2006-09-04 10:19:40 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Romance with no strings attached : a candlelit supper (a takeaway if you can't cook) for example, but don't expect her to melt into bed afterwards : she needs to feel that she is more than a wife and a mother before she remembers what its like to be a lover
Affection : do you cuddle her every night?
Accept that its not going to be like it was. You are probably not as energetic as you were either, you just haven't noticed yet.
Make her feel attractive : tell her she is beautiful, pay attention to her, grope her bum on the sly when she walks past you.
Massage her back very lightly while she is going to sleep, almost tickling her, at least once a week.
Don't let her know you are pissed off, but do let he know that you still want her.
Leave the kinky stuff unless she shows an interest. If she has two kids under ten, the last thing she needs is pressure to dress up as a french maid or a schoolgirl.
good luck
2006-09-04 10:35:39 · answer #1 · answered by The_Otter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Try talking to her instead of everyone else on the planet.
2. Get off the computer and go and give her a back rub or make her a cup of tea.
3. Make her want you for life and not just in the bedroom.
4. Surprise her, take her away somewhere or indulge her in a luxurious massage
5. Dont involve the kids, its illegal in this country
2006-09-04 17:38:04 · answer #2 · answered by Timmypie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u just gotta try different things. experiment a little (i dont mean signing up at the local fetish club or take an intrest in dogging) just take it slowly at 1st & communication is key here. ask her what her fantasy would be etc. u might think u know her but she may shock u. dont get in2 a routine neither! nothing is worse than "o.k darling it 9:30 on a monday night, lets have sex" wine , dine & even be spontanious like when u 1st met. even a reminder like taking her 2 a place where u 1st were intimate or just doing something unusual? telling her u love her at least 7 times a day & making her feel like the hottest thing since sliced bread works wonders too. have fun
2006-09-04 17:28:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Role Play, Start Taking Scenes. Live Out Your Dreams
2006-09-04 17:24:12 · answer #4 · answered by thecharleslloyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy: I am a married mom of two kids as well, and I can say for certain that I am bored in the bedroom... sex used to be so spontaneous!
I would LOVE it if my husband arranged a "date" night - nice steak dinner, good wine, sexy ambiance etc. and then instead of taking me home, take me to a motel that he'd pre-arranged with music, candles, etc.
It would feel spontaneous, romantic and NEW (and hey: isn't that what we're all missing?)
Good luck!
Natalie
2006-09-04 17:34:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a younger man in and watch him make love to her all in the nude, if you dont like the idea of that try doing it with her in a public place where people can see you.
Try doing it missionary but instead of pumping at 90 mph keep both your hips together in your motion and dont speed up as you feel the hormons awakening keep at the same slow steady speed, and dont stop when you climax keep going.
If you need a younger man for her e-mail me and i will check my diary.
2006-09-04 17:27:59 · answer #6 · answered by Jabba_da_hut_07 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be not interested in you, and too busy with the kids. probably tired and doesn't feel sexy. Ask her whats wrong. She'll tell you I'm sure .Sometimes marriage isn't about sex . it's about a life together. Eventually she'll want you again. When the kids are not so demanding , and you both are in the mood.And her Hormones aren't raging
2006-09-04 17:35:02 · answer #7 · answered by joy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a woman who has just left a 21 year marriage. I would suggest talking to her and find out what SHE wants. The key for both parties is to do what the other wants before you do what you want.
2006-09-04 18:47:16 · answer #8 · answered by geordie_babe2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great to know that there are still good men out there.My opinion.Keep on pursuing her,flirting with her like you did before you got married
Men love sex and women have the gift of sex.Maybe you should clean the house more often.:-)
2006-09-08 16:30:26 · answer #9 · answered by JUSEve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Toys! Bring toys into the bedroom to liven things up a bit.
2006-09-04 18:21:07 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. Ma'am 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋