My husband and I have been married for a month, been together for 5 1/2 years and have a 7 month old son. We're both in college and busy but he never wants to take me out. I haven't been on a date in months. It just seems like I'm just his best friend. The sex life is great, he'll be romantic in the bedroom but thats it. I've told him it'd be nice if we could go out but whenever we get a free night (babysitter for the baby and all) he makes plans without me. I hate to nag, which I'm always afraid of doing but i don't know what to do anymore? The other night I offered to take him out and he scheduled himself to work when he wasn't before, which he said was an accident, i understand but he could have least tried to make up for it? Help!?
2006-09-04 10:50:12 · 8 answers · asked by Gone2PickApples 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Spending time a lone at least once a week is what keeps a marriage together, even if it means going for walks in the park. I think that you should have a heart to heart talk with your husband about this and find out why it is that he does not want to go out.
I think you should let him know how you feel. There are ways of doing it without "Nagging" be calm about it and let him know that you really want to get a way for a while and that you want to enjoy some time with him away from the house. If he doesn't give maybe counseling is needed.
2006-09-04 10:59:45 · answer #1 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, he needs to push that romance a little farther out of the bedroom. Making plans without you is unacceptable all the time. Sure he can go out, but then can't he go out with his friends anytime while you watch the baby?
So when you have a babysitter, push to make it a night for the two of you alone. Offer to watch the baby one night so he can go out with his friends, and tell him the night you have a babysitter is about the two of you. If he doesn't want to spend that time with you, there are deeper problems that need resolved.
Believe me, you are not nagging. If he makes you feel like you are, then that is his problem, not yours. Doesn't sound like you are happy, and fact is, he should want you happy.
2006-09-04 18:10:07 · answer #2 · answered by creativefisher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you both need to do is to take time out to communicate with each other. Where you both can really express how you are feeling in the relationship. Here is a question for you, did he take you out before you got married. Did you go out on the town during your 5 1/2 years of dating?
2006-09-04 17:58:17 · answer #3 · answered by TBobb 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont feel like your being a nag, take a stance in this marriage. Take back your husband, who cares if the relationship is stail or cold.
2006-09-04 17:54:03 · answer #4 · answered by Baghdad Pete ! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you two need a set aside date night 1 night a week.
2006-09-04 18:12:36 · answer #5 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Hate to say it, but take a good, long look at your handle (Y! Answers username)...
I would venture a guess that your husband only sees you as "Noah's Mommy" too - clearly you've lost a bit of your own identity in little Noah....
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Sorry.
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2006-09-04 19:08:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
two thing come to mind,he is seeing some else.and that could be the problem.
or you are ugly and fat because you had a kid.
2006-09-04 17:58:12 · answer #7 · answered by dask 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe you should try another date.. but don't tell him.. make it a surprise...
2006-09-04 17:55:13 · answer #8 · answered by Lyne B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋