This guy I have been seeing for sometime now, moved away because of his job. I care about him a lot, and I've told him that several times. However, he isn't the commitment type, he likes to meet new people, have sex, and move on to the next person. He asked me to go with him and go to school where he moves (which is in another state) I don't want to hurt him, but I don;t want to leave all my family and friends to go be with someone that wants to be with other people. Should I follow him, or stay here and just remain friends.
2006-09-04 10:42:12 · 25 answers · asked by ry8617jo 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
So, he wants you to give up everything to be with him, but he won't even commit to being in a monogamous relationship? Forget him, move on!
2006-09-04 10:49:30 · answer #1 · answered by pceej 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, absolutely not. If you do that, you turn yourself into some stupid whore to which many women fall victim all because they did some stupid thing in order to impress some stupid guy (more often than not, broads want to impress some turd, which is idiotic in itself -- the turd is already impressed by the fact that he even got to go near a woman). Also, stop acting like the bitchy queen that you are. It's ugly and scary. You're not a broad. Your ugly camp candy @ss is definitely the reason why he is commitment-phobic. If I was you, I would want to kill myself right now just to get away from myself (yourself). Look at who he has to spend the rest of his life with. I'm puking just from the pure thought of it. I hope you're regurgitating, too. Also, feel the needy urge to become a lesbian as well. That will enormously give you much comfort in your decision to leave your boyfriend. Your boyfriend deserves much better, and you need to lick some pusssy IMMEDIATELY! If he's a queen like you, then you both deserve each other and should go bungee-jumping without the bungee cord.
2006-09-04 18:20:33 · answer #2 · answered by fieldscharlie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say follow your heart. This is how I feel about it and maybe it will help.
It sounds to me like the guy likes, you but he also sounds like someone who likes his freedom too much and he may end up just leaving you empty handed and maybe even with a broken heart. I would be very cautious before making that decision.
If it helps write what you feel down. Think about the situation a while. Go somewhere where you can clear your head a little and think because you don't want to do something that is going to break your heart and cause you grief
I wish you the best! :0)
2006-09-04 17:50:13 · answer #3 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to rread your question. i cannot you are seriously asking if you should go with this person. NO NO NO.. lets see. 1. leave family that cares. 2. he does not care for you the way you care for him. 3. he wants no commitment,,, wants sex.. and wants to get it on with other people. 4. you are in school. 5. you would be in another state. 6.YOU DO NOT WANT TO HURT HIM? believe me... you won't. he is lining up another victim as i type. he does not even deserve your friendship
2006-09-04 17:55:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family is your parental home? I'd say if you're having doubts now, they won't get better when you're together. By the way are you male or female? (this is a gay area). Why does he want you to go to him if he doesn't want to commit?
Am I right in thinking that he just wants you there to take care of him, like run his own private hotel for him, while he runs round and has fun. Forget it. That would be no good for you.
2006-09-04 20:03:46 · answer #5 · answered by Augusta B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay put, dear. This guy just wants company. He is moving to a new area where he doesn't know anyone-yet! As soon as he meets someone compatable, and it's only a matter of time, you will be asked to leave. Trust me. It WILL happen. Stay where you are but it's ok to stay in touch with him.
2006-09-05 12:31:01 · answer #6 · answered by pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u leave ur family for this guy u just said he wasn't the commited type of person so what going leave someone else who loves and cares for u for him and then in the end come back to ur family who cares and loves you...i think i would stay with my family who loves me cares for me...and not be his victim of the next one he chooses
2006-09-04 23:36:14 · answer #7 · answered by sugarbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, NO and NO.
Let me get this straight. He isn't offering you any kind of committment, relationship or stability. Yet you are considering leaving behind everyone you know and love for him?!?
You will seriously regret it if you do. Stay where you are with the people who love you and whom you love. Someone you is actually worth your affection will come along and make you forget all about this selfish jerk!
2006-09-09 20:00:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship is something to be mutually shared... it has *nothing* to do with leaving your family or not!
In other words work on the foundation of the relationship or walk away from it - there are other fish in the sea.
2006-09-10 11:08:24 · answer #9 · answered by guicoder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think staying put is in line, don't you? Remain friends, by all means, but moving is a huge step in commitment, and he is not willing to do that...don't be foolish.
2006-09-04 18:01:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋