Second date, had a hot make out session, but didn't get to third base. We plan to meet again one week later at the same place and time. The date went great, there was obvious chemistry. I know he is a really busy guy but I gave him my number anyway (dates were always set up in person, not over the phone). He said he MIGHT call if he had time. It's been 5 days, our next date is in 2 days. I am starting to realize that he is not going to call, but I know I will see him again. The chemistry between us is so hot, but I don't know what to think about him not calling.
2006-09-04 10:06:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It IS possible that he is busy (giving him the benefit of the doubt here), but chances are he is scared of the sexual intensity between the two of you and is distancing himself from you. It might have freaked him out and scared him off, or he may simply not know what his actual feelings for you are beyond sexual attraction. Additionally, not calling you is actually pretty rude, especially if you are supposed to see him in two days for another date. If he was interested in starting a relationship with you he should have called to cement the plans by now, which is simple, basic common courtesy. Anything less than that is simply rude, especially if you already made tentative plans in advance. Personally, when he said he MIGHT call, he actually was giving himself an "out" because he already knew he wasn't going to call you. I am not trying to be harsh here, but it has happened to me many, many times in my life, and this is usually the case.
There is no law saying that you can't call him to cement your plans. However, I wouldn't call him with an attitude and ask why he hasn't called. Resist even asking him, which I know will make you nuts (it used to happen to me!), but you have to hold on here. Querying him about why he didn't call will only make him defensive and anxious (as he will know he has been found out), so resist that urge and simply ask him if the date is still on. Make sure you offer some suggestions as to what you would like to do (movies, nice dinner, a play) so that he is not put on the spot to make all the decisions. Ask him to pick YOU up at your house (rather than meeting him someplace) at a specific time. This is the best idea honestly in the event he blows off the date and doesn't show up. And most importantly, if his idea of having a date is to go back to his place or some secluded area simply to make out and go further, consider yourself being used. Sexual chemistry can be incredibly hot and passionate, but sometimes - after the fact - when people have had time to think about it, it does turn people away and they run like hell from it. I hate to say that, but I have been there and it is a lousy place to be.
Hopefully, he really is busy and has simply been too immersed in his life to call you. I also hope that you have a date with him, but don't be surprised if he doesn't return your call (assuming you have left a message if he wasn't there) because that is a sign he can't handle it and you need to move on.
With every good wish it all works out...
2006-09-04 10:31:43 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet Pea 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could mean anything from good to really bad. I have a feeling this guys in some other relationship, maybe even married, and just cant call you but for whatever lie hes telling his partner,can get away for awhile. If this guys this busy he should have a cell phone in which he should have given you his number. Too many unknowns here to really trust him especially since dates are made in person, so no phone records either. The chemistry you think you feel is probably one sided and even if he says otherwise guys lie to achieve their means. Next date, if there is, ask some really hard questions and get some answers to your questions, but be ready for answers you may not wnat to hear. You need to find the real, total truth here before you get really hurt. Good luck
2006-09-04 10:15:47 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok so herez the game plan:maybe he's a little shy of talkin to ya right now after ur make out session, but dont worry the date will go great even though he doesnt call u. like he said, hez very busy. im sure everything's fine dont worry
2006-09-04 10:10:46 · answer #3 · answered by The heartbreaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have made a plan do you not think he will stick to it? If a date has been set then maybe he feels that he doesn't need to call.
2006-09-04 10:09:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need him to call you? If your going to see him then that should be enough. Absents makes the heart grow fonder
2006-09-04 10:24:15 · answer #5 · answered by billking44039 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes guys need to have time to miss you....play it cool and don't be needy...maybe don't show up or at least be a little late to make him wonder....
2006-09-04 10:09:57 · answer #6 · answered by dynamicDee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait to see him again, and ask him then. That way he can't hurry up and hang up with you if he can't answer.
2006-09-04 10:09:41 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Ma'am 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is wrong so find out now.
2006-09-04 10:08:01 · answer #8 · answered by pirateron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT HAPPEND ON THE 2ND DATE YOU DIDNT SAY, I THINK HE GOT WHAT HE WANTED AND THATS THE STORY SORRY..
2006-09-04 10:08:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Just - he's not that into you.
2006-09-04 10:09:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋