did you ever been so mistreated and emotionally abused by men in the past that you have no feelings what so ever to love again?
did you ever had that thought at the back of your head that the one person you love and trust is gonna past you around like a sex object?
have you ever felt like crying ur lungs out because you can't seem to love and be loved? what do you do?
i am loving my self, but i can't love another man anymore. it felt like my heart is like shards of glass shattered all over and i can't pick them up....what do i do?
i do not need stupid answers. this is a serious question...so please....you answers and advise are much appreciated.
how do you find faith in love again?
2006-09-04 10:29:01 · 10 answers · asked by Night Angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
is letting go easy........i still can't
2006-09-05 06:34:01 · update #1
laughinitoff -you are right...it felt like any man who comes near me, i will be filled with so much hatred. i hate to feel like this
2006-09-05 07:30:40 · update #2
I watched a movie last night where a protester was carrying a sign that read 'Nobody Loves and Nobody Gets Hurt'....a take off of on the saying that usually begins 'Nobody Moves...'
If you never try again you will never feel pain again...but you will never feel love again. It sounds like you need time to heal and there is nothing wrong with that. You don't have to ALWAYS be in a relationship. Try focusing on other things for awhile and ease your way back in when you are ready.
Be frank with your eventual dates and let them know you have been hurt and make need to move slowly.
2006-09-04 10:33:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all men are the same, each one is different. Just like we are not all the same. I feel the pain you are having because I've been there. the only thing i can tell you is to feel it, endure it and keep your awareness of the red flags that arise when you do meet someone new. through my experience, I've ignored those red flags and regretted it. Even the ones that don't appear as red flags. like being too nice, too attentive, etc. those are the ones I'm paying for right now. Pain is not always a bad thing, it's there for a reason, and the reason it to learn. I just wished stupidity was painful as well. then maybe men will get a clue!!!
I guarantee if you ask yourself if this will matter in one year exactly, your answer will surprise you and your pain will be gone
Good luck
2006-09-04 10:40:43 · answer #2 · answered by Sherry H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweety I have been there where it felt like the bastard put my heart into a bloody shreder and then fed it to pigs. But one day I decided to pack my tears and jumped back into the dating game. I was in it to stop being lonely and u know the cliche time passd and so did my pain. Love found me again eventually and I have been with this new love for a year now, can u believe it. So hang in there cry until u can't cry no more, then go out there party have fun and the funny thing is life will actally cut u some slack, promise!
2006-09-04 10:38:32 · answer #3 · answered by Tumi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are really hurting. I have been there too. I needed time to heal and accept myself as I was. I also had a lot of prayer support and learned to pour my heart out to God and ask Him what His plan for my life was.
I had to forget about men for a while. Just focus on daily survival. Keep a diary, pour your heart into it. In ten years you can look back and be surprised about how you were feeling. I don't remember much about that time in my life. I tried to kill myself, thinking that being alive was just too painful. Don't go that route. Get help. Turn to God. Seek out friends that will pray and support you emotionally.
This painful part of your life will pass. It may take a few months or a few years, but that is okay. Work on becoming a whole person. Good luck to you! Don't give up.
2006-09-04 10:37:02 · answer #4 · answered by mar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have treated women bad in the past, and have lost love because i wanted to control them and the relationship....I WAS WRONG.
you are special...you are beautiful...you are a woman....you have a good heart and wait for that someone to give it too... and you will...i don't know you, but i have been there, and you will love again i promise.
there is no need to rush, love can't be rushed or it will not last.
loves like a rose...it withers in the winter..and blooms again it the spring...you are that rose and you will blossom again.
you have heard the song "wind beneath my wings", guess what?
you were the wind beneath the wings of those who hurt you, you did your best to keep them in flight...right now i will keep you in flight, yes for a moment I will be your wind..I hope it helps you to see that there are good men out there, and the good one come slowly, but they do come along. sorry for what has happened to you.
be patient.
2006-09-04 10:39:44 · answer #5 · answered by transvainia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're in ask your self. You have been deeply and spiritually wounded via your boyfriend whom you concept grew to become into variety. He betrayed your believe and love. end pretending such as you're comfortable with what he mentioned to you. advance a spine, get indignant and tell him off. He had NO suitable to apply you like that. tell him some thing the two as hurtful like he wasn't the 1st. See how he likes that! you're able to desire to tell him off to regain your self-rather worth and self appreciate. He took that from you. This guy is recommend, cheating and vicious. this could take it sluggish to recover from, yet once you tell him off you will sense a million circumstances greater clever. in case you do not say something and (heaven forbid) proceed seeing him, he will wreck you from the interior out. leave him and don't pass back--ever!
2016-10-01 07:41:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A few years ago, I thought the same as you. Then one day, I told myself I wasn't going to cry anymore. I kept busy, and always kept my guard up for any man that tried to come into my life. Eventually, one was determined to win me over, and I've been with him ever since.
If ever you want to vent about anything, im me at cajuntxkids@yahoo.com,
Take care sweety.
2006-09-04 10:43:57 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Ma'am 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being afraid.Everyone's so worried about getting hurt they're too scared to jump in and try again.Pray to GOD and jump back in.You also need to pray for the ability to LOVE yourself.You say you do but reading your question tells another story.NO ONE can mistreat you unless you let them.If you love yourself you'll never LET someone hurt you.Good luck,there's someone for everyone.
2006-09-05 07:17:15 · answer #8 · answered by hippiegirl672003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sorry for all the pain and the only safe answer is TIME and only TIME will heal you and nothing else my dear so sit back and relax and wait and watch the time go by then soon in the future you will be back on track.
2006-09-04 10:32:42 · answer #9 · answered by pirateron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i felt that way after my ex got another girl pregnant. you just have to have fun by yourself for awhile. learn to be happy without a guy around. after awhile you will find yourself begining to like other people and the pain will fade with time.
2006-09-04 10:32:05 · answer #10 · answered by anonymous 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋