i have been asked pleanty of time to have sex with my boyfriends i have always turn them down and said i don't feel comfortable but now i feel that i am ready. 16 year old and on birth control and very responbible, but like i am afaird that having sex for my first time because i know it will hurt because sometime getting fingered even hurts and the sad thing is they only use 2. I know i am really tight. So what do i do to over come the fear of pain because that is the only thing that is holding me back. Thanks!
2006-09-04 11:55:43 · 8 answers · asked by Kaula Bear 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
How does the first time feel like? You'll likely experience some pain and a touch of bleeding as your hymen is being removed to allow entry of the penis.
Before the act, discuss some things with your partner like:
1) how he's suppose to be gentle and take his time.
2) how you should be properly lubed, and him wearing a condom.
3) how there should be lots of foreplay to help you lubricate down there.
4) how he should insert himself a bit at a time to allow your vagina to adjust to this new entry and also allows you to relax more while some pleasurable foreplay continues.
It shouldn't be long before full entry is completed and a slow rhythm is established. If it's done right with time and patience then the first time can feel good enough.
Don't rush into having sex but since you feel that the time is right then go about it the best way.
2006-09-04 12:06:00 · answer #1 · answered by sunshine25 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax and enjoy, if it does hurt then you aren't ready. Make sure he puts the effort into turning you on properly first! Don't do it just because you feel pressured, either.
Remember that you'll probably bleed the first time, completely normal! It's also normal if you don't. Every woman is different, don't feel like you have to do it coz he wants it, if he loves you then he'll be prepared to wait.
2006-09-04 12:00:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a vibrator that has the shape of a penis use lubricant and work on your vagina until you can put the vibrator in without pain. Make sure the first guy you have sex with is knowledgeable enough to know what to do for a girl's first time.
2006-09-04 11:58:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes this pain is a pleasure. Keep thia in mind, go ahead, ask your partner to insert penis slowly. But dont rush, provide enough time for both to have the parts wet enough
2006-09-04 19:30:14 · answer #4 · answered by Gopal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually if he already uses two fingers then the girth of a penis isnt that much of a difference. and you are only 16 and too young to have sex and your gut is telling you not to so follow your instinct not your hormones
2006-09-04 12:03:25 · answer #5 · answered by lovely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its like removing a band aid, it will only hurt for a second.
2006-09-04 11:58:55 · answer #6 · answered by Evil Homer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grin and bear it like every woman has to , no matter what the first time hurts theres no getting around that , sorry
2006-09-04 12:10:26 · answer #7 · answered by jojo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wouldnt you like to wait until marriage to have sex so its more special?
2006-09-04 12:03:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋