Hi i'm very shy and feel that i have difficulty connecting with people. I've made a few close friends but they all live kinda far away so it's hard to get together on the weekends and we all get busy with our schoolwork.
The people i hang out with at school are very quiet, so we don't really talk much except when someone needs something ("can i borrow your math book?"). They are not enthusiastic about spending more time together when i ask. Sometimes i try to sit with other people, but then i just feel lost in the crowd and really out of place.
I'm also an only child, and my parents (who are divorced) are often working or with their fiances (not that i don't like them, but i don't particularly wanna spend time with them either. I like having my family around without "outsiders").
My friends and I were closer than ever this last summer, because we got together every weekend and had a great time. I don't wanna lose touch with them. I'm so afraid of losing people. Please help!
2006-09-04 11:27:23 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My really close friends mentioned above don't go to the same school.
2006-09-04 11:28:22 · update #1
You're in school and that's a great place to meet all kinds of new and interesting people.
Now is the time when you should be trying to find schools clubs and/or organizations to get involved in. And, since you know all of the quiet people already, try to pick a club or organization that has more outgoing people in it. But, any extracuricular involvement with others is a perfect place to start. It's a little tougher to make new friends if you're shy, but you know you want more friends and that's the first start.
Getting new friends doesn't mean that you lose your old friends, it just means you make room in your life for new friends too.
2006-09-04 11:38:57 · answer #1 · answered by live2ride 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop thinking of people as being "outsiders." Your parents fiance's, who will be your step parents should not be viewed as outsiders - they are part of your family. You need to let some of your walls down and start putting yourself in a position to interact and meet people. You aren't going to make any new friends or get to know people better if you don't start talking to other people and getting involved in life.
Try joining a sports team or an after school club of some sort. That way, you will be able to meet a bunch of people that have the same interests that you have.
2006-09-04 18:31:57 · answer #2 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know how you feel. It's very hard to spend time with my friends. I feel sometimes like they aren't really my friends. They're always busy it seems. Just keep asking. And maybe do go spend time with your parents and their fiances when they ask it might actually be nice.
2006-09-04 18:32:02 · answer #3 · answered by Dora 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hi i am very shy too so i understand how overwhelming it can be to talk to other people, i am off to sixth form soon and scared out of my mind. when i was in yr 8 i didnt talk to barely anyone. in year 9 my mates mocked me for being quiet, year 10 made friends. wot u have to do is try to build bridges with people and make light conversation on things u have in common or interests, trust me light conversation will make u friends cos i was scared when i got to help at martial arts when the other people teaching didnt talk to me and i had to make convo now all of them are my mates ones my best mate
2006-09-04 18:38:36 · answer #4 · answered by transferredmalice 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ask them if you can still do it.
2006-09-04 18:31:16 · answer #5 · answered by mimi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So sad !!
2006-09-04 18:29:07 · answer #6 · answered by Israel G 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋