I have this so called best friend that I can tell only hangs with me because he knows I got money. He never has anything...He can't keep a job...He always expects for me to pay for his stuff when we go out...He always wants to go out and eat and then expects me to pay...He has borrowed money from me and not paid it back, and acts like nothing happened. I have known him for like 8 years, but i am getting sick of they way he acts. any suggestions.
2006-09-04 09:59:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Haven't you ever heard the phrase: A friend in need is a friend indeed? If you want to keep this friend just pull him to the side. Tell him that you don't want to hurt his feelings or anything, but you are tired of footing the bill for this friendship. Tell him that the give and take relationship is supposed to work both ways. A true and understanding friend will get the point. Just in case he's not you might have to duck.(lol)
2006-09-04 10:08:48 · answer #1 · answered by hot.sassy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try rearranging your schedules so you hang with him during times like inbetween lunch and dinner. Hang out at places where there's less places to spend money.
If he still acts this way, you'll have to confront him about it. a true friend would never do that. If he really needs help, he could get a couseller
2006-09-04 17:04:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should first tell him that you are not his ATM...But, He probably thinks you are fine with buying him all this things, because you haven't confronted him about the situation yet.
And after you do confront him about the situation and he doesn't try to change...you might want to find some new friends. because he wasn't much of a friend in the first place.
2006-09-04 17:09:38 · answer #3 · answered by shycat99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be up front with him. tell him while you enjoy his company, you don't enjoy footing the bill everytime you all go out. It's not fair to you. let him know that if he can't start paying for himself then maybe you all shouldn't be going out.
2006-09-04 17:02:34 · answer #4 · answered by lilgracie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to tell him sometimes they r only there for the money...and when they know u for a while they start exspecting things like that just tell him the truth but in a nice way..u know ...comunication is the best...:)
2006-09-04 17:03:15 · answer #5 · answered by MissSexy0213 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him. tell him everything you just typed in this question and offer your help. if he still acts the same, unfortunantly you'll have let him go. he's wasting you money that could be used for something else
2006-09-04 17:04:17 · answer #6 · answered by jesuspeacekid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer to this question tony.....ditch him!!!!Friendship should be giving and taking...what are you getting?You have heard them say you can do bad on your own....good luck.
2006-09-04 17:03:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't invite him over, and if he shows up, tell him you have a date. I had an in-law like this.
2006-09-04 17:04:03 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Ma'am 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a user. He will use you as long as you allow him to. I do not want to make you upset, but you will have to be the one to either allow it or to stop it.
2006-09-04 17:03:36 · answer #9 · answered by ynda301 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop paying for him if he can't take the hint then kick him to the curb.
2006-09-04 17:04:09 · answer #10 · answered by wondering_lefty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋