ive been seeing this lad for four months, the thing is he has a girlfriend, but he says he wants to leave her for me but im sick of waiting. i really like him and we spend loads of time together and are always textin&phoning eachother. i told him i was moving away and he got upset and said he wants me to stay but is it worth it? if he wont commit to me by dumping her? HELP i love him.
2006-09-04 10:47:46 · 21 answers · asked by vixon 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
its hard when the guy is already taken but u should listen 2 ur heart & not ur head. if its saying stay then give him an ultimatum & just say its either u or her. if he really feels 4 u then he,ll come running. ask ur self. what has this other girl got that keeps him there? good luck
2006-09-04 10:52:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Love is a complicated situation. I have to agree that if he really loved you why hasn't he left his girlfriend! If you give him an ultimatum that will be the test. Give him a certain amount of time, and if he still doesn't leave his g/f then go ahead with your plans to move away. He obviously wants to have his cake and eat it too. He can't have both, and you can't stick around waiting forever for him to make up his mind. Go on with your life, there is someone out there for you.
(An afterthought) Do you know for a fact that he has a g/f? He could just be saying that so as not to commit.
2006-09-04 18:16:12 · answer #2 · answered by allyp51 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your time on this guy!
If he says he wants to leave her for you he would have done it by now. Plus the fact that he's fooling around on his girlfriend only means he's an ***!!!
What makes you think he'll act any differently with you if you become his girlfriend?? You'll be going out with him and then wondering all the time if he's treating some other girl the way he did you.
I've been out with enough idiot men in my life to realise this guy is one that is not worth it...get a decent boyfriend who will respect you and someone you will be able to trust.
2006-09-04 18:38:44 · answer #3 · answered by Lalalala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I'd say you should cut your loses and dump him. could u ever trust someone that u know has been seeing two people at once.
Sometimes us guys have a bad habit of saying what sounds best and not what we really mean, and that's from experience,
I'm sure your a lovely lass who is capable of finding someone that that's more of a realist other than a dreamer and honest, it ain't too much to ask.
Hope it works out for you, best wishes :)
2006-09-04 18:00:58 · answer #4 · answered by biker4life103 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your letting yourself be the other girl! Don't be her!! Do you realize what your saying...we love each other but he has another girlfriend?? He's cheating on you to. If he really loved you as much as you think he does he would of left her for you. He's telling you what you want to hear because he has been getting away with it for 4 months. Move away and you'll find someone who loves you as much as you love them...start making decisions for yourself and not vice-versa!
2006-09-04 18:22:33 · answer #5 · answered by Kit Katt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not worth it, he's already in a relationship and if he really wanted to be with you like he says he would have already ended his current relationship before you told him you were moving, he is just stringing you along, besides why would you want a guy who is cheating behind his girlfriends back by phone calls, and texts if he can do it to her then the exact same thing can also happen to you, so just move on from this situation so you don't continue getting strung along.....
2006-09-04 17:53:13 · answer #6 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is disgraceful that you are letting him do that to his woman. i mean does that not show you what kinda guy you are askin for commitment from,how would you like this to be happening to you behind your back. I feel really sorry for his partner. I was told about this guy who slept with a woman then went on to marry his girlfriend & although it was 18yrs ago i was going to tell his wife that he cheated loads before he married her.
2006-09-04 18:40:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont love him, he has two girls 'on the go' wayyyheey'
he is probably the happiest guy in the world and you are a sucker.
Why not wait for him until he does leave her because after all, he is sooo nice and loves you soooo much that he would never do that to you...no wait, he's doing it right now, he is with her
SUCKER
2006-09-04 17:52:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dump him and move on!!! If he's cheating on her then he'll cheat on you, thats if he ever leaves her for you!!! Move away asap and it will be easier for you, the longer you stay the harder it will get to leave. He is soo not worth it!!
2006-09-04 17:57:43 · answer #9 · answered by cheryl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, of COURSE, he's worth it. Why would you have any doubt whatever that a guy who is cheating on a girlfriend would be worth the wait? Of COURSE, he'll change for you. Of COURSE your love will make him change into a faithful person. Of COURSE he won't do to you what he did to her.
2006-09-04 17:55:46 · answer #10 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋