I would like to know what people think when it comes to being with someone and if their physical attributes really matter. I am not that big but not that skinny and I found out that my ex really wanted to look for someone better in physical terms. I thought that when you love someone, that shouldn't really matter, but maybe I am wrong. What do people think about this? Does having big breasts, or a big butt really matter at the end? What is it that really matters to a person or guy when it comes to choosing to be with a girl or loving someone?
2006-09-04 11:31:19 · 24 answers · asked by Lessons_in_life10 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes. It's not necessarily and of the things always talked about, figure, boobs, derriere etc. It's just an individual look that makes the guy's heart stop, just looking at her.
And that is different from one guy to the next. As the Germans say 'One man's owl is another's nightingale'.
Of course guys who are only into se*x (not love) they'll tell you that you can always put a sack over the woman's head. If that is your preference, then so be it.
That's not me.
Nature has us looking for someone physically attractive since that goes with good health. Hey even the birds do that. Females look for the brightest colors and the most beautiful nest. Bad birds! (sic)
2006-09-04 11:32:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, no, and maybe so. The more important question you should be asking is what he wants out of the relationship. If a guy just wants a physical realtionship, physical attributes are important (which is subjective based on whether he likes big or small breasts, plump or slender butt, etc.). For an enduring, loving relationship, physical attributes are still very important for the intial attraction to eachother, and creating the conditions to eventually fall in love.
2006-09-04 18:42:35 · answer #2 · answered by preludicrous 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look, alot of people say most guys are dogs an are like that or most woman are dogs and are like that but thats not the case the case is..... BEAUTY IS IN THE EYE OF THE BEHOLDER
you chose someone who was after the cover and not whats in it. I try to make myself beautiful for myself and and if my man doesn't like it then he can find someone else becuase I have more to offer than just good looks.
Of course looks come into play at some point but a real mature person also looks at whats on the inside.
I like my men big. Not fat not skinny but beefy and clean. what I look for past that is a good personality and what other things he has to offer. THere have been many times when I have met a new man and at first he was U.G.L.Y but then I took the time to get to know who he was on the inside and all the sudden like a wave of the wond he was GEORGOUS
2006-09-04 18:38:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The physical attributes definitely do catch the eye.
But upon further discussion, if I find her to be an airhead, I start looking elsewhere. And if you think about it, the knockout girls will always have a guy hitting up on her. I prefer a woman in between.
2006-09-04 18:34:16 · answer #4 · answered by Yes 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sadly, evolution as programmed men to pick women based pretty-much solely on physical attributes.
We are unconsciously looking for women that display signs of good health, look to be 20 to 30 years of age, not too fat or too thin.
Women fitting this profile are likely to have the best chance of producing healthy children. And that is what sex is all about -- even if we're just "going through the motions."
2006-09-04 18:39:00 · answer #5 · answered by Jay 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
To some people it does and you should not forget that some people choose unattractive people because they themselves have low self esteem and do not think they deserve better. If you feel like you lost because of your appearance you probably won. Work out, get yourself in good shape, and then ignore the person who dumped you. There is always someone for everyone and fortunately we all have different desires.
2006-09-04 18:39:27 · answer #6 · answered by daydoom 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it really depends on their maturity level. If that guy wanted someone with a great body rather than a great personality its his loss(I'm sorry BTW..) But not all guys are like that. For instance I'm 5'3 and weigh 139 and my boyfriend is 6'1 and in really great shape; but he doesn't care that I don't look like a supermodel. That stuff doesn't really matter to uys who are mature enough to look beyond the surface, that said thing is, there aren't many of them.
2006-09-04 18:41:30 · answer #7 · answered by Cat 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It should not matter whatsoever how one looks. Big (*&, or big &^%%. Who cares. If that is all someone - man or woman - is interested in then they are not interested in loving that person. I have been married for 24 years, and if looks were all that mattered to me or my husband, we might be divorced. We are older, and physical things change. Find someone that likes - loves you because your smile is sweet, your laugh brightens their day, your voice makes them feel safe, but not because they think your physical attributes are HOT!
2006-09-04 18:37:27 · answer #8 · answered by Emma 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Then thing I think matters most, is, if they can stand to be around each other, really enjoy each others company, and, if they can actually, get past that, then comes friendship, trust, and then, those beautiful Breasts, and whatever else come with the package, is what we get. Of coursre who are we, Rock Hudsons ?
2006-09-04 18:39:12 · answer #9 · answered by julie1721@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he dumped you for physical appearances, that is an internal issue with himself. when someone truly loves you they won't care what you look like. appearances are what attracts people in the beginning, so if was with you then changed his mind, he didn't really love you OR he is so overcome by the pressures of the media that he went against his own feelings to find someone "better". either way, you don't need to deal with that.
2006-09-04 18:34:26 · answer #10 · answered by advicemom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋