2006-09-04 12:08:52 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I did not and should not have to ask his opinion or permission for that matter, the damn room is pink and if he don't like it then he can sleep his *** outside with the neighbors mangy dog.
2006-09-04 12:24:01 · update #1
he's just trying to show authority. stay with whatever color you want. he'll get over it.
2006-09-04 12:10:40 · answer #1 · answered by Walter K 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Because your man doesn't want to spend his time in a girly pink bedroom! Why would you do something that big to the home you SHARE without consulting him?? What would you think if he painted your living room black and put up posters of naked women on motorcycles and neon beer lights, oh he could take out the sofa and put in a pool table....he would probably think that was great fun, you would probably have an issue with it? Why would that be an issue for you? Whatever your answer is, thats why this is an issue for him...and don't say BUT!
2006-09-04 12:15:59 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may not have to get your husbands opinion on changes to your home but it is his home to . It would be nice if you asked his opinion and why he felt that way. Maybe you could have come to an agreement about what rooms he could keep macho and what you could keep frilly. Men hate frilly. Its a macho thing. But then again most woman wouldn't want a manly room either. Would you want him to paint it a color your truly hate without consulting you first? What if he wanted black walls and purple carpet or something. Really give him a break. Maybe you could blend it out a little bit more so you can barely tell its pink but he might be happier. If you had asked him first he wouldn't be upset and you wouldn't be asking why its an issue.
2006-09-04 12:59:43 · answer #3 · answered by smile4u 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you seen "How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days"? Me either, but if you have seen the trailer there is the scene where the girl puts a pink toilet seat cover and other girly stuff in the guys bathroom---it's like that: it transforms his/their space to her space and doesn't take his taste or style (or masculinity) into account. Pink is associated with cute little girls, tea parties, and grandmothers to many men, and isn't something they would want to be put into any of their major living spaces without some advanced notice.
2006-09-04 12:15:38 · answer #4 · answered by M L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you have took over your shared space is how he sees it. Meaning that it went from "our" bedroom. To "your" pink palace. He probably sees it as not having anything in there as his anymore. That you totally took away is personal items to cover everything in you. Think about it, what if he just instantly one day, decorated your bedroom in all star wars or whatever total guy thing he likes, all over the bedroom. Do you think you would feel comfortable or like the look of the room that way? Wouldn't you feel none of your stuff is out to give it a touch of "our" space or even "your" space. Same is true for him, you just took it upon yourself and girlied up your bedroom and now he doesn't have any "his" space anymore since everything is pink now.
2006-09-04 12:14:36 · answer #5 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your attitude suggests...no screams that you are immature, self-centered and just plain mean. Why didn't you ask him his opinion before painting your br pink? No man wants to sleep in a pink bedroom. The dog is probably more affectionate than you anyway. Lots of luck!
2006-09-04 14:24:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is probably mad because he has a wife who is not respecting him and is unable to realize the fact that it is HIS ROOM TOO and he deserves equal say.
I think you should take your overbearing behind and apologize to him for not consulting him or respecting his opion on something that obviously matters to him. And learn to be a good wife. Marriage is a two way street, hon.
Also for someone who talks a lot of smack about making her husband sleep outside, you sure were opposed to a spouse "punishing" another spouse in your OTHER question, weren't you?
Look up the term "DOUBLE STANDARD"-I bet you'd be pixxed TOO if he made a major decision without consulting you
2006-09-04 12:56:58 · answer #7 · answered by Sunny And '74 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is an issue because you should have discussed this with him before you went ahead on your own. Is this marriage a partnership or what? Why do you take the attitude that if he doesn't like it, he can go sleep somewhere else. Do you really want to stay married to him? If you do, then I suggest you apologize, and ask him what you could do to make amends. Couples must work together in decision making of their lives together.
2006-09-04 12:51:13 · answer #8 · answered by doggoneit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men generally don't like "girly" colors. Why would you change your bedroom to pink - that shows that you don't really care what he thinks. At least try to keep it neutral with blue or purple, but I mean, pink is a bit too girly. Why not pick a color out with your husband so you are both happy.
2006-09-04 12:10:35 · answer #9 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its just the walls that are pink,you can tone it down by using chocolate brown and geometric prints to make it seem less girly. That's probably his main objection. If he has a strong dislike for the color for whatever reason then it would have been wiser to consult him first but maybe you could get him to come around by telling him that pink makes you VERY amorous.
2006-09-04 12:35:55 · answer #10 · answered by jidwg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys don't like Pink. No matter what shade it is. Now he's going to feel uncomfortable being in there because it's not going to feel like a shared room, but more like he's invading your "turf".
It would have been better to choose a neutral color for your bedroom.
2006-09-04 12:12:28 · answer #11 · answered by my_lil_buttercups 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋