Why do men find it difficult to have platonic relationships with women?

Question

AND I DON'T WANNA HEAR THAT IT'S BECAUSE THEY WANNA BONE HER!!!!

Give HONEST answers, please!!

Platonic means JUST FRIENDS.(no romance)

Answer 1

I know! I know!
Pick me!

oh wait... I can't say "bone her"....

... I have no idea! LOL

Answer 2

You might not want to hear that it's because they want to bone her, but more than a few times out of ten that is the case - if not necessarilly at a conscious level, and it is often because the subconcious sexual imperative plays a part that men find it hard to make genuine friendships with women.

That's only one of two main reasons, however, the other being that men as a gender rarely let their guard down to others so to do so at all is rare, and to do so to a woman who half their brain is telling them to do something else entirely to is likely to be a very rare event.

Most times men will try to impress or maintain an image rather than show their real selves for both the above reasons.

On the other hand it is generally possible for men to form genuine platonic friendships with a woman if:

1) The man is gay.

or

2) The man is married/in a stable and unbreakable relationship (with someone else).

or

3) The woman is an ex.*

*Okay, this is not likely because often men will never speak to exes again, let alone form friendships, but in the extremely rare circumstances where a friendship is formed post-relationship it will be a genuine platonic friendship for life because the man has no need to impress or maintain an image for her.

Answer 3

Because they want to have sex;and for men platonic relationship is a waste of time.Macho men never like platonic relationship.Romantic and mature men(their mind), accept both relationships :with and without sex.Good question.

Answer 4

It is "difficult" but not impossible. The problem is that men, according to several studies, think about sex about once every two and a half minutes. So even if they are with a girl who is just a friend they are thinking about what sex would be like with her. Even if she is not what they would consider their "type." This is, of course, a broad generalization. Men and women can be "just friends," but more often than not it is just as Billy Crystal described it in "When Harry Met Sally."

Either that or we are just too shallow to maintain a relationship. lol

Answer 5

Because, men and women are wired differently and men have a difficult time sharing things that women would normally share with other women, they are plain and simple in many ways, men are from mars women are from Venus.

Everything is different, men are visual and do visualize everything, women are different, men are more objective and see things for what they are, the testosterone gets to them and they have urges, they can't just settle for a nice friendship without thinking other things.

Answer 6

In my opinion, I think it's due to a lack of confidence.

If they are confident within themselves, they would welcome the "other sides" point of view.

Which if they were smart, would also help them when they do find that special person they want to be, "more than friends" with.

We're all born with male/female hormones and it's just a matter of keeping in touch with our inner self.
Everyone is trying way too hard and if they would just be comfortable in their own skin, I truly think this world would be a better place.

Answer 7

They feel insecure in a plain relationship, because of the societal pressure he feels, especially in his buddy group. To keep this from happening (he has to either lie about it or feel pain) he go and starts a more physical relationship elsewhere. Such relationships don't get "attacked". So the male feels forced, only secure strong male are comfortable to have friendships through the years without "sexual" strings. And unlike weak males, their friends do not attack them with those painful comments: you're gay, you're scared, a wuss....etc. Those men surround themselves with equally mature males that are emotionally strong and balanced...and healthy.

Answer 8

i have tried very hard-but found only the gay ones-don't try any-thing-i miss my will & grace thing i had going on-but he found a boyfriend-and that's that! my girlfriends i love- but there just to bitchy-to have that thing you find w/ a man-friendship-so if you find that-great-but i don't think it's poss.and when they do try something-what comes out of their mouth is-well why the hell do you think i was friends w/ you so long-or your a tease etc.....now i start off when i find a guy friend-i tell them what it is-or not going to be and they run for the hills-dogs i tell you-can't keep it in their pants...im afraid to look @ them or they'll get the wrong idea....

Answer 9

Men are predispositioned to SPREAD their genes around. Yes, we are all mammals, it's true. Women...trade UP and men spread their genes around. Study biology or watch the discovery channel.

Answer 10

It's not difficult. It's just the matter that that guy hasn't really found the one. Once he finds a girl he is truly in love with he's not going to want to be with someone else. he's going to realize there might be prettier girls out there but he won't ever find a girl that will treat him like his true love will.

Answer 11

Either they are shy, don't like you, or they are attracted to you in a physical way that would make them look like an azz for pretending to be your freind.