My boyfriend has suggested anal sex and it scares the Sh*t out of me. Is it really that painful. I would like 2 but am too chicken
2006-09-04 10:46:08 · 14 answers · asked by Tumi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yep. It's painful and I don't like it. But my honey likes it so I let him. Just make sure you have lots of lotion and make him go slow at first. That's the only thing I can recommend.
2006-09-04 10:51:09 · answer #1 · answered by Phyllobates 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Getting It In The Butt
2016-10-19 10:02:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first girl friend in high school wanted anal and I wasn't sure I wanted to as I'm not big on doggy style.
She "taught me how", still not my fav but have had other GF's that wanted/liked anal also.
Relax the best you can, I start with a finger (with condom so finger nail doesn't cut/scratch) plenty of lube, but not messy drippy, slowly - note slowly in case you need to remind the bf - work the finger around the anal edge then begin to slip the finger in. Your anals will resist a bit/a lot, again relax best you can. Do it one finger segement at a time. Tighten anal around finger then as you relax enter next segement then repeat for. Then start over, with 2 fingers, same thing one finger segment at a time. I have learned / found that doing this about 3 times lubes everything up and by that point you will know if you want/need a break before continuing or saying - ok buddy that's quite enough of that.
Those that enjoy it, seem to love it, those that don't are just as happy I'm not that big on doing it.
The pain part - as I've been told by GFs - is lack of lube, slamming it in - even when your both lubed up, and not "warming up to it" (fingers stretching the anal).
I had one gf that wanted no lube, I found it somewhat painful/difficult to enter and do not recommend it (she loved the pain which was kinda scary)
Hope that helps some.
2006-09-04 11:14:23 · answer #3 · answered by charlie_2you 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-03-20 06:35:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-03 01:24:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its ridiculous (and Im a man) If all of that good p***y is not enough then dump him. Guys are just getting into that because its the latest thing in the porn industry. I dont live my life to emulate what is happening in porn. Like I am not turned on by two ladies getting it on - I think thats a waste of two good p****es!
2006-09-04 10:58:53 · answer #6 · answered by worriedaboutyou 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it all depends. If you are on hands and knees can we say owwwwww. But if you stand up with your back to him or spoon in bed. Its not so bad. But i dont like it much myself. I think it feels like you are constipated and trying to take a dump that will not come out.
2006-09-04 10:50:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If done right it won't hurt, but you will feel some pressure, he must relax you by, licking and kissing your rectum, tongue it, then finger it, and use so sort of lube. But I believe you should save that for your life mate.
2006-09-04 10:50:10 · answer #8 · answered by billking44039 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lube up alot and take it very slow. RELAX and make him take it easy. After a couple times, you will love it.
2006-09-04 10:59:34 · answer #9 · answered by dirkdiggler9999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For first timers, it will hurt. Try using ice and lube. Once you get into it, it will not be so bad.
2006-09-04 10:49:18 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. Ma'am 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋