my friends tell me that i am stalking my ex boyfriend but i am really worry about him and i want to talk to him so bad. i really love him so much and i don't want to hurt him anymore then i have.....
2006-09-04 11:39:13 · 17 answers · asked by shygirlelm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I hear you. I have a hard time letting go. Even if I am the one that ended it. Which the case has always been. After their gone I start thinking. Maybe that's the best i could do? Maybe I'll end up alone for the rest of my life? Never find love again? Drive myself crazy wondering what their doing, who their with, if their thinking about me?
You could make a career out of this. There's a reason you guys are not together. Now you need to think about and help yourself heal.
1)Every time you think about calling him. Wait an hour. Then wait another hour. If you still want to call. Get away from the phone or call a friend.
2)Just by calling to say "Hi' Your holding onto that connection. Take it day by day. Say to yourself."I will not call him today."
3) Write him a letter, telling him how you feel. Then tear it up. Do this every time you want to talk to him. Keep a journal. Include ever fight, every bad time, every time you were not happy.
4) If you get in the car with the intention of driving by where he is, or walking. Force yourself to go in the other direction.
5) Avoid places you may run into him
I have found keeping busy helps. Don't try not to think about him.It only makes you think about him more. It takes a full year to get over someone. But you have to let go, grieve, hurt and move on. Good luck
2006-09-04 11:54:58 · answer #1 · answered by Balou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done the whole stalking thing ( i didn't think i was ) but all my friends did. The point is if he wanted to talk to you then he would call you, you should leave it alone and if he "loves" you then he'll come back around....
2006-09-04 11:48:51 · answer #2 · answered by Ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly care about this person perhaps consider making a personal sacrifice and leave him to his own destiny. I'm truly sorry to say this, but if an ex were to not let you go and continue to try to stay in contact what would you call that? Would you be happy about it? Try to look beyond yourself and see the needs of the other person, I do hope you'll make a good decision for both of your sakes.
2006-09-04 11:44:22 · answer #3 · answered by ron k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r indeed stalking him & this is a bad & potentially dangerous situation sweet girl. u may love him but he is done, over, finito...give it a break. find another guy 2 put your love & attention 2. obviously he has had enough of the nut behavior & so has your family..direct that energy 2 a wiser cause. no man is worth jail & stalkers do get jail time now.
2006-09-04 11:45:48 · answer #4 · answered by virgo1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to hurt him anymore than you have, then the best thing might be to let him go. In a few months, when things have cooled down a bit, it might be OK to call or email him to see how he is, but if you do it now, he won't be very receptive.
Hope this helps!
2006-09-04 11:41:29 · answer #5 · answered by rita_alabama 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you need to accept the fact that it is over. Try to find a hobby to take up some of your time. There has to be a reason your relationship is over. Anytime you are tempted to contact him call a friend instead. Good luck
2006-09-04 11:42:57 · answer #6 · answered by melhtims 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first, you gotta quit stalking him. If he wants to talk to you he will. Other than that, leave him alone and give it time.
2006-09-04 11:41:12 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stop cold turkey. Period. Move on.
Easier said than done, but it just isn't worth stewing over this guy. This phase in your life is over. Just think, the best is yet to come.
2006-09-04 11:42:20 · answer #8 · answered by wotana02 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You still love and care for him. You can't accept the truth that it's over. Move on with your life and think of your future. If he really care for you, this won't happen. Give him his freedom......Babe
2006-09-04 11:44:18 · answer #9 · answered by SNOWMAN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are hurting him by stalking him. it shows no trust towards him and immaturity also. you have hurt him enough .let him come to you .
2006-09-04 11:42:49 · answer #10 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋