Im 16 and a lot of my friends are getting pregnant. I counted 6 girls in the last year, and I live in a fairly small town.They all seem very happy, and I was wondering why are none of them upset about being pregnant at such a young age? I know they used protection, but how did so many of them get pregnant? Do you think they did it on purpose? Thanks for answering my question :)
2006-09-04 10:17:18 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Ask yourself this question? Who is supporting responsible for supporting the young mother and newborn child, most probably her parents... That is not being a mother, they simply are baby carriers, because once they have the child they need to put their child on someone else. So they give THEIR burden to THEIR parents. Why would they not be happy, they are not struggling like a real mother would be - paying rent for their own place, they are probably living under their parents roof, they have no responsibility - -
2006-09-04 17:12:11 · answer #1 · answered by Snowwhite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, they just consider their baby to be a blessing, which I believe is true. If they did it on purpose, then they must think that they are ready to be a mom, which is fine. I think that they probably used the protection incorrectly, which happens sometimes. If you aren't ready to be a mom, I am glad that you arent' doing it just because your friends are. Do what is right for you! I'm glad that they are doing the mature thing, and having the baby instead of aborting it. They are showing an amazing amount of responsibility by taking such a thing on at 16, and they may have a hard time ahead of them, but they are being more mature than the 20-30 year olds who abort their babies because they made a "mistake."
And to Scarlett Rose, how did you become an expert on people whom you don't even know? A baby may very well brighten up their lives. Just because you don't like them, doesn't mean others don't.
2006-09-05 13:03:43 · answer #2 · answered by *~HoNeYBeE~* 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I think they were dum and either had a mistake, or wanted someone to love them. I came from a small town and saw the same thing happening, and now years later, those same girls tell me they WISHED they had waited, because now they can't do the things they wanted. I am 27 and when I was 16 I could not stop thinking of having a baby, but I knew anyway I wanted to have one I could, but I knew that a career is not the same way, your career is now or never, so have your career, get married and then have a baby. There are too many problems in this world to bring a baby into one that is already messed up. A baby should never have a baby.
2006-09-04 17:45:21 · answer #3 · answered by Tracy L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you honestly believe that they ALL used protection, perfectly and every time? I highly doubt it. I had a baby when I was 19, not super young but young. I'm in college, married and happy. Sometimes to be happy, you have to accept the circumstances your in and move on. You can't be sad because everyone wants you to, or everyone believes that you screwed up so bad you CAN'T be happy or have you'll always have 'dead-end' jobs. If you do, your life is over. A young mom has to be a mom, and sometimes that means putting on a smile and forging on. But I guarantee you that everyone one of those girls has been or is upset at her circumstances, heck thats true for any new mom (no ones perfect, right?). Being a mom is tough work, no lie. Now I can't speak for every one of those girls, but maybe some did it on purpose, but most likely not, but just because they are happy doesn't mean something is wrong with them.
2006-09-04 18:27:17 · answer #4 · answered by Gone2PickApples 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many factors that play a role when becoming accidently pregnant. It could be that the protection that they used failed. Condoms break, pills can be forgotten, etc. etc. Heck, my cousin is now pregnant because the penicillin in an antibiotic she was taking caused her birth control pills to not work! It's cases like these that make doctors say that you should usually use 2 forms of birth control when having sex to prevent pregnancy.
I don't know why so many of your pregnant friends are happy (I myself would be devestated). Maybe their families are supporting them and the future baby? Maybe they are happy to be pregnant? Maybe they now feel needed? Why not ask them and see why they're happy? Maybe some of them did it on purpose, some women make themselves pregnant in belief that the father will not leave them now that a baby is on the way (which still isn't true and this belief is the WORST reason to want to have a baby). Again it probably varies from future mommy to future mommy.
2006-09-04 17:24:09 · answer #5 · answered by Janelle B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Teenagers aren't warned against pregnancy because it's an unhappy state to be in, but rather because once the baby is born, it's a permanent state to be in. I'm 27 and have no kids and I remember 10-12 years ago when some friends began to have kids in my small town. Since then I've traveled around the world, gone to college, moved to New York City and written a book. Those friends who had kids all those years ago are still in the same small town with a dead-end job and 10-12 year old children. They are still happy mostly, but they have no idea what they've missed out on. Some of them would say they have everything they want, I would always wonder how things could've been different. I guess it depends on your priorities, if you'd like to explore your life and the world, then you might as well wait on the whole kid thing.
2006-09-04 17:25:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You know honey. Teenage preganancy is something that has been around since I can remember. I think all of them are doing it on purpose, but regarless it's a sticky situation. When I was your age I had a little one myself. What young women have to realize is that there is always light at the end of the tunnel. You can do anything you want no matter your situation. Always have faith in yourself and you will go far. There are plenty of programs to help them on their way. Just continue to be supportive and encourtage them to stay strong. It really helps when you have at least one friend who not judgeing you for your mistakes.
2006-09-04 17:23:50 · answer #7 · answered by Your's Truely 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont live in a small town but young girls just get pregnant. they seem happy but its not easy and a lot of people just put on a smile because they dont want people to ask questions. its really hard being a young mother, but its ur own fault. y waste time blaming other people and complaining about it when that wont do anything to help the situation. i hope they didnt do it on purpose and i certainly didnt. it just happens and its very unfortunate that it does, but after u have that baby,nothing else matters. u just have to focus on being a good mom
2006-09-04 17:21:59 · answer #8 · answered by jordanthegrouch 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think they aren't upset because they don't know whats about to happen to them. Most young people don't realize how much of them will go into being a parent.
Ive met alot of girls who got pregnant on purpose but claimed they were on birth control. Every year I was in high school there were numerous girls that got pregnant.
2006-09-04 17:34:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they are just young and naive, thinking they are in love and "oh I want a baby"... they arent really thinking of the long run! I had a baby at 18 and before I got pregnant, he & I both wanted it, we did it on purpose. And guess what? He cheated on me when I was 3 months pregnant! Boys will say/do anything to get some booty, including saying those three oh so magical words ...I, love, and you !!!!
2006-09-04 19:12:22 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋