your answers are all to good I feel crappy about coming up with this question now.

Except Jimmy Dean, who ironicly sounds immature. If you are who you are, arn't you perpetuate the existance of you being a stereotype, by being so offended? But I digrese, I was kind of being stupid. But still.

Answer 1

I don't think that gay people who fit the stereotypes are doing so on purpose- they're just acting the way they feel natural. What I DO hate is that the media seems to thrive on showing almost exclusively the wrist-flapping, lisp-talking, drag-dressing, effeminite men as the ONLY gay people in the community. THAT, more than anything else, is what reinforces these stereotypes.

Please don't get me wrong... I have NOTHING against these types, but they only represent a fraction of the gay community, but are represented as what gay are all about.

Answer 2

Let's see. My son is gay. And he would rather gnaw off his own arm than admit he is somewhat stereotypical. He loses patience with people who are more animated than he is and with stereotypical depictions of gay men on tv (i.e. Jack on Will and Grace etc) He loved Brokeback because he felt it was the first time he saw gay characters in a main stream movie that were just average masculine men and he enjoyed the forward story telling etc. These are very valid opinions. But at the same time he is naturally a feminine type person. He doesn't put it on or show off and he doesn't try to hide it either (thank God). His boyfriend on the other hand is just as straight appearing as can be. And I believe that he too is just behaving naturally. My point being is that even though they are two people behaving naturally, one of them is still more outgoing and more stereotypical than the other. My son is often mistaken for a woman on the phone. He expressed to me when he was about 14 how annoyed and offended and embarrased he was when my friends always thought he was me on the phone (I never even knew this was happening until he told me). I can assure you that this was a source of great humiliation, and he would have gladly changed it if he could. Our voices are identical and he's now an adult. I don't have a particularly high pitch but I've never been called sir on the phone where he is sometimes called ma'am. So just because someone behaves or expresses themselves in a way that you would call stereotypical, it doesn't mean that they aren't acting like themselves. I think you should work on tolerating stereotypical gay people the same way you would tolerate someone like a co-worker or a neighbor that has an annoying personality. If a child is acting out for attention (which is how I view someone who is acting in an annoying manner and not being themselves) I would treat them like a child and ignore them. I wouldn't give them the attention they are seeking. Just like a 3 yr old they are trying to push your buttons and test your boundaries. You may view them with more sympathy if you just look at them as being childish.

Answer 3

There are parts of the gay stereotype I like... the part that they have an eye for design, sensitive, funny, clean..... the part I dont like is the flamboyant part, the one that has to "be gay" every second of the day. Straight people don't talk about their sex life or their straightness all the time, gay people shouldn't either. I cant stand Gay Pride Parades, I think it hurts the cause much more than it helps.

Answer 4

I think it takes all kinds to make a world work, and some of the funniest people I have know have acted, at times, stereotypically..so what! It is called camp, and can be funny as hell. Why do you have such a hang up?

Answer 5

Yes they are annoying but only if they are being that way to try to be like someone else. I don't normally act like the stereotypically gay guy (jack on will and grace) but I do things once in a while just for the hell of it. In front of my girl friends that know I'm gay I can queen out big time but all in fun and more just to make a funny impression. I dunno. I say just be yourself and who cares what other people think.

Answer 6

Well, yeah, there are a lot of people out here that hate stereotypical gay people, and yes, I agree with you that a lot of people act like a stereotype because they think they have to, but I don't really hate them, I just feel bad for them, and I pity them. On the other hand, I guess you could call ME the stereotypical gay guy, and I'm proud of that too. But I honestly don't act like it because I think I should, or I think it's cool or anything, I'm truly being me, and if being me means being a stereotype, then thats great. First of all, I like it because for so long I tried to hide my sexuality, and so I had to act like a totally different person because I knew that beneath that, I AM a stereotypical gay man; I talk like a gay man (not with that annoying lisp, but with that gay man voice), I dress like a gay man (bright and beautful colors darling, dark colors are cool, but I like to wear more of the colors of the rainbow, because they feel like me), I walk like a gay man (now this I've only been told, because I don't see myself when I walk, and it just feels natural to me, and I don't see any difference, except that I know I walk with a little confidence and self-respect as opposed to the many str8 guys that walk hunched over, with their hand on their crotch), and I knew that if I were to be the real me, I'd be labeled as a queer, and back when and where I went to middle school, it wasn't as accepted as it is now. So I tried to change my social appearance (by the way, it didn't work, because they all knew I was queer anyways, I guess I may be a little TOO stereotypical to hide it all). Not that I'm out and proud, I enjoy being that "stereotypical gay man", because frankly, that was me all along. Also, and I'm going to be totally honest about this, but I love the attention I get without even trying. Yeah, I could be gay and not be as noticeable, but a) I'd have to work at that because it's kind of hard NOT to notice I'm queer, and b) because I'm adored for being who I am, an ultimate gay guy, and I don't even have to work at it, because it comes naturally. I personally think thats a great deal, don't you? Like I said, I totally agree that people should be who they are instead of being who they aren't for attention or whatever other reasons they have; but, if you've got it, flaunt it down that runway, honey; and I most definitley have it, so I'm going to strut my stuff, while at the same time, keeping it real. Always and forever, loves,
~!*Justy Bean*!~

Answer 7

I agree. Heterosexually gay guys (queens) are the worst! They make good guys look bad and make turds shitt on us all the more. Turds and hos think every gay guy is a screaming, flaming queen who thinks he's a girl and speaks with a lisp. Whenever heterosexuals think about the word "gay", they automatically think about the word "queen" or the image of a queen. Heterosexually gay guys must become male-to-femaile post-op transsexuals. I finally see the reason why the Lesbian GODDESS invented real heterosexuals, plastic surgeons, ex-gay therapists, Christians, and psychiatrists.

P.S. I have nothing against queens. Some of my best friends are queens.

Answer 8

I'm uncomfortable around people who behave in a stereotypical way whether they are gay or not. It's hard to trust someone with a borrowed personality.

Answer 9

Flagged. You've already asked this question in another form today. So you're not asking questions so much as you're waging a campaign.

Get over it.

Answer 10

I find them highly annoying most of the time.
I'm friends with only a selected few from the sterotypical category.
I don't know why most society thinks that all gays are that way.
I hate it that they do. There is a whole spectrum of different types.